HOW TO USE THIS LESSON: The webpage below is intended to be projected for students to follow along. It includes basic instructions, definitions, etc. to guide students. Depending on your technology, you can have a student in charge of scrolling through the site, on your cues. Just have them try not to scroll past the thin purple dividers or thick colored banners until you are ready to start that next section!
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Objective: You will learn about the difference between sympathy and empathy, and will better understand how to cultivate empathetic responses to others in need around them.
Empathy is the ability to feel the emotions of others, like the expression “putting yourself in their shoes.” We are all born with empathy circuits in the brain, but much like anything, empathy is a skill that needs to be cultivated and practiced over time. Empathy is a very important emotion and skill, as it can help us understand and connect with others in a manner like nothing else. It is essential in effective communication, teamwork, cooperation, and many other life skills.
Most people conflate empathy with sympathy. Although they are like cousins, empathy goes beyond a sympathetic response of understanding someone’s pain or elation by having the recipient of the encounter feel, or emotionally connect with, the pain or elation of the other person. This is done by a process in the brain called mirror neurons. This process elicits a physiological response, usually induced from a past experience that the recipient has also experienced themselves.
Reflect on the following prompt:
Can you think of a time in which you may have had an empathetic response to someone?
What did you feel? How did you react to them?
Active listening
Share the space
Confidentiality of names when sharing stories of others
Be present
Avoid “one upping” behavior
Do not try to solve a problem
Use caring language/comments (ex: “thank you for sharing”)
Watch body language
Listening
Caring
Feeling others' pain or elation
Feeling "with" rather than "for"
Connection
Vulnerability
Feeling sorry for someone
Pity
Solving or giving advice
Interrupting
Running from it or ignoring it
Shutting down
Did this video help you better understand the difference between sympathy and empathy? How so?
“I try to imagine how I would feel in someone’s situation.”
“When I know someone is upset, I try and talk to them about it.”
“When someone is upset, I try and remember a time I when felt the same way.”
“When someone is in distress, my actions tell them that I understand.”
When I don't understand someone's point of view, I ask questions to learn more.
When I'm reading a book or watching a movie, I think about how I would react if I was one of the characters.
When a friend is upset, I try to show them that I understand how they feel.
I've been known to say, "you are wrong" when someone is sharing their opinion.