Happiness

I used to be 300 pounds of fat and unhappy.  

I'm not either anymore.  Here's why. 

I've lost 140 lbs this millennium.

It seems like an eternity.

These outdoor photos were taken summer 2003.

I was just under 250 pounds:

I used to weigh over 300 pounds. I'm not sure about the exact number because my scale only went up to 280 pounds and I threw it out after it swung 15 pounds past that mark. The same problem exists for photographs; I am having a devil of a time finding "before" pictures for my"before and after" series. For some reason, all those fat pictures mysteriously disappeared. One suspects arson...

Rest assured, however, that I know all about health, nutrition, and weight loss....as well as a few other things about happiness in general.

 My goal was to be an athlete by the time I turned 35.

I'm way ahead of schedule:

 

Circa 2002, I tried to slit my wrists.

 

Since then, I've read a few things...

 

And tried a shit-load of new stuff.


Keep Trying

After trying to kill myself because I hated everything about my life, I decided to scrap everything and start over because I NEVER wanted to feel that way again.

This is the cornerstone of my new life philosophy:

If nothing you do has worked, try something else.

The key is to try anythingand everything, especially things you (only think) you can't or shouldn't do. The reality is that no one is going to stop you, except you.

In truth, I really did kill myself that day. The person I am today is beyond the wildest hopes and dreams of the sad girl I used to be. I'm still sort of fat, and I still suffer from depression, but I am getting better every day.

Before, I didn't think happiness was possible. Now, I am happy a surprising amount of the time. I am glad to be able to share some of the things that have worked for me.

The secret of success and fame

The secret to success and fame is to be fully oneself. Only when a person is truly living up to their individual potential can they achieve success. This entails having higher standards and sticking to them. It also involves a little self work.

Begin by stripping away all the conditioning and training that is forced upo...

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Book Review: Learned Optimism & Buddhism

This is the story of a book, a philosophy, and how the two are inextricably intertwined in my mind. The book is Learned Optimism by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D. The philosophy is Buddhism. Both were initially first recommended to me by the first shrink I ever saw twice.

She recommended both book and philosophy highly. I didn't listen...

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Learned Optimism, the synopsis

When things happen, we choose how to react. Usually, this is an unconscious choice we make by default based on how we're wired. That wiring can be changed, however, with the addition of some basic logic:

Some events make me unhappy.
I can't change those events.
I can change the way I perceive those events.
Changing ...

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Learned Optimism was incredibly influential upon me, as was Wayne C. Dyer; first his book "Your Erroneous Zones" and now a great seminar on the Power of Intention:

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I was able to dredge a lot out of The Secret and its predecessor "The Science of Getting Rich" as well:

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I'm not giving these last two 100% unqualified endorsements, of course, but there is definitely some good stuff in there, despite the excessively materialistic slant.

The Secret, in particular, is responsible for changing many of my friend's lives for the better. When it first came out, it was a free download for the first month or so. I burned that bad boy and gave a copy to everyone I cared about for Christmas that year. Those of us who weren't skeptical asses are all incomparably happier than we were, what, less than two years ago?

The real key is gratitude. Just be happy for what you've got while going for what you want and things will almost magically keep getting better. It really is that simple.

Way of the Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman

Way of the Peaceful Warrior, a Book That Changes Lives is the first of twelve self-help books written by Dan Millman. Prior to becoming a writer, Millman's professional background was gymnastics and teaching, as was that of his lead character. This book is a fictional autobiography, which he categorized in an interview wit...

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Bras suck, but can they kill?


I have never liked wearing a bra but I never thought it could be bad for my health. I was researching online to try to determine my bra size but instead uncovered evidence suggesting that not only is wearing a bra unnecessary but it may actually cause physical harm.

For thousands of years, ...

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Bad Habits


How I quit smoking cigarettes

I began smoking the summer of 1989, when I was thirteen years old. I told myself I could quit at any time. Seventeen years later, I finally quit smoking at 12:00 am September 25th, 2006.

It still seems unreal that I'm a nonsmoker now. Even though I don't miss cigarettes at all, being a nonsmoker didn't fit in with my s...


How I stopped biting my nails


So how did I finally quit biting my fingernails? Only one thing ever worked for me: Love. Love your nails. Love yourself. What gave me the psychological strength to quit was a friend's observation that nail biting was his least favorite of "all the self-destructive habits".

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How to break bad habits


It helps to first try to understand the habit. What benefits does it provide? Why do you do it in the first place? We can list pros and cons all day but one side will always win out over the other generally, the side that requires no effort on our part.

Why do you want to break the habit? Is it your idea or someone ...

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The importance of sunscreen

The irony of this article is that I still refuse to wear sunscreen to this day, as it is actually toxic and I am better off just avoiding getting burnt. This, and many other wild notions, comes from my habit of reading Dr. Mercola's newsletter, which may be found at:

http://www.mercola.com/


One of the questionable perks of my job is that I get to see a lot of naked old people. At first, this was a little uncomfortable and I would politely not look while I was helping them get dressed. After awhile I got kind of numb to it and now my curiosity is bringing me to make some observations.

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Food


Changing Perceptions of Fat

I have been noticing fat on other people lately. It looks like it has been placed there as an afterthought, almost as if there wasn't room for it in the original design. Like clutter hurriedly shoved into a closet before company arrives, it threatens the integrity of the bulging door seams before spilling out and encroaching upon the rest of the room. It makes me think of alien invaders, taking over a host body and distorting it beyond recognition. Only this attack of the body snatchers isn't sudden and external, rather it comes slowly and with its delicious friends: fat, sugar and processed foods.

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Vitamins and your health

Vitamin supplements are not a substitute for a wholesome diet. No pill can replace the body's own internal magic as it converts food into fuel. Think about this for a moment: What exactly does one need to eat each day in order to get the maximum amount of nutrients and the minimum amount of leftover waste? Is there a bare m...

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Debating "Super Foods"

Inarguably, some foods are definitely nutritionally superior to others. That does not necessarily impart "super powers" to these foods, as some might hope. The very idea of a "super food" implies that eating it will somehow magically undo all the damage caused by regular consumption of non-super foods.

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Food Combining

(Trophology)

Food Combining for a Healthy Digestive System

In a nutshell, food combining maximizes digestion. It is also the preferred diet to prepare one's body for fasting and detoxification.

A blind man, a man with one leg, and a soccer mom walk into a bar. They bet the bartender a drink if he can correctly guess which of them is diabetic. The punch line is that they all are and what sounds like a bad joke is actually my family. We are fat and we are sick. This is my future and that of millions of Americans unless we completely change the way we think about food.

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Recommended Reading

Bragg Live Foods - The Miracle of Fasting

Food Combining Charts

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World's Healthiest Foods

Complete nutrient information on 130 wholesome foods

The World's Healthiest Foods

Essential Nutrients

Happiness

Ways to boost your natural endorphins and general happiness


Endorphins are Nature's club drug. Most drugs that make us feel good do so by endorphin release. Unlike prescription, over-the-counter, and street drugs; endorphins are produced within the human body for free, and without all the icky side effects. There is no question that endorphins make us feel good. So how do we har...


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Linguistic Musings

The first verb we learn in Spanish is "ser" = "to be". Conjugated, it becomes: I am = yo soy, you are = tu eres. These words are the fundamentals of language structure and the basis for identity - our metaphysical grounding in the here and now.

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Dry Skin Brushing

Center University Dry Skin Brushing Instructions


Women Beauty: Skin Brushing for Detox


EFT (Tapping)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

EFT Emotional Freedom Technique Addressing Money Issues Demo

Introduction to Tapping - EFT from Tapping.com

The Science of Tapping - EFT from Tapping.com

Self Acceptance - EFT from Tapping.com

Killing Procrastination - EFT from Tapping.com

Stress Relief - EFT from Tapping.com

Anger Management - EFT from Tapping.com

Waking Up - EFT from Tapping.com

Insomnia - Tapping.com

Forgiveness - EFT from Tapping.com

Quit Smoking - EFT from Tapping.com

Memory Release - EFT from Tapping.com

Chakra Clearing - EFT from Tapping.com


Karaoke TherapyStatCounter - Free Web Tracker and Counter

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Once in awhile, I do parties with my portable, hand-held, All-In-The-Mic Karaoke Player. The microphone connects directly to most TV / Stereo Systems and provides scrolling lyrics right on the TV screen.

Singing Karaoke in a supportive and loving environment has been demonstrated to remarkably improve confidence, posture, and even singing ability.

Recommended Therapeutic Songs for Empowerment:

ADDICTED TO LOVE ROBERT PALMER

ALL I WANNA DO SHERYL CROW

ANOTHER BRICK IN THE WALL PART II PINK FLOYD

BELIEVE CHER

BORN TO BE WILD STEPPENWOLF

CONTROL JANET JACKSON

DO YOU THINK I'M SEXY ROD STEWART

DO YOU REALLY WANT TO HURT ME CULTURE CLUB

DON'T YOU WANT ME HUMAN LEAGUE

DREAM ON AEROSMITH

EYE OF THE TIGER SURVIVOR

FAITH GEORGE MICHAEL

FAME IRENE CARA

FLASH DANCE WHAT A FEELING IRENE CARA

HAND IN MY POCKET ALANIS MORISSETTE

HERE COMES THE SUN THE BEATLES

HIT ME WITH YOUR BEST SHOT PAT BENATAR

I HATE MYSELF FOR LOVING YOU JOAN JETT & THE BLACKHEARTS

I WILL SURVIVE GLORIA GAYNOR

I WANT YOU TO WANT ME CHEAP TRICK

I'M TOO SEXY RIGHT SAID FRED

IRONIC ALANIS MORISSETTE

IT'S A SIN PET SHOP BOYS

JUST THE WAY YOU ARE BILLY JOEL

LET IT BE THE BEATLES

LIVIN' LA VIDA LOCA RICKY MARTIN

LOSING MY RELIGION R.E.M.

MY WAY FRANK SINATRA

MY LIFE BILLY JOEL

PAPA DON'T PREACH MADONNA

RIGHT HERE AND NOW BILL MEDLEY

SEXUAL HEALING MARVIN GAYE

SHE BOP CYNDI LOUPER

SHOUT TEARS FOR FEARS

SINGIN' IN THE RAIN GENE KELLY

TREAT ME RIGHT PAT BENATAR

TWO PRINCES SPIN DOCTORS

UNDER MY THUMB ROLLING STONES

VENUS BANANARAMA

WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS QUEEN

YOU OUGHTA KNOW ALANIS MORISSETTE

Not necessarily therapeutic but Sunshine just loves these songs:

ANY WAY YOU WANT IT JOURNEY

CARELESS WHISPER WHAM

COME TOGETHER BEATLES

I FEEL THE EARTH MOVE CAROLE KING

I JUST DIED IN YOUR ARMS CUTTING CREW

I'M SO EXCITED POINTER SISTERS

IMAGINE JOHN LENNON

LOVIN' TOUCHIN' SQUEEZIN' JOURNEY

SELF-CONTROL LAURA BRANIGAN

STAND BY YOUR MAN TAMMY WYNETTE

SUMMER OF '69 BRYAN ADAMS

TAKE MY BREATH AWAY BERLIN

TOTAL ECLIPSE OF THE HEART BONNIE TYLER

UPTOWN GIRL BILLY JOEL

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN PERCY SLEDGE

YOU'VE LOST THAT LOVIN FEELIN' HALL AND OATES

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That said, please feel free to share at will.

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Current laws screw independent artists in favor of padding corporate pockets.

Watch what you wanna watch. Read what you wanna read. Share it all.

Fuck corporate ownership.

Feel The Love.

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