Your child says, “I feel lonely.” “Nobody understands me.” “Everybody hates me.” “You don’t love me.”

You find those word hard to understand. Your child has everything they need. You play with them, listen to them, laugh with them. You love them.

Often, we think of love and loving someone as an easy, carefree, smooshy, mushy, fun way to express ourselves. Usually, though, really loving someone means self-sacrifice and putting others first.

When we’re expressing love using our own love language, it CAN feel easy, carefree and smooshy. But when we’re expressing our own love language towards someone who has a different love language, they might NOT feel the love.

Understanding the activities that make others, specifically your partner, your children and other significant people in your life, will help you better meet their emotional needs.

There is no better time than right now to take on the challenge of loving someone.

FIRST: Have each person in your family take the love language quiz. This is a link to a child’s quiz, a teens quiz, a couples quiz and a singles quiz

Next: Learn about the love languages.

Then: Start loving

It’s That Easy!

If taking on the task of loving everyone in their very special way sounds like too much, try these fun ideas.

1. Put family names in a hat. Each person pick a name and love that person for a whole week.

2. You might keep it a secret and at the end of the week, try to guess who was loving you.

3. Make a wheel that each person gets to spin each morning to find out who they are going to love that day.

4. Each parent take a turn focusing on one child’s love language each day.

Assess: How did focussing on someone’s love language change your relationship with them. Did you notice any behavior shifts? Was discipline easier?

Loving kids/people in a way that makes sense for them will increase their self-esteem and confidence. When emotional needs are met, people feel connected. Connection is absolutely what we all need right now!

Have fun loving each other!