Teaching Kids to Have Empathy for Others
Empathy is a strange and wonderful quality that humans can possess. Nevertheless, a very few people in a bunch would know how to give or receive empathy. All of us, at any stage in our lives, expect someone to step forward to show empathy to us. But since there are not many people who would have empathy in their hearts, this attitude remains high in demand.
So, we can say that raising the next generation in a way that they would have empathy in their hearts is an absolute necessity.
What empathy really is?
People usually confuse sympathy and empathy. One thing which is common in both is that both involve development of caring attitude towards other people. While sympathy mainly involves a desire to help someone due to his/her needs, empathy is basically a step forward. Empathy involves caring for the others and, at the same time, respecting their shortcomings and inabilities.
Kids need the role models
This way of teaching kids the empathy is amazing. When you realize that you need to be a role model, you try to be empathetic to the others so that your children will learn from you. While many children are naturally gifted with the ability to show empathy even to the ones who seem to be mean, most of the children need to learn this amazing behavior from their elders.
The emotional needs of children
You definitely want your children to be empathetic to the others. But you will first have to make sure that they are emotionally fulfilled. If they are not receiving enough attention and love from your side, they are not going to be empathetic to the others. However, when their emotional needs are fulfilled, there are two positive results that happen. First is that they learn about fulfilling the emotional needs of people around them. Second, they develop the desire to be good to others because they would also want other people to be happy as they are. It is like a filled jug which is ready to fill a glass.
Talking to the kids about emotional needs
Most of the adults find it hard to talk about emotions when they need to talk to the close ones. Hence, they end up being unsuccessful in assuring other person that everything is going to be alright. The major reason for this lack inside them is that they wouldn’t have this emotional support from their parents during their childhood.
So, when you see that your child is emotionally upset, try to get near him/her and talk about positive emotions. You can assure your child that he is going to get over this emotional disturbance because their things are not above the ordinary. Nevertheless, you will have to make sure that you are not degrading the child by denying the emotional disturbance entirely. You will need to acknowledge and you will have to tell him that these things happen.