Iyanla Vanzant
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Vanzant: "I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface."
Vanzant: "I have learned the hard way to mind my business, without judging who people are and what they do. I am more troubled by the lack of space being provided for the truth to unfold. Humans cannot seem to wait for or honor the truth. Instead, we make it up based on who we believe people should or should not be."
Vanzant: "If you don't like your sister or don't get along with your father, let's find out if you like yourself. Let's not sugarcoat anything about it."
Vanzant: "It's about your heart and about your consciousness. It's not about length of time you pray. Some of the most powerful prayers I've ever heard come from children, who can barely speak."
Vanzant: "Comparison is an act of violence against the self."
Vanzant: "I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay."
Vanzant: "All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain."
Vanzant: "In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was 'Help me.' Sometimes a prayer was 'Thank you.' What I've discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away."
Vanzant: "All things are lessons that God would have us learn."
Vanzant: "You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid 'no' muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it's our choice. Your 'no' muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, 'I don't care if that's what you want. I don't want that. No.'"
Vanzant: "I'm focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal - giving them tools to heal."
Vanzant: "Order is the first law of heaven, and you have to have order to survive on Earth. Figure out what has to be done each day, each week, each year and develop a system to achieve it."
Vanzant: "The remedy for life's broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don't try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive."
Vanzant: "We really don't know how to love each other because we haven't really learned to love ourselves. In many instances, not all, it's not malicious. We've just been conditioned to such bad behavior."
Vanzant: "I hope that my story, I hope that my life is... an encouragement for people, especially in Brooklyn. I feel humbled and blessed."
Vanzant: "I try not to set myself up as different or as a celebrity or special. I have a husband that can get on my nerves. I have kids that test my patience. I've got a cat I can't keep off the sofa. It's real. On a bad day, I'm reading 'Acts of Faith.'"