WHAT TO DO ABOUT  Bad Luck

INTRODUCING:
How to overcome Bad Luck and Find Life's direction --
a Virtual Interactive e-Book
(VIBe)

The 3 of us: myself, Rhona and Paulina created this book after graduating from our certification program in Bioenergetics. 


“The world needs to know this”, we said. After almost a year of trial and error, our work together finally saw the light in this specific format…


When Rhona’s husband heard that the book had been published, he ran out and jumped off the bridge. 👽


I’ll circle back to the episode later, but in order for you to understand his reaction and what stood behind it, you of course would need to know a bit about the book and what the project in bioenergetics was about... 

AND SO, BIOENERGETICS:

Bioenergetics originated in Europe, and is rapidly gaining popularity in the United States as well. This branch of natural science is known as the science of solutions, for its focus on answering the “why” questions. 

As opposed to mainstream approaches that zero in on treating the symptoms, bioenergetics – being a holistic system – aims to solve the cause. 

So far this holistic approach has been applied mainly in the sphere of physical health. Bioenergetics continues the pursuit, but also expands it to mental and emotional health as well

EXAMPLE

Let’s take anger, for example. The mainstream approach would be, of course, the proverbial anger management. Anger MANAGEMENT is about how to keep the people around you from getting hurt after they set you off. The holistic approach would look at the root of why you’re so easy on the trigger to begin with.

Bioenergetics lays claims to finding these fundamental causes. 

Tell us what they are, then! – you may say.

Generally speaking, these causes lie in the mind-body connection--  which is widely explored in all holistic approaches. But what IS that connection?


This missing link is our energy blueprint. And there is NOTHING voodoo or esoteric here.  (What do you record with an EKG? The energy impulses from our heart. EEG? Te waves of energy form the brain. What do you feel drained off at the end of the day? Energy, right? And yet, when I say "energy blueprint" , many people first shy away, thinking some kind of questionable energy healing. I think it's about time that science started to pay attention to this part of creation -- biological energy. And now we finally have it.

Once you take a good look at our everyday reality, the flow and the effects of biological energy in our body becomes obvious even to the “naked eye”.

EXAMPLE:

💡Let’s say you get in a huge fight with your boss at work. You’re going to feel drained of ENERGY… sometimes so drained, that you’re likely to have a headache (the effect on the body), will definitely have less motivation and be less productive (the effect on the mind), and possibly even feel depressed later... which will affect how you interact with people (the effect on your environment)

But where did it all start? By you losing a good chunk of your positive energy to the fight and picking up negative vibes instead.

And what are “vibes” anyway? You can “feel the vibes” oftentimes even when no words are exchanged. Vibes are nothing but energy. 


🦉Bioenergetics focuses its research on the energies of our body, and has also applied the results of its studies to deciphering our emotions and default reactions: our emotions turn out to be fluctuations of energy that we feel and perceive as what we term fear, guilt, anger, and so on.  

Thanks to this understanding of what causes our reactions (and, consequently, oftentimes our choices), bioenergetic has also became known as the science of success. 

💡Here is why:

QUOTE FROM THE BOOK:

Two brothers grow up in a ghetto: same genetics, same upbringing, same environment.

One becomes an alcoholic, claiming that he owes his fate to growing up in the ghetto: his dad was a heavy drinker, and he internalized this from childhood as the only reality.

The other one becomes a successful judge, having taken advantage of the grants given to people who live in underprivileged areas. He will not touch alcohol – and he claims that he owes his success to growing up in the ghetto: this is how he got his scholarship and was able to get good education, and the reason he doesn't drink is because his dad was an alcoholic and he saw what this does to people and swore that he will not let substance ruin his life

WHAT MADE THE DIFFERENCE?


That is the question that Bioenergetics aims to answer

So, myself, Rhona and Paulina came to the study of Bioenergetics from 3 different walks of life, being led by the need to find our own solutions to what we deemed at the time to be “the questions that had no answer” (Relationships, brain fog, parenting and mom guilt were the top ones on the list, among a few others).

Fast forward, all 3 of us found out solutions.
 “The world needs to know this”, we said then.

This book, however, is not intended to solve all your problems at once (If someone ever promises you to do that -- RUN!😂😂)

Our intent in Demystifying Bad Luck work is to lay the right foundation: help you understand how things work (in our brain, in our social interactions, in what is driving us and the people around us) - and help you map out a winning life's direction. 

From there, all you will have to do is keep making steps: however small they may be, you will eventually get to your goal, as crazy or impossible it may seem. 

👉👉Here are a few examples of what unanswered questions (both ours and the people we work with) tend to look like:









👆👆👆🤔🤔🤔👆👆👆

These questions sound like... BAD LUCK😂

... because these are the questions that usually have no answers. 


These are the kind of questions that make you feel like you want to jump off the bridge, don't they?


👉👉However, these ARE the kind of questions that we are going to shed light on our Demystifying Bad Luck book. 

💬The goal of the book is to show you HOW you can solve these questions and give you the tools for doing so. 

💬If you apply these tools to your specific situation, our hope is that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel and KNOW which first steps you need to take, and in what direction. The rest of the work will be up to you... as far as the book goes, that is.

💬This book is intended to be a beginning of a transformational journey. It is for people who are seeking the answers, but so far have not been quite sure where and how to find the right ones.

HOWEVER, we KNOW that nothing new (and especially nothing transformational) ever comes easy... and life tends to be a pretty complex thing. We don't want to leave anyone hanging after reading the book with any loose ends. This is why we are including a FREE Q&A SESSION with the book: just in case you feel you need more clarification.


WHAT WE WANT YOU
TO WALK AWAY WITH FROM
THIS BOOK IS THIS:

 
A CLEAR SENSE OF WHAT YOU NEED TO DO,
THE FEELING OF HOPE,
AND THE CONFIDENSE OF SEEING THE LIGHT
AS TO WHICH DIRECTION IS THE RIGHT DIRECTION

A few words on the keywords:
A CLEAR SENSE OF WHAT TO DO AND THE RIGHT DIRECTION

I think you will have to agree with me here: putting an end to chaos is 90% of the battle.


If you can arm yourself with the insight of what is going on, the knowledge of how you can fix it, and the tools that enable you to create change in the right direction, you're unstoppable! 

If fact, what I've just told you is the formula of success. (It's not work hard -- think deep -- do teamwork, really)


This book is intended to do just that

This book is designed as the first step for those who have tried everything else and got discouraged -- or simply trust their intuition which is telling them that the mainstream formula of success may boil down to work hard -- think deep -- do teamwork. (Because it does). And you've had it with working hard -- AND the people you've tried to teamwork with. You've been doing this all your life, and nothing has come out of it yet.

I'd like to invite you to try the holistic formula of success:
- get in touch with YOU: who you truly are, who were meant to be, what it is YOU want and need, as opposed to what's expected of you
--discover your calling and potential through this (trust me: when you were made to be who you are, no mistakes were made there)
 -- remove the hostile elements that block your way. screw things up for you, introduce confusion and derail your efforts

You see, Bioenergetics takes the concept of success, emotional well-being and emotional healing to a different plateau. 

You know how you often find yourself swinging between “I’m perfectly fine” to “I need help”, and between “I know the answers” to “My life is in chaos”?

And no answers that you’re able to find seem satisfactory?

This is because the mainstream approach aims to offer you solutions aimed at changing or improving YOU.

Our belief (and the approach of Bioenergetics) is that YOU’VE BEEN CREATED GOOD ENOUGH. There is nothing to improve about YOU.


What you need to do is discover the things that stand in your way of being who you are, things that derail your efforts to do the good that you want to do and trick you into doing the very things that you hate. And up to this point, these things have been written off to the devil, back luck, lack or proper upbringing, genetics and other things that we cannot control. Bioenergetics is the first pioneer of science that lays claims to giving you this control.

THE STORY OF RHONA’S HUSBAND

I must say that the story of Rhona’s husband AJ is the most inspirational out of the whole gang.

As we would put it in our professional language, AJ was a text-book classic injured child case. 

So, what’s an injured child? 

An injured child can be cruel –because people were cruel to him, and he grew up not knowing it any other way.


An injured child can be vindictive: he grew up with humiliation, unjust punishment and disrespect. He never felt heard, his needs were never important, his opinion didn’t matter, his words were never believed. The world was against him, and he sees fighting against it as the only way to survive


An injured child can be unforgiving: he never experienced being forgiven himself, and was punished even for simple mistakes over and over again


An injured child can be very jealous: he never had enough love growing up, and it always looks that others got it more than him


An injured child can be very self-centered, because nobody ever cared about his needs and he grew up to believe that he is the only one who can and will provide for them.


He is a lonely, unhappy, neglected child in an adult body who has never learned love. But his cries for help are interpreted as aggression, his expression of pain can take on a dangerous twist and his need for attention is so huge people see him as a narcissist. And because these defense walls are so strong, nobody ever sees the child inside… and he won’t let you, for fear of further betrayal and more pain. 

AJ was such a child. It took a lot of work, but eventually he started gaining courage to come out of his shell of malfunctioning defense mechanisms of anger, mistrust and withdrawal. After a lot of testing, deep and sometimes difficult dialogues and lots of exercises, this man, whose personality had clear psychopathic traits finally start to soften up. Most people who knew him a while back, would not be able to recognize the same person: AJ was becoming a loving father, a responsible husband and a successful business owner.

His journey started with the realization that it was his childhood wounds and the lack of love, which he always craved from his parents but never seemed to receive enough of, that determined his view of the world and his default, spontaneous reactions. The reactions and feelings that he also did no have a clue on how to interpret or deal with.

AJ could not be told what to do and how to behave -- he has rebelled against this early in his childhood: since he lacked proper nurture and understanding from his parents, he began interpreting EVERYTHING as simply an attempt to control him. And, having never learned to tell the difference between constructive guidance and toxic criticism, he also lacked the skills to deal with his emotions. This is why all attempts to get his to "behave" failed.

However, once he realized that his oftentimes erratic reactions were driven by the above blind and unconscious reactions and seldom did him any good, that gave him food for thought: so all this talk about watching his thoughts and reactions was not only for the sake of protecting other people -- he himself was also a part of this picture. He actually had a place and purpose in this life. He mattered. 

AJ started to remember instances from his childhood when he wanted everyone to be ok and happy, when he wanted to love and be loved. He also was able to remember the glimpses of those painful times when he rejected this inner self for fear that he would be too weak to deal with what he was up against if he continued to be such a softie... and started functioning in a different image, getting further and further away from who he truly was and knew himself to be.

Regaining the connection with himself, with how and what he felt and with what he really wanted eventually brought AJ out of the shadows of confusion, distrust and over-reactiveness. Things in life started to matter to him, and he was being carried away less and less with those random thoughts and imaginations that ruled his mind before. He started to feel a desire to learn the social skills needed to get along properly in this world, and he did a lot of work correcting his mental blocks, mis-perceptions, and emotional voids. After a great deal of emotional detox and re-balancing of his energetics, AJ was finally able to get himself on an even plateau: the healing part was over and now he was working on discovering and putting to use his inner potential...

,,,Long story short, AJ is an amazing example of a "crazy man" healing and becoming successful and happy.

Transformations like this is what our work at Triumph Over Gray is all about.
“The world needs to know this”, we said... and decided to create the Demystifying Bad Luck book.

In this book our goal is to lay down a solid foundation for the principles that restored AJ to health and success (before he jumped off that bridge):


Here are a few highlights on the angles and the answers that we cover:



















...Just to scratch the surface!


Plus, it gives you a good intro into Bioenergetics and the approaches that we use, also demystifying any misconceptions about bioenergetics’ solid foundation as a science, as opposed to other “energy healing” approaches that are oftentimes questionable (in my estimation) 

Now it’s time to get back to that bridge story.

In the little suburban town where Rhona and AJ grew up and lived, there was this bridge. It spanned a small river and was a renown swimming spot for the local kids. Jumping off that bridge was a cultural tradition: a sort of initiation from being “a little boy” to becoming a “young man” for many generations…


...Until new local authorities decided that jumping off that bridge wasn’t safe enough, and the schools and the local media started to discourage the activity as inappropriate. At that point, there haven't been any accidents involving the bridge, so no laws or regulations could be passed about it, but the society joined the spirit of the public opinion, and jumping off the bridge slowly started to get viewed as something only social outcasts and insubordinate citizens would do. The generational tradition of the bridge as a site of the rite of passage from a boy to a man started to die out.


So, when Rhona’s husband AJ heard that our book was finally published (the book that reflected several years of the work which had restored his courage to take back himself as someone he always knew himself to be) he felt that the new era of hope was here.

The era of setting yourself free from superimposed concepts, from the loss of self amongst the demands coined by those who had an opportunity to do so, from slavery to someone else's preferences at the expense of the death of one's true calling. And era that were to break the generational curse of spiraling down into helplessness and servitude. 


AJ wanted to celebrate the advent of the concept -- and the book that was brining it out to the open -- by an act that honored the re-birth of the child in him – the child that he always knew himself to be but started to lose touch with. This child had been locked up in a dungeon of someone else’s ideas, preferences and wants for all these years that he was struggling with emotional issues because of that.


So, AJ ran down to the river and jumped off that bridge – as a ritual in support of personal freedom and the right of his heritage to exist. 

In the book you will learn about the importance of not condemning the rebel in you, but of rather nurturing this rebel to grow up to be a Warrior of Light. This is what AJ has become -- and he sealed the victory with the ritual that confirmed it's truth.

If you decide to look into Bioenergetics further, you will also learn about the important -- and often conflicting -- roles of our cultural and family legacies (which are carried in our DNA) and the spirit of public opinion, the influence of which on our perception and responses factors into the algorithm of our success or failure... into the algorithm of bad luck, basically. 

But let's not get into this -- the story of the bridge is NOT a part of the book.  The principles that lead AJ to his personal resurrection and to the transformation from a crazy rebel to a fighter to Good are.

This is the kind of triumph that Triumph Over Gray stands for.

I hope you join us in the pursuit

As the first step, let’s demystify some bad luck: