There are actually lots of different mindfulness techniques you can use to overcome shyness but here are some of our favorites:
-Thought-stopping : This technique is simple, yet powerful because it allows you to stop the negative thoughts that cause your anxiety in their tracks. When you feel yourself getting anxious while thinking about meeting women, for example, simply tell yourself "Stop!" out loud (or quietly if there's someone nearby). Then refocus your mind on something else like work or what's happening around you right now. After doing this a few times during sexier situations with women, you'll start feeling less fearful about the outcome of those sexual moments…because they're no longer caught up
Jazz and her boyfriend, Steve*, met on OKCupid about a year ago. He was looking for love (not to mention "sexy ladies"), and Jazz found him attractive enough in his profile picture that she sent him a flirtatious message offering her user ID so he could look at her profile. Two weeks later, they made it official: they became an item.
Since then, Jazz and Steve have been practically inseparable—they do everything together from going on dates to attending house parties with their mutual friends to going on long hikes through the trees just outside of town. They've never had a serious argument before until this week, when Steve suddenly broke up with his new girlfriend.
Jazz knows something is up when Steve asks to meet her for coffee. When they sit down, he's acting nervous and jittery. Her stomach is in knots thinking that he will dump her too, but she remains calm on the outside despite her anxiety.
"It's not you," he says finally. "It's just that I think we should see other people. It would be better this way."