Lessons

Bible Studies

Current Study: Authentic Love

8 week study- "Speaking directly to the hearts of guys and girls, Authentic Love: Christ, Culture, and the Pursuit of Purity exposes cuture's distored messages about purity and love and reveals how God has created us for a lifestyle of personal holiness."

Upcoming: The Case for Christ

Have you ever heard Scripture's truths but wondered where to find those truths in the Scriptures? Or have you ever wondered where to find evidence for belief in God in the Bible?You're not alone. Millions of people have asked these same questions, including Lee Strobel - an atheist who engaged in a thorough search for the truth to decide for himself if Jesus was who he claimed to be. Drawn from Lee's own experiences as a former atheist and featuring his journalistic style from his days as an investigative reporter with the Chicago Tribune, the notes and articles throughout The Case for Christ Study Bible are designed to motivate you to investigate the Bible's claims for yourself.

Past Studies

Love for a Lifetime

3 week study on the elements of achieving a Love for a Lifetime


Week 1- The Keys to a Lifelong Love

Understanding a person's need for intimacy and companionship. Understanding the stages of marital bonding.

  • Why do so many people get off to a bad start to marriage?

  • We desire to have a healthy, loving relationship that will last a lifetime.

  • It is sad to note that 30-50% of you may end up in divorce. (APA)

  • Only 10-20% will achieve intimacy in marriage. Needs meet. Heart to heart. Soul to soul.

  • It is an innate need: Popsicle Story

  • She tried to buy their love and acceptance.

  • She gave her very best. It was taken. It was not enough.

  • We are built with a need for intimacy. Need for connection

  • It is not just young children that have this need.

  • Vietnam Soldiers. Chinese developed brain washing

  • Isolating the soldiers, no positive mail.

  • 3000 layed down and died. No evidence of physical disease. Lost the will to live.

  • God saw this need in Adam. Adam had God to talk to but he still needed companionship.

  • He needed emotional and psychological needs

  • That is what marriage is intended for, but it frequently fails to accomplish this.

  • Why?

  • Dr. Desmond Morris wrote a book called Intimate Behavior

  • He talks about bonding in the marital relationship

  • Building the house in 15 minutes. Could not accomplish because not enough time to let the glue to dry.

  • Bonding is like waiting for the glue to dry

  • 12 stages of marital bonding that you have to walk through in order for intimacy to form

  • Bonding is defined as a covalent that links 2 people soul to soul

  • For better for worse, in sickness and health, forsaking all others

  • Move slowly and systematically. Don't rush

  • Hollywood rushes through these steps

  • When you get married, you still have to go through these steps daily

  • Rascal Flatts- Behind the smile

  • Hours of conversation. To really get to know someone

  • Set a plan at the beginning of the relationship

  • If you have gone too far you can turn it around. It takes a lot of courage and discipline

  • Do you believe in love at first sight

  • How can you love someone if you dont know them

  • You are in love with love, an image, the concept

  • Define love- It is not a physical condition that changes (like falling in a ditch)

  • Love is a decision verses a feeling.

  • Is it important to love someone without feeling it? It is important in a marriage

  • What is constant is decision to make it work

  • In marriage the person is not an asset to make you better. When things change you can just leave

  • Surgeon Dr. Richard Selzer’s “I stand by the bed where a young woman lies, her face postoperative, her mouth twisted in palsy, clownish. A tiny twig of the facial nerve, the one to the muscles of her mouth has been severed. She will be thus from now on. The surgeon had followed with religious fervor the curve of her flesh; I promise you that. Nevertheless, to remove the tumor in her cheek, I had to cut the little nerve. Her young husband is in the room. He stands on the opposite side of the bed and together they seem to dwell in the evening lamplight, isolated from me, private. Who are they, I ask myself, he and this wry mouth I have made, who gaze at and touch each other so generously, greedily? The young woman says, "Will my mouth always be like this?" she asks. "Yes," I say, "it will. It is because the nerve was cut." She nods and is silent. But the young man smiles. "I like it," he says, "It is kind of cute." "All at once I know who he is. I understand and I lower my gaze. One is not bold in an encounter with a god. Unmindful, he bends to kiss her crooked mouth and I am so close I can see how he twists his own lips to accommodate her, to show her that their kiss still works. I remember the ancient gods of Greece would appear as mortals. I held my breath and let the wonder in”

  • That kind of love and commitment of a man for his wife is so unusual that Dr. Selzer called him a god.

  • He is not a god. He is just a man that loves his wife more than his own convenience. More than his own pride. He is committed to her for the rest of his life even though she will be unattractive for the rest of her life.

  • That is bonded love

  • If you find it in life you are one fortunate person

Hitting Pause

Session 1

Video

Opening-You are the busiest teenagers in history. (Video on Instagram and Facebook youth pages)

Why should we hit Pause? Why is it important to be still and silent and get to

know God more?

I. We were created to have a relationship with God

Genesis 1:26-30

Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our

likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the

birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild

animals,[a] and over all the creatures that move along the

ground.”

27 So God created mankind in his own image,

in the image of God he created them;

male and female he created them.

28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase

in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in

the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature

that moves on the ground.”

29 Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the

face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed

in it. They will be yours for food. 30 And to all the beasts of the

earth and all the birds in the sky and all the creatures that

move along the ground—everything that has the breath of

life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so.

John 14:6-7

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one

comes to the Father except through me. 7 If you really know me,

you will know[a] my Father as well. From now on, you do know

him and have seen him.”

Shovel Illustration- What were we created for?


II. God Expects us to Grow Closer to Him

Mark and I have been married 25 years

How ridiculous would it be if?

• I said, I know enough about him, so I will stop talking to him or getting to know him.

• Or I said, I really don’t know much about him after 25 years.

Hebrews 5:11-14

We have much to say about this, but it is hard to make it clear to

you because you no longer try to understand. 12 In fact, though by

this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you

the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need

milk, not solid food! 13 Anyone who lives on milk, being still an

infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about

righteousness. 14 But solid food is for the mature, who by constant

use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.

1 Corthinans 3:1-2

Brothers and sisters, I could not address you as people who live

by the Spirit but as people who are still worldly—mere infants in

Christ. 2 I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet

ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready.

Meme God put us in time out

We can see in the scriptures, this frustrates God. Throughout history He must get

the attention of His children. To draw them back to Him.

Meme- God is frustrated with us, so he put us in time out. (Coronavirus shelter at

home)

III. As God’s Children, we ought to want to live like our Father

Ephesians 5:1-2

Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and

walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself

up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Gandhi quote, “I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians.

Your Christians are so unlike your Christ

What derails the spread of the gospel? Hypocritical Christians.

Live up to your name. If you are a Christians live like one. In

order to live like Christ, you must know Him.

You cannot say you are a Christian and put images on snapchat

that make people question.

You cannot say you are a Christian, wear your Now and Catalyst

shirts and then speak in a way that make people feel

uncomfortable and question your faith. Question your God.

Philippians 4:10-14

want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his

resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like

him in his death, 11 and so, somehow, attaining to the

resurrection from the dead.

12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived

at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ

Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider

myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting

what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on

toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me

heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Do you hear the passion in Paul’s writing? He wants to know Christ more and

more. Nothing will not stop him. Nothing will get in his way.


Do you want to accept the same challenge?

We are in a cocoon. When the caterpillar enters the cocoon, he metamorphoses

into something much more beautiful. He is forever changed. We have an

unprecedented opportunity to emerge from this coronavirus cocoon and be

forever changed. More in love with our God and more like Him. Are you ready to

hit pause?

#IHitPause, HowABoutYou?