Hey Friend, Let’s Talk About Perfectionism

Hey Friend, Let’s Talk About Perfectionism

By Kristina Carrera, LCSW, LAC, DVCS-Anchor of Peace

Hey, I want to talk to you about something I see a lot in people like us who work hard and want to do everything right. Perfectionism. It’s sneaky because it often looks like drive or ambition, but underneath, it can feel heavy and exhausting.

You know that voice in your head that says you should have done better or that your work isn’t good enough? That’s perfectionism talking. It makes you push harder, stress more, and sometimes even avoid things because you’re scared you won’t get it exactly right.

Here’s the truth. Perfectionism isn’t a badge of honor. It’s a trap that keeps us from enjoying the little wins and feeling proud of our progress. It can sneak into every part of life, from work to relationships, and even how we take care of ourselves.

So what can we do about it? One small thing is to start noticing when that voice pops up. Instead of listening to it, you can take a step back and ask, is this really true? Do I need to be perfect to be okay?

Another thing is to give yourself permission to be human. Mistakes are part of life. They help us grow, learn, and even connect with other people because we all mess up sometimes. Try celebrating the little wins along the way instead of waiting for the “perfect” moment.

And if it helps, think about this from a faith perspective. You are wonderfully made just as you are. You don’t have to earn love or acceptance by being perfect. That’s already yours.

I know it’s hard to let go of the idea that everything has to be flawless, but letting yourself breathe and be human is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself. You deserve a life that feels light, not heavy with worry about being perfect.

Remember, progress matters more than perfection. Be gentle with yourself today.

Written 9/28/2025