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conflict@rebellion.earth

Hello and welcome to this website.

This website was created by members of the XR UK Transformative Conflict Team during 2019 and 2020. This explanatory note was written in April 2022. At that time, not all of the information on this website is up to date.

Members of the XRTC from 2021-2022 (a different cohort, with some crossover with the previous cohort) were inspired to create a standalone bank of Conflict Resources, building on and expanding some of the content found here, including some tools designed specifically for XR. Please follow this link for that website.


OUR XR UK TRANSFORMATIVE CONFLICT AGREEMENT

Many of us in XR have at some point experienced a lack of trust and connection, or difficulties collaborating with other rebels. Conflict can feel like stress, frustration, pain or confusion. We might be longing to be listened to, or for something to change... but we don't know where to go to make that happen.

Homes all over the world have a room set up for cooking and another for sleeping. We have these in place because we know that we get hungry and tired every day. In the same way, a conflict “room” is vital to any community. An agreed way to deal with conflicts, that we all know is there, ready and waiting for when we naturally and inevitably clash or disagree.

We can think of this system as our compost toilet that we've set up as a community. If there’s no toilet set up, the house will get unpleasant and messy.

We don’t just want to flush away uncomfortable conflicts, we want to transform them into something useful for everyone. Our conflicts can tell us a lot about ourselves, the health of our teams or movement, and what we might need to change. A transformed conflict can enrich XR’s soil and grow our collaboration and trust.

This website displays the community-owned agreement that was built from the collective wisdom of rebels. It sets out to answer: How do we in XR UK wish to collectively respond to conflict when it arises? What would it look like to deal with conflict in a way that is aligned with our principles and values and that we can truly be proud of?

It seems we all wish to have support and processes ready so that rebels can try resolving their own conflicts, by creating mutual understanding and agreements on next steps.

The purpose of the Transformative Conflict team is to hold this agreement and to integrate feedback so it continues to meet our needs.

DEALING WITH CONFLICT WITHIN YOUR GROUP

If we’re feeling stuck, uneasy, annoyed, hurt, angry, or overwhelmed, this might be a sign that something isn’t working so well. When we notice these tensions arise in us or in others around us, we can deal with them within our own group by using one or more of the following options:

Emotional support and listening can be some of the first steps. Setting up regular Feedback Meetings is a helpful way for groups to air tensions and find ways to work better together. Making agreements in advance on how to deal with difficult situations can help, too, as can appointing a Conflict Supporter in the team.

INITIATING A CONFLICT PROCESS

When more support is needed, any rebel can initiate a conflict process that would be supported by a conflict facilitator, by emailing: conflict@rebellion.earth.

When an email is received, someone from the TC team will email or call you back within three working days to figure out next steps.


THE CONFLICT PROCESS

The purpose of the process is to find ways forward that work for all the people involved in a conflict. The facilitator is there to be on everyone’s side, guide the process and support rebels to transform their conflicts themselves.

Initial Meetings - facilitators have one-on-one conversations with everyone involved to listen to what’s important to them, explain the process and check if they want to go ahead with it.

The Circle - a dialogue space where people involved come together and facilitators support everyone to express themselves, listen, and be listened to, preferably with the outcome of clear agreements on how to move forward together.

Review Meeting - a set time after the Circle to look over agreements together to see what has or hasn’t been followed, celebrate what’s worked and change what’s not working.

SPECIAL CASES

There are special cases where different attention and different processes are needed, and we are learning more about this through ongoing feedback. In some situations it might also not be healthy or helpful for someone to take part.


JOIN THE CONFLICT FACILITATION POOL

This conflict system needs diverse facilitators from throughout the movement. If you feel the transformative energy and would like to join the pool of conflict facilitators, in this form you can find out more. When we have another training lined up, we'll message you to invite you to apply.