Be an Ally Resources
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For more information, visit www.adl.org/combatbullying
TAKE ACTION. STOP BULLYING
Here are six simple things you can do to be an ally to targets of name-calling and bullying:
Support targets, whether you know them or not: Ask targets what you can do to help and make sure they know they are not alone
Don't participate: Refuse to join in when name-calling and bullying occur and send a message that you are not okay with treating people in mean and hurtful ways.
Tell aggressors to stop: If it feels safe, stand tall and tell the person behaving badly to cut it out.
Inform a trusted adult: Tell an adult who can put a stop to the negative behavior and offer support to the target.
Get to know people instead of judging them: Appreciate people for who they are and don't make assumptions about others based on their appearance or other outward qualities.
Be an ally online: All the rules above are just as important to follow when you are on the Internet, phone or using other electronic devices.
Handling Cyberbullying
Don't feed the trolls-don't react
Have friends stick up for you
Lay low online for awhile
If they cyberbully can't FIND you, he or she can't bully you
Block the cyberbully
If the cyberbully can't CONTACT you, he or she can't bully you
Save the evidence
Report cyberbullying as a last resort
In the moment. . .
Walk Away
Say, "Stop"
Keep Cool
Don't Fight
After the Incident. . .
Tell a friend
Report to an Adult
Over Time. . .
Find Safe Spaces
Practice Responding
Express Your Feelings
Reach Out
Celebrate Kindness.... Think First! .... Teasing or Bullying?
Good-Natured Teasing...
Hurtful Teasing or Bullying...
Involves a playful back and forth between both parties
Is accompanied by a friendly tone of voice and laughter
Is accompanied by affectionate gestures or expressions
Brings people closer and encourages friendships
Sometimes helps to lighten a tense or angry situation
Does not lead to physical confrontations
May be accompanied by an angry tone of voice
may be accompanied by angry body language, such as clenched fists
Continues even when the person being teased shows distress
Continues even when the person teasing knows the topic is upsetting to others
Is sometimes accompanied by showing off in front of others
Dealing with Gossip
Avoiding Being the Target of Gossip
Avoid being friends with the gossips
Avoid being enemies with the gossips
Be neutral with the gossips
Don't spread rumors about other people
Handling Being the Target of Gossip
Every instinct we have is WRONG
Don't try to disprove the rumor
Don't appear upset
Act like the rumor doesn't bother you
Don't confront the person spreading the gossip
Avoid the person spreading the gossip
Act amazed anyone CARES about or BELIEVES the Gossip
"Can you believe anyone cares about that?"
"Why would anyone care about that?"
"People need to find a hobby."
"People seriously need to find something better to talk about."
"Can you believe anyone believes that?"
"Who would believe that?"
"People are so gullible."
"People will believe anything."
"I can't believe anyone would believe that."