How To Get Your Ex Back In a Few Simple (yet not obvious) Steps

It started off like many romances while on vacation.

The connection was far deeper than your usual phyiscal attraction. She was gorgous, blond with blue eyes, but there was a level of connect that I never felt before. It felt that we knew what the other wanted, as if we could understand eachother without having to say words. Not only that, I could feel she was thinking the same thing and knew that she knew that I knew.

We hear about the laws of attraction all the time and wonder if it is just some pie in the sky universe nonesense, but for once I think I understood what it meant. It was not just about feeling butterflies, but more about energy. It felt like we were releasing our own energy and our wavelengths matched perfectly in unison and our bodies were picking up the vibrations.

We had one whole week of blissful innocence before our vaction ended. We agreed to stay in touch as we lived in different countries and made an effort to visit eachother every free moment we had. We did this for a full year and then suddenly... radio silience.

This might sound like an obvious one, however, as already mentioned, if you feel deep down she does not want to be with you, then best cut your loses. Even if she were to stick around, you'd always know she didn't feel the same way for you as you do for her.

Just because you want it doesn't mean it's the right thing for you and what you want from a relationship. In my case, she vanished without trace and it made no sense whatsoever... I mean why not just say goodbye?

So I knew in my hearts of hearts I would regret never trying to find out what happened and knew I wanted her back regardless of the reasons... there was just too much to lose by not doing anything about it.

There are three general mistakes men do more so than women when wanting there exs back. They focus too much on wanting them back, but at the same time they react by doing certain things that drove her away in the first place.

These things fall under the same category (showing your weakness as a man).

What are those things you ask?

1. Using pity and showing what a bad state you are in.

2. Contacting her all the time rather than giving her time to reflect.

3. Telling her how much she means to you. A girl doesn't want to feel more guilt after breaking up with you, it will give them more reason to push you away further.

It is a hard time for you, but show her you are obviously sad, but you are doing well and life goes on.

That's right, a counter intuitive piece of advice that sounds all BS.

But hear me out though, if you fixate on just her, then she will feel even more pressure and guilty for breaking up with you. As much as we like to think guilt will bring her back, it actually doesn't. She might come back out of guilt but it won't be long before she realizes she didn't do it because she wanted to, but rather out of guilt, only to leave again.

Get on with living your life as though she has no influence over it. As though you have plenty of options to do your own things and options to meet as many girls as your heart desires (because you really do have those options).