Gay


Gay is the word used to a person who is romantically and sexually 
attracted to people of the same sex. It is most commonly used to
describe men and boys who are attracted to other men and boys.


How do you know?
Some people know from a really young age that they are gay, but some
people are not sure until they get older and start thinking about
relationships. Some boys also realise that they prefer boys although
they have previously had relationships with girls. Being attracted
to someone of the same sex is completely normal.

Stereotypes
There are lots of stereotypes out there about being a gay but it is
important to realise that you do not have to change dramatically because
of your sexual preference. After all you are still you, whoever you are 
attracted to. The problem with stereotypes is that they can make you feel
that just by being gay you have to look, dress or act in a certain
way because other people expect you to. 

Gay men are often stereotyped as being quite 
feminine (girly) and not like straight men.

Some people think that all gay men sleep around a lot and are always
interested in having anal sex. This is another stereotype and is not true
for everyone, some gay men don’t have anal sex or only have
a small number of partners throughout their life.

The truth is that all men are different, and no two men are interested in
exactly the same things, whether they are bi, gay or straight! After all,
your sexual identity is only part of your personality and does
not have to influence everything that you do.

Prejudice
Unfortunately people who are gay do sometimes experience prejudice 
from others because these people think it is not normal to be gay. This is
called homophobia, and it is important to know that people who think
this are wrong. More importantly our society has systems in place to stop
this sort of discrimination. Being gay is completely normal and you have
the right to be who you are and have relationships without
feeling that you have to keep it a secret.

Meeting other people
Some people find joining a gay club or society really helpful, especially
when they do not know many other gay people, as it can give them the
opportunity to meet like-minded people. Growing up as a gay man is
not always easy and it can be very helpful to meet other people who
understand any worries or difficulties you may be having. Of course that
does not mean that you can only have gay or bi friends, 
or that your straight friends won’t understand you.
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