So, you are overwhelmed and you are wondering if your little one is in a leap. It's good to determine this as when you know the reasons for a change in behavior it feels more manageable and predictable.
Let's see! Is you baby on a leap?
Can you spot an increase in the ‘three C’s’: crying, clinginess and crankiness?
Has his sleeping pattern suddently change?
His mood is more unpredictable?
Are the existing skills improving? Or regressing?
Is he learning new skills?
Do you see signs of separation anxiety?
Can you spot some changes in his health?
Is he fuzzy when fed?
If you answered yes to all or some of the above questions then it's time to track his development using the customized timeline, available here.
According to the wonder weeks, a mental leap is a period with intense mental development that you baby experiences.
Babies are struggling with 10 mental leaps during their first 20 months of life which are linked to their actual age calculated based on their due date.
These mental leaps are (weeks are calculated based on due date):
Mental Leap 1 - The World of Changing Sensations - Week 5
Mental Leap 2 - The World of Patterns - Week 8
Mental Leap 3 - The World of Smooth Transitions - Week 12
Mental Leap 4 - The World of Events - Week 19
Mental Leap 5 - The World of Relationships - Week 26
***Anxiety separation*** - around Week 28
Mental Leap 6 - The World of Categories - Week 37
Mental Leap 7 - The World of Sequences - Week 46
Mental Leap 8 - The World of Programs - Week 55
Mental Leap 9 - The World of Principles - Week 64
Mental Leap 10 - The world of Systems - Week 75
While your baby is experiencing a leap you may notice changes in one or more of the following: mood, sleep patterns, health, intelligence (acquisitions or regressions), feeding.
Therefore, expect to see increased activities regarding: crankiness, clinginess and crying.
My experience: For me it was amazing to discover all my baby's inner struggles and therefore I started to read more and more.
I found out about the wonder weeks and the progresses she is making, started to understand what I need to do to stand near her and go together through the stormy times.
Your experience: Therefore, I am bringing you the possibility of doing the same by offering you a customized timeline and detailed information for the Wonder weeks development and leaps of your baby along with the growth spurts, sleep regressions and separation anxiety. Just to help you understand what happens when things seem to be out of control and the baby is fussy, wants to be fed or held all the time.
Even if it seems like your baby’s leap will never end, the good news is it will.
Developmental leaps are very variable in length. The shortest ones can be just a week long and the longest are around five weeks. Yep, that feels like a long period of time. But have some patience as you will often find that there will be ups and downs during the long leaps. Some days you wouldn’t know they were in the middle of a leap and other days, you definitely know!
Remember on the tough days that as they say, this is just a phase and this too shall pass.
What you can do for the beginning is to remember that this is just a phase.
Your baby is just going through a lot and is progressing and will be fine again.
Good times will come, leaps are a sign of a normal development, they just mean that your baby is learning and will evoluate.
What you can do:
Ask for help whenever you need a break
Try to stick the normal routine when possible
Don't try to change the sleep routines and associations, just adapt
Give them more physical contact, skin to skin can help
Use a baby wearing system to keep your baby close and try to perform the same usual activities having your hands free
Help them understand about the object permanence: play peekaboo or create a permanence box. This will help them understand that you exist also when he doesn't see you and you will, of course, always return