Learning and nurturing in a group. How do I choose my children's environment?

Group education and upbringing have been going on since time immemorial. And there are certain reasons for this. Despite the fact that modern school and education system distorted the original idea, the group for the child and his development is extremely important.

Man - a social creature. You can talk as much as you want about misanthropists and emerging trends in life in the hermit style, but the fact remains: nature has put in us a social element, without which we can not become a full-fledged person.

This applies both to realization in life, as well as the formation of character, habits, manners.

The group defines the future.

One man is not a warrior in the field - this is not only about the battles, but also about life itself. In any case, we depend on other people, both in terms of providing ourselves with food, goods and means of protection, as well as in terms of socialization, self-understanding and even such a trivial thing as making money.

Many of you know of a little experiment that's easy to do: name the 10 people you spend the most time with (exactly time). Often these are family, colleagues, and close friends. Write down roughly how much each of them earns and calculate the average - it will be your potential income.

And it's not just about money, but about any other sphere: in a society of artists and entertainers, it's many times easier to become an artist than in a society of miners; just as among businessmen, one would hardly consider a reliable and proven career of a petty office clerk.

Communication is the foundation of all success

In addition to the obvious example a child follows, society and the group around is a testing ground for social networking. Without communication in one form or another, a person can not in principle.

But a person doubly needs communication if he wants to achieve something in life. And we want our children to feel comfortable in this world, right? The source of comfort, safety is communication with other people.

Learning and nurturing in a group solves this problem. From a young age, children are forced to find common ground with their "peers" themselves, to find compromises, to organize games and work processes. It is in group interaction that the ability to conform to the hierarchy of the team or to go against it, to offer ideas, to listen to opinions and to withstand attacks - all the things that await everyone in large numbers in adulthood - is determined.

And again, on the subject of sales: only by communicating and learning the true needs of others is it possible to sell easily, with pleasure, a lot.

• Why is this so important, in my opinion? Because "selling" is not just "peddling" stale rutabagas, but also:

• Offering a unique new product or service (e.g., an author's trip for the whole family);

• Getting an interview at a university or for a position at a prestigious company;

• Building relationships with future business and life partners;

• Communicating with your parents (i.e., you) and children (your grandchildren).

If a child doesn't have this experience, or hasn't been able to build strong relationships in a group, this problem will haunt him for years. And perhaps only at your age will he understand what he lacks and consciously go to study communication.

But why expose your child to this when you can organize a group for communication since childhood? And we're not just talking about school.

Group dynamics: it's fun to walk through space together

The children's song about "Jolly Journey Through the Spaces" has many meanings. And one of them is group dynamics. When several people of any age get together in one group, their work, play and relaxation get a new breath, accelerated.

With children, the only difference is that they know no boundaries, they do not feel tired until they begin to faint or fall into tantrums. Although many adults who have never been taught to relax act in a similar way.

This is why a group of children needs supervision. The mentor, teacher, or parent is obliged to make sure that certain rules are in effect in the group, including on rest and on interaction between the participants. If these conditions are met, then group interaction will allow your child to move many times faster.

Here different factors are added up: competition, support, group intelligence (the solution of nontrivial problems by common efforts), euphoria from new, seemingly unattainable earlier, achievements.

In addition, different elements of the same process are being worked on in the group. Imagine a project on "dinner": the child now sees and participates not only in cutting vegetables, but also in roasting meat, laying the table, washing dishes. This expands his perception, makes him think and appreciate the work of others, because without them, there would be no dinner.

A group for nurturing and learning: children, adults, elders

And one more important thought: the group should not be monotonous and of the same age. Look at your work team or even your relatives: they are not like each other. They have different characters, habits, worldviews.

And if with a child of the same age you can lie on the grass and tell jokes of varying degrees of vulgarity (do not roll your eyes - children learn vulgar jokes before they begin to understand them), but with his grandmother he will behave respectfully (even if he tells her the same joke in her ear).

You need to be able to communicate with different people: it is experience, knowledge, the ability to listen and pick out the important things. Upbringing and education are good when they are versatile.

Not refined, whitewashed by time and boredom school subjects, and living real: the ability to count money, which the child learns from their parents, the ability to communicate with the opposite sex - from their peers or older friends, the ability to catch the moment from old and seen the world grandparents.

If you deprive a child of a group, he will never understand what the world is, what place he himself has in it and what he wants from his life.

And it's insanely painful to live without understanding yourself. It takes years of searching and gifted mentors who don't show up quickly.

Give your child a chance right from the start: teach him in a group, create an environment that will pull him toward heaven. That's the best thing you can give him.

Besides your love, of course.

Invite your friends, their kids. Sign up for clubs and sections (which the child himself chooses). Organize hikes, hanging out together in the park and board game nights. This is a diversified life for you, and the children will give a real unfair advantage in their future life.