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Renée Rapp - Mean Girls | 2024 | Paramount Pictures
Rachel McAdams - Mean Girls | 2004 | Paramount Pictures
Regina George is an interesting case study. She's the mean girl, the villain, the Bitch. However, unlike most villains, we, like the characters of Mean Girls, both crave Regina's approval and want to be just like her (no one ever wants to be Victor Frankenstein, nor did the fellowship seek Sauron's approval of their quest). While we could have great fun dissecting the withertos and the whyfors of why we all love Regina, I would like to propose that the #bossbitch we love, in all likelihood, does not love her self.
While the argument can be made that "narcissism" is overused, the term narcissist is apt in our unpacking of Regina if we use the framework of Alexander Lowen in his book Narcissism: The Denial of the True Self. To Lowen, a narcissist is a person who is not acting through their true self and, rather, is actively suppressing the self, and their ruthless nature is credited to their quest towards a state of unfeeling. He states, "[A narcissist's image] stands in contrast to the true self, which resides behind the facade or image" (Lowen 46).
What this means is that Regina, the mean girl, is an identity performed by Regina in an attempt to keep her self under control via submission and conformity to social expectations. She is "the queen bee," to steal the words from Damien, and that means she is the peak of what a woman ought to be in American high school society: beautiful (in the bounds of the male gaze), heterosexual (but not too sexual), smart (but not so much that she intimidates her male peers).
But why is she mean? It takes tremendous work not to feel, and even more to control the environment around her. But, more than that, her true self, as she denies it, is angry at its denial. As Regina's egoic denial of her real self persists, her meanness toward others mirrors the meanness she expresses toward herself. As Lowen states, "The denial of feeling characteristic of all narcissists is most manifest in their behavior toward others. They can be ruthless, exploitative, sadistic, or destructive to another person because they are insensitive to others' suffering or feeling. This insensitivity derives from an insensitivity to one's own feelings" (Lowen 49).
Which begs the question: who is Regina underneath the mean girl?
In both the 2004 and 2024 tellings of Mean Girls, Regina rejects Janis in 6th grade. In 2004, Regina claims that it was because Janis was getting "weirdly jealous" of her dating Kyle. In 2024, Regina believed Janis had a secret crush on her and began undermining Janis socially. In both cases, what if Regina's response to Janis was an overcompensation to the romantic feelings that she was developing for Janis?
For Regina, a developing 12-year-old learning to pass in a heteronormative, predominantly white, upper-class setting, to develop these feelings for Janis would be against the image that she had been crafting of her self. The self "is not a mental construct but a bodily phenomenon. To be in touch with oneself means to sense and be in touch with one's feelings. To know one's feelings, one has to experience them in their full intensity and that can only be done by expressing them" (Lowen 67).
If Regina could not express her feelings for Janis, they would be suppressed. This, as a result, would mean that any time Regina might either be in question as to her feelings for others means that she would have to defend her image by projecting her feelings onto Janis so overtly that no one would ever question Regina's sexuality. Ergo, "Why are you so obsessed with me?" This state of cognitive dissonance (constant suppression and denial) would lead to a state of "insanity" Lowen states. He says, "Insantiy develops when the ego or the conscious mind is overwhelmed by a feeling it cannot integrate" (Lowen 171).
What is the ultimate trigger that launches the Mean Girls story? Cady. Janis's new friend.
At the beginning of Mean Girls, Janis only has one friend: Damien. As a gay man, Regina would natually have zero interest in him. @AnnieDoesLife states on TikTok: "If Janice had a boyfriend, Regina would have stolen him (2024)." Damien was the one friend Regina could allow Janis to have, as he was never a threat to her. However, with the arrival of Cady, the dynamic Regina previously had under control begins to unravel.
Coach Jackie J on TikTok states in her video essay that Cady is making Regina jealous because she's becoming friends with Janis, which leads to Regina flirting with Cady and compensating with "cumpolsory hetero behivior" (2023). We see this as Regina begins to use Aaron against Cady to make her jealous later in the story. As her anxiety towards Janis and Cady's relationship grows, she uses Aaron to keep Cady both in line (and away from Janis) while keeping her image of the ultimate woman in place.
Renee Rapp's (Regina 2024) belief that she believed that Regina was a lesbian. This does not mean Regina herself consciously knew nor accepted this reality which makes Regina nor only an infinitely more intriguing character, but a relatable one for many women in 2026.
Reneé Rapp | Mean Girls 2024
Mean Girls is a Tragedy
Tragedy of a woman who wants to be loved but cant free herself from the patriarchal system whose mental infrastructure is that of patriarchy. Fully embodied Regina would be threatening to men.
Mean = You think I'm mean because I'm not apologetic
Mean = You're mean because you have anger issues
What is conservative culture struggling to accept in itself? What is hiding behind evangelical Christianity identity? Is Mean Girl's actually a tragedy of a lost self?
ReginaXJanis Fan Art
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Bibliography:
Church, Dawnson. Mind to Matter. Hay House Inc, June 2018.
jcubedhax @CoachJackieJ. "and thats a hill i will die on #wlw #lesbian #reginageorge." TikTok, uploaded by jcubedhax, December 4, 2023; https://4d1c06dd.isolation.zscaler.com/profile/0cb16706-78ca-4463-bfa9-40812abb1ea5/zia-session/?controls_id=dc074b7e-44f9-41a4-b622-1a2e691c7f8c®ion=cle&tenant=9bdf164cfefd&user=9e8077f951f3415b7c8c89224e1e9f23332da1c62992554b688f25999c8b1699&original_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40jcubedhax%2Fvideo%2F7308955024665660702&key=sh-1&hmac=929ef004961e63a1bee6464ae6820a5be7c2e434b882ad4b2b6cbd8c20f048c8
Lowen, Alexander. Narcissism: Denial of the True Self.
Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema by Laura Mulvey
Shaffer, Annie @AnnieDoesLife. "Regina George is gay." TikTok, uploaded by Annie Shaffer, August 22, 2024; https://4d1c06dd.isolation.zscaler.com/profile/0cb16706-78ca-4463-bfa9-40812abb1ea5/zia-session/?controls_id=dc074b7e-44f9-41a4-b622-1a2e691c7f8c®ion=cle&tenant=9bdf164cfefd&user=9e8077f951f3415b7c8c89224e1e9f23332da1c62992554b688f25999c8b1699&original_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40anniekshaffer%2Fvideo%2F7406035669795048746&key=sh-1&hmac=46370fa0ec6fac4bbe5b63f2b26a1a0490ce15919a173c4265c7ca968c2351f3.
Further Recommended Reading:
Church, Dawnson. Mind to Matter. Hay House Inc, June 2018.
jcubedhax @CoachJackieJ. "and thats a hill i will die on #wlw #lesbian #reginageorge." TikTok, uploaded by jcubedhax, December 4, 2023; https://4d1c06dd.isolation.zscaler.com/profile/0cb16706-78ca-4463-bfa9-40812abb1ea5/zia-session/?controls_id=dc074b7e-44f9-41a4-b622-1a2e691c7f8c®ion=cle&tenant=9bdf164cfefd&user=9e8077f951f3415b7c8c89224e1e9f23332da1c62992554b688f25999c8b1699&original_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40jcubedhax%2Fvideo%2F7308955024665660702&key=sh-1&hmac=929ef004961e63a1bee6464ae6820a5be7c2e434b882ad4b2b6cbd8c20f048c8
Lowen, Alexander. Narcissism: Denial of the True Self.
Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema by Laura Mulvey
Shaffer, Annie @AnnieDoesLife. "Regina George is gay." TikTok, uploaded by Annie Shaffer, August 22, 2024; https://4d1c06dd.isolation.zscaler.com/profile/0cb16706-78ca-4463-bfa9-40812abb1ea5/zia-session/?controls_id=dc074b7e-44f9-41a4-b622-1a2e691c7f8c®ion=cle&tenant=9bdf164cfefd&user=9e8077f951f3415b7c8c89224e1e9f23332da1c62992554b688f25999c8b1699&original_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40anniekshaffer%2Fvideo%2F7406035669795048746&key=sh-1&hmac=46370fa0ec6fac4bbe5b63f2b26a1a0490ce15919a173c4265c7ca968c2351f3.