Terms coined mainly because I needed one of these for myself. I have a vague defintion for it to give room for different experiences: basically where you would identify as a girl/boy if you were not intersex. May be in relation to being inte(r)gender/advenagender or apart of an inte(r)gender/advenagender experience.
Absentgirl is for those who would or think they probably identify as a girl if they were perisex and absentboy is for those who would or think they probably would identify as a boy if they were perisex. Absentgender can be used as the blanket term (and as I am making this vague, I would not mind if people made their own terms and identities based on this under what would be the absentgender umbrella).
Peach chosen for the absentgirl flag as it is between pink and orange, pink a color assigned for girls and orange, a non-gendered color; and mint chosen for the absentboy flag as it is between blue and green, blue a color assigned for boys and green, a non-gendered color. General absentgender flag made later and is made a shade of purple as it looks close to grey, grey being something that goes well with being absent, and purple being an intersex color.
It is called absentgender because it is the gender that is absent for the person with the experience.
Coined June 28th, 2022 with general flag made March 23rd, 2024.