Parent Resources

Welcome to a collection of resources gathered just for parents of gifted children here in 4J!

Below you will find various links to helpful websites  that support parents of gifted children. TAG kiddos have unique needs that need to met in order to thrive in life, and it's more than just academics! Coaching our own children as they: navigate school, self-advocacy, embrace productive struggle, manage perfectionism, emotions and mental health challenges specific to gifted kids, cultivate healthy friendships - it all matters! If you don't see a topic listed below that you are looking for specifically, please reach out to me at mendelssohn_j@4j.lane.edu and I can help you find what you need. I'm here to partner with you and your child to encourage a love of lifetime learning.

Parents: Are you looking for a rock solid definition of giftedness? 

The organization, Gifted Research & Outreach (more about GRO if you scroll) favors the Columbus Group definition of giftedness, and you might appreciate it as well because it takes into account our current understandings of this population of learners, and it's rooted in compassion: 

“Giftedness is asynchronous development in which advanced cognitive abilities and heightened intensity combine to create inner experiences and awareness that are qualitatively different from the norm. This asynchrony increases with higher intellectual capacity. The uniqueness of the gifted renders them particularly vulnerable and requires modifications in parenting, teaching, and counseling in order for them to develop optimally.”

(Notice the word "achievement" is not included.... 'Sure makes you think!)

SEL/Mental Health Information and Resources Specific to the Needs of TAG students:

Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted - SENG

This site is an excellent resource for both parents, counselors, and teachers who are supporting gifted students beyond their academic needs. It's a well-developed site that offers a wide array of articles, research, and strategies that work. Click HERE or their logo above to access their homepage.

For those working in the field of Gifted Ed., SENG is considered an excellent resource.

The Davidson Institute For Profoundly Gifted Students

Originally, The Davidson Institute was started as a way to support and nurture those children who would be categorized as "Profoundly" gifted, which is more rare among those with a TAG identification. From their site, "We serve profoundly gifted young people 18 and under. Profoundly gifted students are those who score in the 99.9th percentile on IQ and achievement tests. This population thinks and learns differently than other students." Even though Profoundly Gifted students are their focus, many of their resources are a good fit for any TAG family.

Their site had a section dedicated to the social-emotional needs of profoundly gifted students, but their guidance can be useful for a broader audience of gifted learners and their parents as well. Clicking their logo above will get you to their homepage. Lots of scholarship opportunities too!

Hoagies' Gifted Education Page

This site claims to be "All Things Gifted Education" - and they're right! Although the style of the page looks a little dated with the graphics and text, it is PACKED with a plethora of resources for parents, teachers, and gifted students. 

Specifically, their Parent Page has a good deal of information for parents trying to better understand and support the social-emotional needs of their TAG child. They have a list of books they suggest for parents and a ton of resources for your child to access from home to feed their curiosities and varied interests. It really has something for everyone.

Book & Podcast Recommendations for Parents of Gifted Children:

We know emotional intensities and overexcitabilities are very much a reality for many gifted children. Sometimes these intensities are helpful and inspiring, and sometimes they can be crushing. We can all use some extra guidance so we can better support this population of students with their intensities, and perhaps Christine Fonseca's words will inspire new strategies to use at home. This book has 4.5 out of 5 stars on Amazon.

You may already have a copy of this highly recommended, award winning read, but it is still worthy of an additional mention for those that have not heard of it. Although it's a few years old (updated version coming soon), the four authors have decades of combined expertise and offer sound advice to help parents navigate a wide range of issues specific to raising a gifted child.

Lisa Van Gemert is a nationally recognized expert in the field of Gifted Ed. and has written a book that targets the great killer of joyful learning for children: their own perfectionism! As a mother of three highly gifted sons, she's been down a similar road as you and has excellent ideas for how you can help your child develop a growth mindset and embrace productive struggle. Lisa's writing is inviting and fun to read, and her advice applies to all ages.

We are all complex human beings with different traits and behaviors that can be difficult to understand. Throw in a giftedness label and it can all be overwhelming for a parent as well as the child. This book helps parents understand the what and why of misdiagnosis and what to do to better support their child so they can thrive. Parents of Twice Exceptional (2e) children will certainly appreciate this book written by a collection of experts in the field of Gifted Ed. and beyond. 

This book by Nancy Heilbronner might actually be at the top of the list for a number of good reasons. The author is a mother of gifted children and is an expert in the field of Gifted. Ed. This book takes a different approach to advising parents by getting right to the heart of what does NOT work - plus, her own children, now grown, contribute to the chapters about their own experiences! We need to check ourselves when it comes to how we speak to our gifted kids because words matter more than we realize, especially with highly sensitive kids with a propensity for perfectionism. "Praise their efforts, not their achievements."

Although it may be missing some of the  more recent releases,  Judith Halstead's anthology of 300 recommended books for gifted kids provides many excellent examples of works more advanced learners can connect with and enjoy. From the description, "Because gifted students often intensely identify with characters in books, it is important for them to read well-written books with complex characters and plots. When the characters in the books face some of the same issues and concerns that the gifted reader is facing, the child gains new insights into his or her own problems or worries, as well as potential ways of handling them." This book come highly recommended as a collection of MANY great independent reading choices.

If you are the parent of a neurodivergent gifted kiddo (and that is probably the majority of you),  Emily Kircher-Morris has just the podcast for you.  The topics for each episode vary widely, but all of them will be of interest to any parent of a child with twice exceptionality.  It is encouraging to know that there is such fantastic, expert help out there for parents whose child doesn't "fit in the box"... 



One of the newer podcasts dedicated to the topic of giftedness, this series of episodes from  Jill Hartsock and Jessica Mullin cover a wide variety of topics within the gifted world. With their combined experience of 40 years in Gifted Ed., these hosts offer insights into everything from acceleration to advocacy, research to perfectionism, and even the controversial topic of the label-- the "G" word: Gifted. 

Links to Articles That Dive Deeper Into the Concept of Giftedness  

Looking for current brain research focusing on giftedness?

The mission statement of GRO is to promote a comprehensive and accurate understanding of giftedness through research and outreach. Their work is two-fold with one focus being managing, funding, and distributing scientific research and key studies pertaining to giftedness. The other focus is promoting understanding giftedness through lectures, written material and trainings. They have a library  "where the public can find material ranging from scientific studies on gifted physiology to articles that help parents and professionals better understand and meet the unique psychological, educational, and emotional needs of gifted individuals." Some of the most current gifted research can be found through GRO. 

Click the image above to access GRO's  list of mythbusters.

Let's Clarify Some Common Myths About Gifted Children, Shall We? GRO Can Help.

There are numerous myths about gifted children and some antiquated thinking out there that still persists. Stereotypes about "these kids" abound, and the assumptions made by even well-meaning adults can cause harm. One way to change this is through parent education and professional development. We can update our thinking about TAG and base it off of current research by national and global experts in the field of Gifted Ed. This list is adapted from writings found on the NAGC website (National Association for Gifted Children), SENG, and Hoagies Gifted (both mentioned above).  Feel free to share the myth-busting in this article with whoever will listen. 

Check Out Super Cool Research on the Neuroanatomical & Physiological Differences in the Gifted Brain! 

Clicking on the blue brain above will take you to a fascinating literature review of the current  research outlining how the physiology of the brain of gifted people is different from  most others. The reason it's important to understand is, "so that society does not continue to misdiagnosis and therefore mistakenly prescribe treatments that could undermine the physical and psychological development of this outlier population. We also believe that just as the study of cancer and HIV led to significant advancements in many seemingly unrelated areas of medicine, social services and education, the increase in understanding of giftedness will contribute to the understanding of all individuals."  

Let's Dive Into Dabrowski's Five Overexcitabilities With Ian Byrd!

Whether you are an educator or a parent or both, once you dive into his website you will LOVE all things Byrdseed created by Oregonian Ian Byrd, a Gifted Education Specialist. His website is packed with amazing resources for students, parents, and educators who are trying to keep the spark of curiosity alive so students thrive. Hey, that rhymed. 

If you click his logo above, it will take you to an introductory article that describes five unexpected traits of gifted students, or overexcitabilities - a term coined by legendary Polish psychiatrist and psychologist Kazimierz Dabrowski. He's also the creator of the very complex "Theory of Positive Disintegration" which is the idea that as humans continue to develop psychologically over time,  they become disillusioned with their current level of development which then compels them to reach and reintegrate at a higher level. It's also connected to what we see in many gifted individuals - "existential crises". 

The five overexcitabilities (OEs) are as follows: Psychomotor, Sensual, Intellectual, Emotional, and Imaginational. There is a plethora of information about Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities online. Google away! In the meantime, click the logo above to enjoy an introductory article by the amazing Ian Byrd.


Local Enrichment Resources For TAG Kids Right Here in Our Community:

The University of Oregon's Museum of Natural History is a wonderful place to satisfy those brains who love all things of the natural world and of the past! Sometimes they host school field trips as well.  They have Adventure Packs, family tours, group tours, inquiry based investigations, etc...  What a great way to see natural history of our area up close and in person!

If you have a budding novelist or a bibliophile on your hands, it might be a good idea to check out the enrichment opportunities with Young Writers Association here in Eugene! They have number programs to support the growth of your young creative writer. They've held Lively Literature Camps, Teen Outdoor Writing Camps,  as well as teacher workshops and Family Art Parties. If you and your child are hungry for a creative connection, you might try YWA.

I've heard only amazing things about this after school math enrichment opportunity called Math Is Magic! This is a place for your eager mathematician to explore math at an even deeper level. And guess what? It's FUN! They hold group and private math lessons and also offer scholarship opportunities.

Are you raising present or future Thespian? If so, The Rose Children's Theater might be just the place for your child to thrive in the creative world of theater and find their tribe. They hold Summer camps and off season workshops along with their big productions. They've produced shows like Moana Jr., Into the Woods Jr., Shrek the Musical Jr., etc... 

SPICE Science Camp for middle school aged girls provides summer camps and science outreach to support girls developing science identities and interests. Started in 2008, SPICE Camp is a UO supported program designed to engage young women in the sciences through hands on experimentation. Registration for 2023 Summer SPICE Camp opens March 1st. Topics may include Maker Projects and Forensic Science.

From the planetarium, STEM exploration activities, to no-school day workshops, to Tot Discovery Days, The Eugene Science Center has something for everyone of all ages, abilities, and interests. There are hands on, interactive exhibits that children can interact with to nurture their curiosity, as well as educational programs and field trips. You'll find yourself likely wanting to become a member and support their work after you visit!

Connected Lane County is a mission-driven organization striving to improve outcomes for underserved youth in Lane County. Our core programs include Elevate, which creates career-connected learning opportunities for youth; Navigate, which offers a variety of case management services to youth facing significant barriers to success; and Spark, which brings community, education, & industry together through innovation, education, and hands-on learning. Kids looking for access to support for their innovative talents may find their place with Spark.

 Sometimes, all that intensity, musicality,  and high energy needs a vocal outlet and a sense of community! Involvement in the Oregon Children's Choir might be an excellent fit for your child. From their site: "The Oregon Children's Choir has served kids in Lane County for almost 40 years. ​They offer excellent singing opportunities for kids in kindergarten through senior year in high school. Rehearsals and performances are in-person and registration for all choirs is open! New choristers are welcome to join at the beginning of each term (September, January, and March) and can attend one free rehearsal." This program gets many rave reviews from parents & children.

SIX Possible Profiles of Students Who Are Gifted:

The Oregon Department of Education's TAG Specialist, Angela Allen, has been sharing these profiles with educators all across the state of Oregon. "The Successful" student is the most easily recognized TAG student and the most commonly identified. Did you know the other profiles can also indicate giftedness? Through education and awareness we can dispel myths and undo commonly held stereotypes that have been around for decades. 

Because we know that human beings are incredibly complex and truly unique, it's wise to view these profiles with some flexible thinking. Gifted children can fit into more than one of these profile categories, of course. Some may align only with a portion of the listed traits, etc... The point of these six profiles is to help parents, educators, and counselors see how varied giftedness can be and how some gifted students can elude us because of our preconceived notions and antiquated beliefs.

Note: The "At-Risk" profile will likely be renamed because of the deficit connotations of that label.