Navigating Differences: What To Do When You Don't Like The Coach

Hello volleyball enthusiasts,

Dr. Darren Cannell here, your coach from the Canadian Elite Academy. The player-coach relationship is vital for your growth and success as an athlete, and it's not always an easy one. If you find yourself not liking your coach, here are some strategies to manage the situation constructively.

Tip 1: Reflect On Your Feelings

First, take some time to reflect on why you don't like your coach. Is it their coaching style, communication methods, or some personal characteristics? Identifying the root of your feelings can help you address the issue effectively.

Tip 2: Focus On What You Can Learn

Even if you don't like your coach, remember that they still have knowledge and experience to share. Try to focus on what you can learn from them to improve your skills and understanding of the game.

Tip 3: Open Communication

If there are specific issues bothering you, consider discussing them with your coach. Keep the conversation respectful and focused on the problem, not the person. Express how you feel and ask for their perspective. They might not even be aware that there is an issue.

Tip 4: Seek Advice

If you're uncomfortable talking to your coach directly, seek advice from a trusted adult, like a parent or another coach. They can provide guidance and help you figure out the best approach to address the situation.

Tip 5: Practice Empathy

Everyone has bad days, and coaches are no different. Try to empathize and understand their perspective. They have the responsibility of managing the entire team and ensuring everyone's growth and success.

Tip 6: Control What You Can

Ultimately, you can't control other people's behaviors and attitudes, but you can control your reactions. Stay positive, focus on your growth, and don't let personal differences affect your passion for the game.

Tip 7: Consider A Change If Needed

If, after all your efforts, the situation doesn't improve, it might be time to consider a change. Perhaps another team or coach would be a better fit for you. It's important to ensure your sports environment is positive and conducive to your growth.

Remember, not liking your coach can be a challenging situation, but it's not an insurmountable one. With patience, open communication, and a focus on your development, you can navigate this situation effectively.

Stay positive, keep learning, and keep enjoying the game.

Cheers, Dr. Darren Cannell Head Coach, Canadian Elite Academy