by Tim Isbell 5/2011
#evangelism
In my 40's, the Lord clarified his invitation into a life of vocational, pastoral ministry. At the time, I was in the electronics/computer science industry and had been an active Christian for many years. I did about everything there was to do around local churches - except preaching and any significant evangelism. I did not have a seminary education or formal pastoral experience, but I was wise enough to realize that only a feeble (or desperate) church might ask me to serve as their pastor. And such a church would certainly lack any parishioner(s) skilled in evangelism - if they did, they probably wouldn't be a weak enough church to call me. So it seemed axiomatic that I had to develop at least some basic evangelism skills.
I knew that God had not given me the "spiritual gift" of evangelism. But I figured since he was calling me into the pastoral ministry that he must be willing to develop in me some evangelism capability. So in my last few years in industry, I deliberately did what I could to develop this part of my life. Today personal evangelism is my most treasured area. This web page attempts to describe what God taught me.
This material is a good supplement for the sermon series: The Alternate Life.
If you are interested, read on.
Of course, none of these styles excludes the others. Wherever applicable, it's great to use a combination. But here are four techniques to share the Good News in our world.
This is where a Christian with the “evangelism gift” meets someone on a plane and converts them before the plane lands. It is fine for a few, but only about 1 in 14 Christians are gifted this way. I'm not one of them.
Here, Christians invite friends to church programs or other Christian activities designed to present the Good News. These are helpful as part of some people's journey to faith, especially when a Christian brings someone they know pretty well, AND who is at a point where this event intersects with their story. Evangelism events are sometimes effective, but I'm not "wired up" to put on and promote big events or programs that follow a formula. So, from time to time, I've found city-wide evangelism settings helpful, but I must admit this style doesn't work well for me.
This is where we learn a structured presentation and use it to present the Good News. This is not my style either. Canned presentations and brochures are useless for the kinds of people who intersect my life. Don't get me wrong, it is important to have a clear grasp of the core elements of the plan of salvation. And I do look at brochures/tracts to learn from them. But the most compelling "presentation" I ever do is impromptu on a napkin or a scrap of paper.
This is my preferred style, which I sometimes call "Evangelism for the Rest of Us." There is nothing wrong with the three styles above. But if you are looking for an alternative, please consider learning to live a life full of ordinary practices through which the Spirit can work. These are the kind of practices that the Spirit likes to infiltrate in wonderful ways:
Develop social and friendship relationships with unchurched people.
Pray for the Spirit to open windows for spiritual conversations with unchurched people. (In my experience, these happen when people notice 1) that I’m different today than I was in the past, or 2) that I handled something differently than they handle it, or 3) that I’m different in some other way than most people they know.
Look for opportunities to introduce some of them to Christian teachings and community.
Pray and look for opportunities to lead a few into personal relationships with Jesus.
Celebrate the joy of playing any little part as people become fruitful parts of God's Kingdom on earth.
Ordinary Practices are relational acts of kindness we offer to unchurched people. But first, let's look at four essential prerequisites:
This element is essential. As we grow in the Lord, our heart beats more and more like Jesus' heart. People notice that we are attractively different from themselves or others they know. We express joy when good things happen to them or ourselves. We express an enduring faith when bad things happen. We advocate and give resources to the downtrodden. We work for justice for the oppressed. We don't have to bring these things to their attention; the Spirit of the risen Jesus will do that for us. Sooner or later, they will ask why we are different, opening the door for a spiritual conversation. See 1 Peter 3:15-16a.
(Notice: there's a difference between the standard concept of "Jesus as our helper" and "Jesus living his life through us.")
Identify 5-10 FRANs (Friends, Relatives, Associates, Neighbors) by name. Write them on a list and put it where we'll see it often. Pray at least twice weekly for God to BLESS them in one or more of these 5 dimensions:
Body (physical needs)
Labor (career, school, etc)
Emotions,
Social (relations with others)
Spiritual
See the attachment at the bottom of this page for a handy reminder sheet. Especially ask God to open their hearts to spiritual things. Also, invite God to open our hearts and agendas as we interact with unchurched people in the everyday course of life. God honors such prayers and lives the life of Jesus out through our lives. Sooner or later a FRAN will open a door for a spiritual conversation. When this happens, the Spirit guides our response, and we begin to experience the joy of fruitfulness.
While still working in the marketplace, I started using my 40-minute work commute to pray for the meetings of the day and for each person who would be in them. Soon, I noticed people hanging around after meetings to ask private questions—usually about career, family, or marriage. Often, they were pretty open to a spiritual conversation—indeed, that's why they hung around. After the fact, I realized that God used my prayers not only to open the hearts of the people around me but also to make my heart more receptive to those who had previously seemed like interruptions in my workflow.
If we don't know many unchurched people, then we start asking God to help us rearrange our lives so we do. For many of us, our family and the church can easily consume too much of our relational life. If we are to have spiritual conversations with unchurched people, we deliberately foster acquaintances and relationships with them. At present, I interact several times every month in 3 sectors of secular society. One is the neighborhood we live in. It's an upscale suburb of San Jose, CA, and it's full of apparently self-sufficient professionals. But as we get to know our neighbors, we discover the brokenness common throughout humankind. A second sector is the senior golf club at a local municipal course, with about 150 members. The third is a local low-income apartment complex of about 85 units. Robin and I do various forms of Christian social work, and also run weekly Math Coaching programs for elementary through high school students. Deliberately arranging our lives across these 3 sectors keeps us involved with a broad range of unchurched people. In many cases, we are the only or primary Christians these people know.
I really do mean "like." People sense it when they're just a project on our agenda—and people don't like being projects. I really do mean we need to get to the point where we actually like spending time with unchurched people. We're in good company. Jesus likes spending time with unchurched people. Indeed, it's one of the things the religious people of his day didn't like about him! If we don't like some of the unchurched people in our lives, ask God to change our hearts to beat like Jesus' heart. This is a prayer we know for certain God will answer. And soon we discover real joy in our times with unchurched people - just like Jesus did.
Okay, so once we have some unchurched friends and God has prepared our hearts for them, it's time to take a look at the list of...
Giving away our attention is today's "cup of cold water." See Matthew 10.42.
Free attention giveaways. We build enough “margin” into our lives to spend unscripted time with people. When they begin to share something of their life with us, we have time to listen—really listen. We immediately set aside whatever else is on our mind and enter fully into the “receive mode," only asking questions for clarity. We pretend we’re being paid by the minute to listen!
Prompted attention giveaways. As we pray for opportunities to give attention to unchurched people, God brings them into our lives. When someone shows up, we take the initiative to ask an open question—then we completely give away our attention for the next few minutes. We ask open questions like:
What’s an ordinary day/week look like in your life?
How are you feeling these days… really?
How are your kids doing? (remember their names/situations for next time)
What surprises you about getting older?
As a 12-year-old, what did you want to become?
What was the hardest part of raising your kids?
What are the high points of the past week? Low points?
What are you learning these days
What are you reading these days?
Remember birthdays, anniversaries, the date a spouse died, and so on. Do this with a phone call, card, or small gift. Contact them when they are sick; maybe take them soup or something helpful. Perhaps visit them in the hospital, or send them a get-well card.
Attend an event that is meaningful to them, such as a child's ballgame, play, recital, wedding, or funeral, or a birthday get-together.
Identify a specific aspect of them and affirm it with a note.
Identify something they are good at and something you’d like to learn, and ask them for some tips.
Say “Wow, way to go!” a lot!
Attention giveaways surprise people in very pleasant ways and create genuine connections.
Secret Prayer Giveaways. Without telling the person, start praying for them daily/weekly. Then check in with them periodically to see how things are going and adjust your prayers. If an opportunity arises to let them know you're praying for them, tell them so.
Offered Prayer Giveaways. When someone shares a need ask, “Is it okay if I pray for you in this area over the next week (or month)?” If they consent - and my experience it that virtually everyone gladly consents - then do it. It means more to them than we probably expect. I don't usually pray for them right there in their presence, but if the situation feels okay to do this I go ahead and say a short prayer
Outcome. We’ll run into God more frequently than we imagine. We’ll notice an increase in “coincidences.” And we’ll create opportunities to stay connected to people we pray for.
Continue praying for them for the time you promised. Make it a point to check with them along the way to see how it’s going and if anything has changed. If it feels appropriate, offer continued prayer.
Notice someone’s life situation and offer them a resource that they need. Give away some time to help them with a project. Give away some of your expertise. Loan them a tool. If appropriate, offer to pray for them as described in the previous section. Resource giveaways help stay connected.
Offer to read a book of the Bible together, and meet to discuss in a couple of weeks. Try doing this without walking the person through a printed curriculum. For ideas on this, look at the Story-Line Plan in the Bible Reading Plans link.
Offer to meet periodically to talk about life. As we do this, we’ll discover how easy it is to have a spiritual conversation without any "canned curriculum."
Log some time with unchurched people doing purely social things – things you both like to do. These do not need to have any spiritual content; they are just things you both enjoy.
God brings people into our lives in 4 relational spaces:
Public (people who are more than 12’ away from us).
Social (people who inhabit the space between 4’ and 12’ from us)
Personal (those with whom we are comfortable between 18” and 4’ from us)
Intimate (the few we allow within 18”).
Many who briefly intersect our lives never intend to get closer. It is not our job to convert everyone into a personal or intimate friend so we can give them a glimpse of God. It needs to be okay for people to remain in our Social Space, or in our Public Space. Besides, we only have enough time for a few Personal and Intimate friends. Whenever an opportunity to intersect with someone arises, God wants us to nudge them toward him—without feeling guilty for not nurturing this person into our Personal or Intimate Spaces.
The vocabulary of Ordinary Practices is that of a Public or Social Space. Jesus-people do not speak pushy, personal words – these are words of Personal or Intimate Spaces. We speak inquisitively, safely, and publicly. We use standard, non-private, non-religious language that helps people relax and be themselves.
We count every positive interaction as an Ordinary Practice offered to God for whatever use he thinks is appropriate. For us, the Spirit living the life of Jesus through our lives turns the ordinary into extraordinary. It is the flesh of the scripture, “I was a stranger and you invited me in.” We do not invite strangers in for intimacy; we invite them to no longer be strangers.
For more on this, read The Search to Belong by Joe Myers.
Several years ago, I read an excellent book on personal evangelism: Living Proof, by Jim Petersen. It included a very helpful chart describing the typical steps people take on their journey to Christian faith. It is also an excellent guide for praying for our FRANs as they continue their journey. Click on Journey to Faith for my adaptation of Jim Petersen's chart.
This is the simplest napkin-level explanation of Christian faith I've seen. All the religions of the world can be spelled with just two letters: DO. By this, I mean that following that religion is following a list of DOs. But Christian faith is spelled differently; it's spelled: DONE. Christian faith isn't about what we can do for God; it is about what God has already DONE for us. It's for us to receive. To see this explanation carried out on a napkin in under 2 minutes, click on DO-DONE.
Becoming an Authentic Christian includes two stories that I have used countless times to communicate the good news of Christian faith. The one about LaGuardia as a New York judge illustrates the concept of God's forgiveness. The second story about Blondin walking a tightrope across the Niagara Falls helps people understand the concept of trusting Jesus.
Occasionally, God opens a door for me to share my own spiritual journey briefly. Usually, the window of opportunity calls for a 2-minute version. Somewhere along the way, I picked up the concept of following the format: Before/Christ/After. By this, I mean I give a brief description of a significant item in my life before I gave it to Christ, then describe the entrance of Christ, and then describe my life after surrendering this area to Christ. For some examples, click on Before/Christ/After.
I keep a list of helpful scriptures tucked in the back of my Bible. Mostly, I use it to help me zero in on a passage of scripture when visiting a hospital patient, but it also includes my "short-list" of helpful scriptures for people who want to know how to receive Christ into their lives. At least for me, here are the scriptures I find most helpful in personal evangelism: Luke 15.10, John 1.12, Romans 3.23-26, Romans 8.15-17, Romans 3.23... 6.23... 10.9-13 (the Roman Roman Road), 2 Corinthians 5.17, Galatians 4.4-7, Ephesians 2.8-10, 1 Timothy 2.3-6, Titus 3.3-7, 1 John 1.8-9. For a printable Word file of my entire Scripture crib sheet sized to fit in my Bible, click on Visitation Scripture List.
Several years ago, when I started using this personal evangelism style, I noticed that many "investigators" had the same questions. So that I wouldn't have to think through the question each time, I began cataloging questions along with my best thinking at the time. I still have the list in a long, somewhat raw file, which I'm slowly polishing. You can view and download it at Tim's Christian FAQ's. Comments welcome.
Early in my ministry at New Life, I gathered a group of laypeople to help me develop a curriculum suitable for new Christians and for people returning to faith after a long absence. You can find the first one on this website at Becoming an Authentic Christian. I figured these same people almost immediately would need a few other basic teachings, so we also developed: Learning to Pray, Overcoming Temptation, Believer Baptism, and Communion. You can find all of these in the Christian Teachings section of this website. Also, it is essential to connect a person with some form of Bible reading or study as soon as possible. I especially recommend the Story-Line Plan outlined in the Bible Reading Plans section of this website.
Here are some links to a couple of series and several one-shot sermons that I've preached in this general area of Ordinary Practice Evangelism:
Sermon Series: Good News for Everyone
Year A 3Easter: A Not So Ordinary Walk
Year A, Proper 10: Farming 101 - the Soil
Year A, Proper 10: The Farming Life
Year B, Proper 12: The Grand Partnership
Sermon Series: The Alternate Life.
Teach 2012 was held in Vacaville, CA, on February 4, 2012. In the Adult track, I led the 2nd session, framing it with the material on this web page. This conference was designed to prepare attendees to not only personally grow from the experience, but also to take the material home and re-present it in their own Districts and zones. To make it easier for anyone assigned to present this material, I've attached my PowerPoint file and the Session handout at the bottom of this page. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk through any of this.
Harney, Kevin G. Organic Outreach for Ordinary People. Zondervan.
Henderson, Jim. A.K.A. Lost. Waterbrook Press.
Myers, Joe. The Search to Belong. Zondervan.
Petersen, Jim. Living Proof. NavPress. There is also a videotape (yes, it's that long ago) that is a great supplement to the book.
Sjogran, Steve, and Ping, Dave. Outflow, outward-focused living in a self-focused world. Group.
Sjogran, Steve, and Ping, Dave, and Pollock, Doug. Irresistible Evangelism, Group.
Sweeten, Dr. Gary. Listening for Heaven’s Sake. Equipping Ministries International, www.equipmin.org.
I have never led anyone to Christ on my own. In every case, God provided me with a place on his team. Part of this team is a local church, and especially one where discipleship happens. I don't expect every person I reach out to to need to attend, or even visit, my local church. But if they are to grow in Christian faith, they need to connect to an authentic, local church near their residence.
Blessings, Tim