Tips for the Parents to Be Resilient
There has been a lot of discussion about how to make the kids resilient. But very few people actually ask about installing resilience in parents. Parenting kids can turn out to be more than difficult, and it can really drain the parents sometimes.
Now, there are many people in the world who are naturally resilient, and there are a lot who aren’t. But good news is that the ones who aren’t resilient can learn to become resilient. The first thing to consider in this regard is to learn about staying calm where there is pressure. This first step can turn out to be the hardest one but everyone has got the ability to learn this way. The next level is about paying attention to the thoughts and their patterns and replacing those stressful thoughts with the healthier ones. Learning valuable skills can help.
Good news is that it doesn’t take more than 30 days to form such good habits. But, how to start all of this remains a question. So let’s answer the question here.
No matter how bigger stressor is, you need to let it out in order to make a space for the positive thoughts. The best way to start with is to breathe. The easy way is to hold the breath for a few seconds and then release it. When you hold the breath, you actually tend to think about something else other than the urgency of situation. It’s the sense of urgency which can develop stress. And you might have better understanding about how ruining the stress factor can be for the entire situation.
Analyze what you tell yourself
You want to be resilient? You need to have better self-reflection. The moment you get covered in stress and anxiety, you can step back a bit and think about the things that you keep telling yourself. You need to analyze if the thing which you tell yourself is the kindling. This is a wonderful process which lets you think about the wrong things that you tell yourself and get more stressed.
With this practice of self-reflection for a few days, you will surely see a positive change in your thoughts. If you would have the habit about justifying your role in the wrong things happening because of your actions, now you would think about how to make things right.
Get help if it gets out of hand
Although it is good to be a person who takes initiative and remains determinant about accomplishing things on his own, there are the times when you may think about the benefit of having some help. With that said, there are the situations in which it becomes very difficult for anyone to keep up. This is where you can use the help from your close ones. But, you have to make sure that you have tried everything in your power to accomplish the task, and that now is the perfect time to call for a little help. The courage to ask for help is a part of the resilience building process.