Q.85

If, during conflict with another, you give time, space and understanding but only encounter stubborn resistance in the form of a continual statement of personal aggrieved feeling, then you are dealing with ego blindness and the only thing to do is to laugh, concede defeat, and walk away. (L8)

Providing you walk away with forgiveness and understanding of their controlling ego, you may have conceded defeat but you gained a victory over self and refrained from introducing negative vibrations into your consciousness field.(L8)

The very worst thing you can do to promote discord is to tell a person ‘they shouldn’t feel a certain way’ or ‘they do not mean what they are saying’. These two sayings are a gross violation of the dignity and respect due to the other and you have rejected the ‘human reality’ of the other person. (L8)

You may question a person:

‘Do you really mean what you are saying?’  If the answer is ‘yes’ then it must be accepted and the discussion should continue from that point. (L8)

Never ignore what another person is trying to tell you because you do not want to face up to what is being said. This is cowardice and gives points to your ego. Be brave and listen – with both ears open to receive the truth behind the words. (L8)

You must accept the ‘reality’ of a person – whether you agree with it or not, even if a facet causes you shock or displeasure. (L8)

Remember, you do not know the full circumstances out of which that human consciousness has grown into its present form. (L8)

If you judge, criticise, condemn in any way, you have erected a barrier between yourself and that person which will not be removed, no matter how much you may wish to overlook everything negative in him and become friends in the future. (L8)

Unknowingly, what you reject in him will remain in your consciousness as a foundation for future discords which will build up and eventually outweigh the affection. (L8)

Unwittingly, you will say things in the future reflecting your underlying secret mistrust or displeasure. Instead of accepting his weaknesses with love and helping him deal with and overcome them, you will put him on his guard against you and he will never fully trust you. Your ego and his ego will have had a secret battle which neither of you will be aware of consciously. (L8)

Love could turn to hate. (L8)

Remember – your life is a STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS in which thoughts and feelings are deposited as in a safety box. (L8)

Let acceptance and caring be the steel of which the box is made. (L8)

When you have an encounter with someone to whom you are drawn, if only in friendship, and you discover that there are elements in his past which are contrary to your principles – you have the option:

• to remain in contact with him, fully accepting his past, and possibly in future situations pointing out the characteristic logically and lovingly, helping him grow, or if this is impossible, (L8)

• promptly removing yourself from the situation until you can see his problems from the perspective of loving acceptance inspired by Divine Consciousness and you find him receptive to your principles. (L8)
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You must never accuse a person of acting out of an ego-impulse. (L8)

All human beings are ego-driven to a greater or lesser extent. (L8)

Never take a stance which will humiliate another! (L8)