After I left my husband of 18 years with 2 kids under 8, no real work experience, no degrees or certificates, no savings, no where to stay... just nothing, I quickly had to learn how to pick myself back up and support these little people that depended on me. The family that I had couldn't help me or didn't want to anymore because I had "left" so many times before, the ones that could help I didn't know well enough to ask, and the only people that I had been relying on for most of my life were my ex's family.
I began applying everywhere! We would leave the house around 6 am, get back around 6 pm to eat dinner, shower, and get in the car for my other job. When I wasn't working a full-time job I did Door Dash, Instacart, and other delivery part-time work while the kids slept in the car. If I had a job, I was looking for another one that was a step above with higher pay. I was always on the prowl for more money because I thought that our lives would get easier if I could just get ahead financially. I thought that if I had money I could get us a place that I wasn't counting pennies to afford, I could afford more than thrift store clothing for us, I could afford my own groceries instead of relying on the state for assistance, I could fix the hurt and damage that we all had sustained for years. But that wasn't the case. Money wasn't going to fix IT.
To get to a place of calm, to a place that I could start to rebuild myself, I had to first repair my own hurt and damage that was caused over the years. Therapy helped to a point, but I knew that I wanted more. I wanted more than always blaming my past for what was happening. I wanted more than just giving myself the old "It is what it is" phrase, I wanted more than just someone to complain to. I deserved more than all of that! Didn't I?
I came across a coach on YouTube by accident one morning on the way to a job that I was overwhelmed with and their mindset totally blew my mind! I couldn't stop listening to them and others with similar messages. YES THIS IS IT! They were all about moving FORWARD! After looking up other videos I began to see a pattern and started to understand that:
Therapy= Looking into the past for answers
Mentors= Telling me what to do~ this was totally not for me!
Coaching= Looking at the past to use it as a jumping board to my future!
After working on myself with coaches and alone, I decided that this makes me happy! Following the future, always looking and growing towards the sun~ like a plant, always working towards something, always looking for the good in the outcome, this is what I wanted my life to be about! I wanted to scream at the top of my lungs to every woman going through a tough situation what the answer was! I wanted to get the message out to hang on, I'm coming and I'll help you figure out your way! This is why I have created Becoming Ethereal!
