How Can We Help?

Supporting Someone with DID in Real Life

Understanding is the first step—but action matters too. 

• Be Supportive, Not Curious

  • Avoid invasive questions about their alters or trauma.

  • Respect their boundaries. If they share, listen. If they don’t, don’t push.

• Use Respectful Language

  • Use the name and pronouns each alter asks for—just like you would with anyone else.

  • Avoid words like “split,” “crazy,” or “multiple personality.”

• Be Trustworthy

  • Many people with DID have experienced betrayal or abuse.

  • Keep their privacy safe. Never share their diagnosis unless they allow it

  • Be patient if they have memory gaps or seem distant.

• Advocate Against Stigma

  • Correct misinformation when you hear it.