I recently attended a Parenting Teenagers Course Dublin, it was facilitated by Dr. John Sharry, among other things, Dr. Sharry is a well known child psychotherapist as well as the author of at least 7 self help books on “Parenting”.
Dr. Sharry “parenting teenagers” was very informative, and his approach is very easy and open. I definitely picked up some great tips. There was one big thing that I took from the whole experience ; “Respect”; if we do not respect our teenagers how can we expect them to respect us! Actually if we do not respect others how can we expect them to respect us !!
Respect – as per Wikepedia :
Respect denotes both a positive feeling of esteem for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conductrepresentative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected ;
Its simple things like, giving them 100% attention when they are talking to us, listening to them, discussing the issues with them, asking their opinion, taking their views on board. It can make such a difference to your relationships.
Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves. ~Virginia Satir, The New Peoplemaking, 1988
Parenting teenagers is challenging, but not without its rewards. “Teenagerism” is a phase like the “terrible twos” eventually it will pass. If we want to be truthful we have all been there! I think the key is to relax and enjoy our children no matter what phase they are going through.