Feeling irritable or agitated is a common experience in grief. I will treat myself with compassion, acknowledging that the root of feeling irritable may be because my heart is wishing that things were different or that I didn't have to experience this pain.
I may be feeling agitated because I feel powerless and angry that I am not able to do anything about my feelings. When I feel agitated I will check in with myself to ask what it is that I wish was different.
Agitation may be an emotion I am experiencing because I want to avoid having unpleasant thoughts. I will be a kind friend to myself and acknowledge my feelings.