Acronymns, Sayings and Quotes

Sayings

  • AAA's: Awareness, Acceptance, Action.
  • Adherence to the Unenforceable.
  • Alcoholic is just doing it, not doing it "to me".
  • Alcoholic's pick up the bottle Al-Anons pick up people
  • Alcoholism is a family disease
  • Al-Anon is like a laboratory, we experiment and find out what works for us.
  • Al-Anon is not for people who need it. It's for people who want it
  • Balanced Perspective
  • Be gentle with yourself
  • Breaking denial means no longer hoping for a better past.
  • Burning Desire
  • CCC's: Alcoholism: You didn't CAUSE it, you can't CONTROL it, and you can't CURE it.
  • CCC's: You Can Control Yourself, You Can Change Yourself, You Can Cure Yourself.
  • Change my attitude, change your life
  • Changed attitudes aide in recovery
  • Common Welfare Comes First
  • Courage to Change
  • Cross-talk takes away from our loving interchange. It's when one member gives advice or chastises another, under the guise of sharing. It's OK to interrupt people who are cross-talking and say something like "We don't cross-talk at this meeting, meaning to speak directly to one person directly instead of to the group in general."
  • Denial: Didn't even know I am lying
  • Desperate Newcomer
  • Detach: Don't even think about changing him/her
  • Detachment with Love
  • Don't go to the hardware store for bread
  • Don't make my feelings my God
  • Don't SHOULD on yourself
  • Easy does it
  • EGO: Edging/Easing God Out
  • Emotions attached to Incidents
  • Expectations are premeditated resentments
  • Experience - Strength - Hope
  • Fake it until you make it
  • FEAR: Face Everything And Recover; False Evidence Appearing Real; Future Events Aren't Real
  • Feelings are not Facts; Facts are not Feelings
  • Fight for yourself, you are worth it. If you don't, who will?
  • FINE: Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional
  • First things first
  • Focus on ME/ US (behavior)
  • FOG: [don't do anything out of] Fear, Obligation, or Guilt
  • From 'What about You' to 'What about Me'
  • GOD: Good Orderly Direction
  • God of my understanding
  • Gratitude: An affirmation of something good
  • Guilt is when I feel what I do is not ok. Shame is when I feel what I am is not ok.
  • HALT if you're Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
  • Healthy response instead of an unhealthy reaction
  • Help me is the strongest prayer. Pray now. Why wait? It's easier now
  • HOW: Honest, Open, and Willing
  • How important is it?
  • I'm not responsible for other people's happiness
  • I am not my thoughts
  • I can't. God can. I'll let him/her
  • I didn't cause it, but if I recognize that I may have contributed to it, then I need to own that part: only that part!6
  • I don't know what tomorrow holds but I know who holds tomorrow
  • If HP brings you to it, HP will walk you through it
  • If you don't like being a door mat, then get off of the floor
  • Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result
  • Is it worth my serenity?
  • It works if you work it, so work it cause you're worth it
  • Just for today
  • Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires
  • Keep an open mind
  • Keep coming back
  • Keep it simple
  • KISS: Keep it simple
  • Let Go and Let God
  • Let it begin with me
  • Listen and learn
  • Live and let Live
  • Living in the past is VICTIM, Living in the future is MANIPULATING. Live in the presen
  • LOVE: Let Others Voluntarily Evolve
  • Love, Learn, and Grow
  • Mind my own business
  • MMMM: martyrdom, manipulating, managing and mothering
  • My happiness is My responsibility
  • My serenity is proportionate to my acceptance
  • New Language
  • New Way of Thinking
  • NUTS: Not Using the Steps
  • One day at a time
  • Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional
  • Pain is something that comes and goes, suffering is something we hold on to.
  • People who may find meetings helpful include are People who grew up with a problem drinker in the family and/or People who are currently troubled by someone’s drinking
  • Perfection is a way of Isolating
  • Pity and compassion: pity elevates me, compassion is empathy for another person's humanness.
  • Principles above Personalities
  • Progress, not perfection
  • QTIP: Quit Taking It Personally
  • Qualifier: usually a person that we think is the reason we have a problem.
  • Recovery is self-discovery
  • Relieved to know I'm Powerless
  • Respond instead of React
  • Resentment is like taking a poison pill and hoping the other person dies.
  • Say what you mean but don't say it meanly
  • SHAME: Should have already mastered everything
  • SLIP: Serenity Loses its Priority
  • Sponsor - someone to help guide you through the steps
  • Take the blame out of me & all u get is bla bla bla
  • Take what you like and leave the rest (or shelve the rest)
  • Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with Your Divine Plan
  • The 'As Soon As' Disease
  • The 'If Only' Disease
  • The 'Poor Me' disease
  • The mind is like a parachute, it works best when open
  • Think
  • Think, Listen, and Learn
  • THINK: [is what I'm about to say] Thoughtful, Helpful/Honest, Intelligent, Necessary, and Kind?
  • Things to say to the alcoholic when he/she does his/her thing: I never thought of it that way. You could be right. Hmmmmmm. OH, SO, NO and WOW (Al Anon Sentences)
  • This too shall pass
  • Together we can make it
  • Try Al-Anon for six meetings. If you are not 100% satisfied, we'll gladly refund your misery!
  • Use it or lose it
  • WAIT: Why am I talking?
  • What I need to do
  • What you think of me is none of my business
  • When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon and Al-Ateen always be there and let it begin with me
  • When I blame someone else for something, I give up my power to them
  • When I get into a situation, I always ask myself, "What is my part in it? What is going on with me?"
  • When in doubt, don't.
  • Would I rather be RIGHT or HAPPY?
  • Worry (and gossip and other character defects) is a pain killer for this moment. When I take the obsessions out I'm left with the pain and if I can work through that...
  • Worrying is a terrible waste of time
  • You can't control the wind but you can set your sails
  • You can't keep it unless you give it away
  • FACE IT: Become aware of the thinking/behavior that is a problem. TRACE IT: Try to establish where you think it comes from and why. EMBRACE IT: Accept that you did the best you could with what you had at the time but it no longer needs to be that way. Forgive yourself. ERASE IT: The thinking/behavior no longer serves your best interests. To erase it, ask God to remove your shortcomings. Refuse to participate in the same thinking and behavior patterns. You may 'slip' from time to time but that's OK, it's a process and it's about progress not perfection. REPLACE IT: Nothing exists in a vacuum therefore if you remove something you need to put something else in it's place. Where possible fill the void with Gods love. You can replace negative thinking/behavior with positive, healthy responses. Use the tools of the program. Sometimes we try something new and it doesn't work out for us, that's ok too, just try something different.

Quotes

  • "Be yourself because everyone else is taken." - Oscar Wilde
  • "Denial is the shock absorber for the soul. It protects us until we are equipped to cope with reality." - C.S. Lewis
  • "The only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is in how you use them." ODAT p.185
  • "Worrying is focusing on the problem. Meditation is focusing on the solution." - Joyce Meyers
  • "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be." - Benjamin Franklin
  • "The ego’s needs are endless. It feels vulnerable and threatened and so lives in a state of fear and want. Once you know how the basic dysfunction operates, there is no need to explore all its countless manifestations, no need to make it into a complex personal problem. The ego, of course, loves that. It is always seeking for something to attach itself to in order to uphold and strengthen its illusory sense of self, and it will readily attach itself to your problems. This is why, for so many people, a large part of their sense of self is intimately connected with their problems. Once this has happened, the last thing they want is to become free of them; that would mean loss of self. There can be a great deal of unconscious ego investment in pain and suffering." - Eckhart Tolle
  • "Try to work so you live your life in Tranquility" - Unknown
  • "There is nothing safer and less likely to lead us astray then the darkness of faith . . . the very darkness acts as our guide" - Jean Pierre de Caussade
  • "When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need." - Tao Te Ching
  • "Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth." - Mike Tyson
  • "When you look for your own mind, that is to say your own particularized center of being, which is separate from everything else, you won't be able to find it. The only way you'll know it isn't there is if you look for it hard enough to find out it isn't there." -Alan Watts
  • "As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you certainly cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter." – Eckhart Tolle
  • "If you consider the ego to be your personal problem, that’s just more ego." - Eckhart Tolle
  • "When all your desires are distilled. You will cast just two votes. To love more and be happy" - Hafiz
  • "Finally, I am coming to the conclusion that my highest ambition is to be what I already am." - Thomas Merton
  • "Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment." - Rumi
  • "Doubt is too lonely a pain to know that faith is his twin brother." - Kahlil Gibran
  • "We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are." -Talmud
  • "I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve." Albert Schweitzer
  • "The usefulness of the cup is it's emptiness." - Bruce Lee
  • "The only purpose of a resentment is so I don't have to look at what I'm doing."
  • "Trying to control thoughts with thoughts is like trying to bite your own teeth" - Alan Watts
  • "Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone" - Alan Watts
  • "No one is more dangerously insane than one who is sane all the time: he is like a steel bridge without flexibility, and the order of his life is rigid and brittle"- Alan Watts
  • "It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so" - Mark Twain
  • March 5 Courage to Change, removing impatience
  • "We come together to remind one another, to rest for a moment on the forming edges of our lives, to raise the headlong tumble into the next moment, until we claim for ourselves awareness and gratitude. The place of silence and laughter, memory and hope, is hallowed by our presence together." - Confirmation by Kathleen McTigue
  • "What happens outside of me belongs to someone else. What happens inside of me belongs to me."
  • "When the student is ready to learn, the teacher will appear."