Current Study: Authentic Love
8 week study- "Speaking directly to the hearts of guys and girls, Authentic Love: Christ, Culture, and the Pursuit of Purity exposes cuture's distored messages about purity and love and reveals how God has created us for a lifestyle of personal holiness."
Upcoming: The Case for Christ
Have you ever heard Scripture's truths but wondered where to find those truths in the Scriptures? Or have you ever wondered where to find evidence for belief in God in the Bible?You're not alone. Millions of people have asked these same questions, including Lee Strobel - an atheist who engaged in a thorough search for the truth to decide for himself if Jesus was who he claimed to be. Drawn from Lee's own experiences as a former atheist and featuring his journalistic style from his days as an investigative reporter with the Chicago Tribune, the notes and articles throughout The Case for Christ Study Bible are designed to motivate you to investigate the Bible's claims for yourself.
Love for a Lifetime
3 week study on the elements of achieving a Love for a Lifetime
Week 1- The Keys to a Lifelong Love
Understanding a person's need for intimacy and companionship. Understanding the stages of marital bonding.
Why do so many people get off to a bad start to marriage?
We desire to have a healthy, loving relationship that will last a lifetime.
It is sad to note that 30-50% of you may end up in divorce. (APA)
Only 10-20% will achieve intimacy in marriage. Needs meet. Heart to heart. Soul to soul.
It is an innate need: Popsicle Story
She tried to buy their love and acceptance.
She gave her very best. It was taken. It was not enough.
We are built with a need for intimacy. Need for connection
It is not just young children that have this need.
Vietnam Soldiers. Chinese developed brain washing
Isolating the soldiers, no positive mail.
3000 layed down and died. No evidence of physical disease. Lost the will to live.
God saw this need in Adam. Adam had God to talk to but he still needed companionship.
He needed emotional and psychological needs
That is what marriage is intended for, but it frequently fails to accomplish this.
Dr. Desmond Morris wrote a book called Intimate Behavior
He talks about bonding in the marital relationship
Building the house in 15 minutes. Could not accomplish because not enough time to let the glue to dry.
Bonding is like waiting for the glue to dry
12 stages of marital bonding that you have to walk through in order for intimacy to form
Bonding is defined as a covalent that links 2 people soul to soul
For better for worse, in sickness and health, forsaking all others
Move slowly and systematically. Don't rush
Hollywood rushes through these steps
When you get married, you still have to go through these steps daily
Rascal Flatts- Behind the smile
Hours of conversation. To really get to know someone
Set a plan at the beginning of the relationship
If you have gone too far you can turn it around. It takes a lot of courage and discipline
Do you believe in love at first sight
How can you love someone if you dont know them
You are in love with love, an image, the concept
Define love- It is not a physical condition that changes (like falling in a ditch)
Love is a decision verses a feeling.
Is it important to love someone without feeling it? It is important in a marriage
What is constant is decision to make it work
In marriage the person is not an asset to make you better. When things change you can just leave
Surgeon Dr. Richard Selzer’s “I stand by the bed where a young woman lies, her face postoperative, her mouth twisted in palsy, clownish. A tiny twig of the facial nerve, the one to the muscles of her mouth has been severed. She will be thus from now on. The surgeon had followed with religious fervor the curve of her flesh; I promise you that. Nevertheless, to remove the tumor in her cheek, I had to cut the little nerve. Her young husband is in the room. He stands on the opposite side of the bed and together they seem to dwell in the evening lamplight, isolated from me, private. Who are they, I ask myself, he and this wry mouth I have made, who gaze at and touch each other so generously, greedily? The young woman says, "Will my mouth always be like this?" she asks. "Yes," I say, "it will. It is because the nerve was cut." She nods and is silent. But the young man smiles. "I like it," he says, "It is kind of cute." "All at once I know who he is. I understand and I lower my gaze. One is not bold in an encounter with a god. Unmindful, he bends to kiss her crooked mouth and I am so close I can see how he twists his own lips to accommodate her, to show her that their kiss still works. I remember the ancient gods of Greece would appear as mortals. I held my breath and let the wonder in”
That kind of love and commitment of a man for his wife is so unusual that Dr. Selzer called him a god.
He is not a god. He is just a man that loves his wife more than his own convenience. More than his own pride. He is committed to her for the rest of his life even though she will be unattractive for the rest of her life.
That is bonded love
If you find it in life you are one fortunate person
Opening-You are the busiest teenagers in history. (Video on Instagram and Facebook youth pages)
Why should we hit Pause? Why is it important to be still and silent and get to
know God more?
I. We were created to have a relationship with God
Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our
likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the
birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild
animals,[a] and over all the creatures that move along the
27 So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase
in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in
the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature
that moves on the ground.”
29 Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the
face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed
in it. They will be yours for food. 30 And to all the beasts of the
earth and all the birds in the sky and all the creatures that
move along the ground—everything that has the breath of
life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so.
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one
comes to the Father except through me. 7 If you really know me,
you will know[a] my Father as well. From now on, you do know
him and have seen him.”
Shovel Illustration- What were we created for?
II. God Expects us to Grow Closer to Him
Mark and I have been married 25 years
How ridiculous would it be if?
• I said, I know enough about him, so I will stop talking to him or getting to know him.
• Or I said, I really don’t know much about him after 25 years.
We have much to say about this, but it is hard to make it clear to
you because you no longer try to understand. 12 In fact, though by
this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you
the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need
milk, not solid food! 13 Anyone who lives on milk, being still an
infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about
righteousness. 14 But solid food is for the mature, who by constant
use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.
1 Corthinans 3:1-2
Brothers and sisters, I could not address you as people who live
by the Spirit but as people who are still worldly—mere infants in
Christ. 2 I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet
ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready.
Meme God put us in time out
We can see in the scriptures, this frustrates God. Throughout history He must get
the attention of His children. To draw them back to Him.
Meme- God is frustrated with us, so he put us in time out. (Coronavirus shelter at
III. As God’s Children, we ought to want to live like our Father
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and
walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself
up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Gandhi quote, “I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians.
Your Christians are so unlike your Christ
What derails the spread of the gospel? Hypocritical Christians.
Live up to your name. If you are a Christians live like one. In
order to live like Christ, you must know Him.
You cannot say you are a Christian and put images on snapchat
that make people question.
You cannot say you are a Christian, wear your Now and Catalyst
shirts and then speak in a way that make people feel
uncomfortable and question your faith. Question your God.
want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his
resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like
him in his death, 11 and so, somehow, attaining to the
resurrection from the dead.
12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived
at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ
Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider
myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting
what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on
toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me
heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Do you hear the passion in Paul’s writing? He wants to know Christ more and
more. Nothing will not stop him. Nothing will get in his way.
Do you want to accept the same challenge?
We are in a cocoon. When the caterpillar enters the cocoon, he metamorphoses
into something much more beautiful. He is forever changed. We have an
unprecedented opportunity to emerge from this coronavirus cocoon and be
forever changed. More in love with our God and more like Him. Are you ready to