CONTENT SAFETY WARNING

For some of you, the pandemic restrictions may mean increased contact with someone displaying domestic/dating/peer violence. 

Thus, I am alerting you of the sensitive nature of the topic this week. 

If you have any concerns about engaging in this portion of the curriculum, please contact me, Dr. Allen, directly and/or contact your school guidance counselor.  She/he/they can alert me of your needs confidentially.

DEHUMANIZATION

“There’s a line etched in dignity. Dehumanizing others crosses that line.” -Brene Brown

David Smith, the author of Less Than Human, explains that dehumanization is a response to conflicting motives. We want to harm a group of people, but it goes against our wiring as members of a social species to actually harm, kill, torture, or degrade other humans. Smith explains that there are very deep and natural inhibitions that prevent us from treating other people like animals, game, or dangerous predators. He writes, “Dehumanization is a way of subverting those inhibitions.”

Dehumanization is a process. It is more than just a lack of civility. Dehumanization expresses a denial of our shared humanity. It has been at the center of every genocide, human rights violations, and other acts of violence. It begins with our language. Dehumanizing language is often minimized as dark humor, locker room talk, or making jokes about a group of people. Groups targeted based on their identity—gender, ideology, skin color, ethnicity, religion, age—are depicted as “less than” or criminal or even evil. The targeted group eventually falls out of the scope of who is naturally protected by our moral code. This is moral exclusion, and dehumanizing language make violence against others possible.

"When we engage in [or allow] dehumanizing language or promote dehumanizing images, we diminish our own humanity in the process." - Brene' Brown

PYRAMID OF VIOLENCE

This graphic shows how things that are said and done on an everyday basis serve as a foundation for other forms of violence. The image helps me to understand how violence keeps happening... Perhaps its because people may hold stereotypes, prejudice and perhaps even bias. These unexamined thoughts and beliefs  may lead to forms of violence.  It's easier to change behavior and promote healthy relationships when we choose to intervene  early... at the lower levels of the triangle. When we choose to intervene [early], we can help to create conditions that are based on equality.

Access the document, "Active bystander".   Being an active bystander is recognizing that something is wrong an doing something about it.  Use this sheet to explore how you might use non-violent tactics to intervene. Focus on de-escalating the situation using the "4D's": Direct, Delay, Distract, and Delegate.

ACTIVE BYSTANDER

An active bystander is someone who not only witnesses a situation, but takes steps to speak up or step in to keep a situation from escalating or to disrupt a problematic situation. An active bystander recognizes when something is wrong and acts to make it right. It can be hard to speak up, so keep reading for ideas of what you can say and do when you see someone being targeted.  

REFLECTION

We are all made up of a mosaic of different experiences and values that create our identity. Because everyone is different, we want to take some time for you to explore your own colors and shapes that make you, you. It’s important to understand yourself, what you want, and how you want it, so that you can communicate that to your friends, family, or partner(s). Take a moment to answer these questions, reflect, and color in your mosaic. In the blank spaces, write in what you wish people knew about you. 

RESOURCES

Black MC, Basile KC, Breiding MJ, Smith SG, Walters ML, Merrick MT, Chen J, Stevens MR. The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Summary Report. Atlanta, GA: National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2011.

Teach consent

Sexual assault response service of southern Maine

Youth online - Maine 

Sexual Consent

Teen Support  text line - NAMI

https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/relationship-abuse-during-quarantine-five-places-to-find-help/

Help for your  parent

Greely Guidance Counselors and Social Workers are here to answer questions and provide support.

Sexual Assault Response Services of Southern Maine     http://www.sarsonline.org/

It's Your Sex Life STIs, Consent, & Healthy Relationships http://www.itsyoursexlife.com/

Young Adult Abuse Prevention Program   http://www.familycrisis.org/yaapp.html