Who I am!
Who I am!
“I'm not really going through that much struggles but most things to me are just a blur. My mental health has just gone downhill ever since last year and I'm not sure what it is but I do want to check it out soon. I also just wish my family were more supportive of my sexuality because my brother and cousin are the only ones who support me. I haven't come out to them but they are homophobic and I have a gf but it's so annoying because I have to hide it and I love my gf. My gf is, of course, supporting and understanding so she fully understands but I just wish I was able to be myself in front of my family. I just know I have to work hard and be able to financially support myself so I can move out and do my own stuff”.
“I'm not really going through that much struggles but most things to me are just a blur. My mental health has just gone downhill ever since last year and I'm not sure what it is but I do want to check it out soon. I also just wish my family were more supportive of my sexuality because my brother and cousin are the only ones who support me. I haven't come out to them but they are homophobic and I have a gf but it's so annoying because I have to hide it and I love my gf. My gf is, of course, supporting and understanding so she fully understands but I just wish I was able to be myself in front of my family. I just know I have to work hard and be able to financially support myself so I can move out and do my own stuff”.
- Anonymous
- Anonymous
You should never downplay or deny your mental issues or concerns, someone is always there to listen, help, and support (including me). With that being said, depending on your family situation, coming out as a member of the LGBTQ community is tough. Some parents and grandparents do not approve of the LGBTQ+ community, and religion may play a role in that. Sometimes, these things can take a toll on families. However, with time, comes healing. I am very glad to know that you have at least a few family members that support you and your ever-changing identity! As you explore who you are as a person, not every person will be receptive to that change, but YOU need to be receptive to that change. Suppressing who you are and what you’re feeling, especially love, is not going to do any good for your mental health, and you don’t need some doctor to tell you that. Honestly, there’s no rush to come out, and most parents have that feeling that you are not straight. Since you can't get up and leave tomorrow, there’s no reason to build tension and fences in your dwelling. Especially during this quarantine, you will be surrounded by your family 24/7, and it’s best to keep the peace, I speak from experience.
You should never downplay or deny your mental issues or concerns, someone is always there to listen, help, and support (including me). With that being said, depending on your family situation, coming out as a member of the LGBTQ community is tough. Some parents and grandparents do not approve of the LGBTQ+ community, and religion may play a role in that. Sometimes, these things can take a toll on families. However, with time, comes healing. I am very glad to know that you have at least a few family members that support you and your ever-changing identity! As you explore who you are as a person, not every person will be receptive to that change, but YOU need to be receptive to that change. Suppressing who you are and what you’re feeling, especially love, is not going to do any good for your mental health, and you don’t need some doctor to tell you that. Honestly, there’s no rush to come out, and most parents have that feeling that you are not straight. Since you can't get up and leave tomorrow, there’s no reason to build tension and fences in your dwelling. Especially during this quarantine, you will be surrounded by your family 24/7, and it’s best to keep the peace, I speak from experience.
So my final word of advice is to take care of you. And that can be anything, it could be having a spa day, meditating, or just buying yourself something really nice. Anything you have to do to make yourself feel good. At the end of the day the people that surround you change, but you will always have yourself. So take care of yourself, nurture her, and stay true to yourself. I wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavors and if you need any more follow-up advice you know where to find me ;)!
So my final word of advice is to take care of you. And that can be anything, it could be having a spa day, meditating, or just buying yourself something really nice. Anything you have to do to make yourself feel good. At the end of the day the people that surround you change, but you will always have yourself. So take care of yourself, nurture her, and stay true to yourself. I wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavors and if you need any more follow-up advice you know where to find me ;)!
Much love,
Much love,
Deborah
Deborah
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