What's Love got to do with it?

I cannot trust my partner.

I refuse to be controlled.

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Although you may be making different statements, what I hear is the pain of the possible loss of your relationship. You started out with love, caring, fun and now problems that you probably never expected have arisen. You each probably feel alone and isolated–something you also never expected in your life together. What happened?

What I know is that feeling the pain that you are both going through is the normal experiencing of stress in a relationship. You’ve been angry and struggling for a while. What I also know is that it is very difficult to live with indecision. Yes, one minute you want to be with your partner, and no, the next. I know the pain and confusion that comes. I know the pain and confusion from fear of a relationship breaking up—gone sour. I know that there are steps that you can take.

Often the best step is to get help.

People continually ask me how I can do this work, listening to people's traumas, issues and problems. The following note from a client who is a domestic violence survivor really touches me and answers that question. I have her permission to print it.

Dearest Zora:

Upon the advice of a friend, I came to you in January of this year [2008] broken, diminished, and in despair. Today, I feel stronger, more empowered and resilient than I’ve ever felt in my entire life. This is in large part, of course, due to your gift of therapy. Thank you for helping to put me back together again. M.

I, of course, did not put M. back together. She did the work and I am deeply honored that she allowed me to accompany her on her healing journey, and to be able to provide the safe space for her to do so.

I would encourage you not to go through this alone. I’d like to hear your story and offer you the help that I know is available. I would be equally honored to provide the safe space and to accompany you on your healing journey. You don’t have to wait another day. Please call me at 415-474-6707. I look forward to speaking with you to help you rekindle the spark you felt–returning to your journey to Peace and Passion.




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