Hello Dear Friends
I hope you are well
FIRST I WISH TO SAY THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ANYONE WHO LOST A LOVED ONE AND NOT ONLY WIDOWS/WIDOWERS IN SPITE OF THE INITIAL TITLE
SO YOU ARE ALL WELCOME!
I feel very strongly for a while now to create a widow and widower support group
Losing a loved one is very painful but losing a spouse is cruel!
How can one go on when your best everything is gone?
No relationship is perfect and there are issues and ups and downs in every marriage however where there is TRUE LOVE
between spouses and partners, for sure this true love is eternal so that the relationship will go on forever....
Not many understand this and sometimes you feel that everyone around you leaves the room as if there was a corpse in
the middle of the room or as some say a skeleton in your wardrobe....People tend to fear death and to them it is a kind of
bad luck sign they wish to avoid for themselves so if you lost your loved one, you are not someone they like to hang about with!
Also the best of friends are more in a hurry at times to get you back on your feet because with your loss they lost you as well
They lost the person you were and they liked as a friend and somewhere it seems when you are grieving that the best of you
has gone and you have nothing to give So that friends will push you with insensitive words such as Be Strong! Move on!
etc etc This is somewhere because they grieve you in a sense they grieve your friendship and are not patient or have not
much time to accompany you during your grieving....
True friends at heart would instead take time to listen to you when you need to speak and allow you the space you need
to grieve at your own rhythm knowing that it is above our control and we feel in such helplessness that there is nothing
much we can do rather than allowing this storm to break loose inside ....
I also noticed the cold indifference of many whilst others would try on top to take advantage of you aggravating your grief...
Sharks and birds of preys usually fall on bleeding weakened innocents because it is part of their nature to steal and
take advantage of any weakness rather than helping ...
It has always been my second nature to help others so that to me it is a natural reaction in any situation
In a sense it helps me too but in another way it does not....Bouncing back too soon when nobody was there to listen to you
and help you to heal inside is not very wise...
But where to find this genuine true friendship? There are less and less support groups for widows and widowers
If you don't believe me just google it and you will not find many ...
For this reason and because I could not find the help I needed and still need myself I decided that I should create such group
You see, I am a woman of action...I have been doing spiritual humanitarian work all my life since very young for free
So to me when there is a need as a carer I am the one to attend to it
When there is lack instead of complaining I usually try to find the SOLUTION!
And this is the solution....
I hope that many of you grieving will join my group and that others who are not grieving but have the skills to help us will jump in
too....
I am adding this video I made to help connect with our departed loved ones hoping it will help some of you
About the book I am writing FOREVER ONE WITH OUR DEPARTED LOVED ONES
If you wish to join this new support group for widows and widowers please write to me at
lucefleurylevi@universalgracefff.com
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I hope this will help many
Much love to all
sister lucepete
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