Give your child the gift of social connection, of experiencing big, real emotions and resolving conflict. Give your children the gift of boredom, creativity and ingenuity.

This article by the Center for Humane Technology outlines some simple ideas for detoxing ourselves and our children.

Step #1 Ask yourself, “what is the purpose of this tool that I am giving my child?”

If it is an iPad or computer, perhaps academics is the purpose, in which case – get rid of games and apps and lock it down with parental controls.

If it’s a phone, perhaps connecting with parents, family and friends is the purpose. Disable access to the internet, lock down their ability to access apps without permission. Limit use to texting and calling. And, yes, you have the right to monitor.

Step #2 Turn off notifications and any sounds that may indicate an incoming message or text – those can be alluring, hard to ignore and distracting.

Step #3 Set usage time limits and “do not disturb” settings for bedtime and wake time.

Step #4 Set boundaries like “device free dinners” or “tech free days.”

Step #5 Create a charging station at home that is out of bedrooms. Have a separate alarm for the bedroom, so your phone isn’t the first thing of focus in the morning.

Step #6 Focus on the positive. There is a lot of negative chatter that happens on line. Learn to filter.

A rise in negative and inappropriate language may be the result of children having access to online venues that are not targeted to their age group. A rise in the sharing of inappropriate or scary images also indicates access to content that is not age compatible. This kind of content can make kids feel isolated, confused and uncomfortable. Forums like TikTok and Snapchat inundate our children with unhelpful, negative messaging that is hard to filter. It’s easier to be mean online – simply don’t allow your child to be part of the conversation.

Setting parental controls, releasing content when your child is ready and having open conversations regularly will prepare them to communicate appropriately online, recognize content as helpful or unhelpful, truthful or imaginary, and create a more balance lifestyle.