Jerry had a huge page where he posted emails he received and wrote. Here are just a few. Indented text is original; everything not indented is my own. Names may or may not be pseudonyms. There was at least one email that Jerry chose not to post and reply to - found here. This one is noticeably far more intelligent than any of what Jerry did post. Perhaps he only posted the messages that put trans people in a poor light.
I am offering to meet with you and Charlene out of a sense of duty as a Christian to follow the proscriptions in Matthew for some one who has a dispute with another Christian. I feel that the course of your ministry is in violation of biblical principles.
Jerry and I talked a number of years ago and I expressed at that time my feelings. Unfortunately I have observed enough damage to marriages that could have survived in spite of the counsel given.
I will be countering Jerry's web site and written material with well researched non biased material from reputable sources, i.e. peer reviewed journals, and the latest in genetic and endocrine system research. I am going back to the roots of material on reparative therapy. I have checked copyright laws and under far use will use quotes freely.
I have never expressed anything other than love and concern for Jerry. If he chooses not to take this offer, then that is his to make. I will be passing through on Sunday the 19th and back on the 26th and would meet them for lunch/dinner depending on when we roll through. I will have a cell phone so can give a heads up some hours out and arrange a meeting place close to I75.
Your offer to meet with us to discuss/dispute certain matters concerning our approach towards bringing restoration to damaged lives, following the Matthew 18 passage, is totally out of sync with the way things are between us.
We do not know you at all. Nor do you know us.
The so-called duty/mission you feel you have in front of you ... to set an erring brother & sister straight would be most fitting to those with whom you are in regular and deeply, committed and personal relationship/fellowship, according to Matthew 18.
You may have spoken with me years ago, (how many years ago was that?) -- but that falls terribly short of being in the kind of genuinely caring, committed relationship with us in which you have the "duty" to bring correction into our lives and ministry. Your intention is clearly stated: you will be "countering our website," etc., as well as any other proven method employed to bring healing to the emotionally wounded transsexual. However it is that you wish to cloak your religious pretense is just that: pretense. I'm sorry, but your "loving concern and generous offer" to meet with us personally over a dinner and cup of tea seems contradictory to your stated intent and over-riding purpose.
Sandra, on her website, completed her research titled Reparative Therapy. Years later, Jerry claimed that Sandra was in violation of Fair Use after all but couldn't back up his claims.
Hi back, Melissa!Once at the center of the ex-gay movement including president of PFOX, Richard Cohen was rejected from the APA for ethics violations and rejected from the ex-gay movement at large when the public began seeing his absurd methods. Two such methods were "holding therapy" where the client curls up in the therapist's lap to symbolically restore their parental relationship and hitting a pillow with a blunt object to take out one's anger against their parent. Jerry, like many others, removes the Cohen references. This correspondence page was replaced with an identical one, minus this email to "Melissa." Cohen's ideas are no different than anyone else in the ex-gay movement, but he has gotten more bad press than others.
I would encourage you to read Richard Cohen's insightful and helpful book, Coming Out Straight.
I do not identify myself as a transsexual...but as a man who once believed that the thoughts, feelings, and actions of the gender confused marked him forever as a man caught in a trap from which he could not extricate himself. I have learned however, that transsexual thoughts and feelings are just that: thoughts and feelings which, if left unchecked, become full-blown actions. "As a man thinks and feels in his heart, so is he."
If they want to be women so badly, they should have to take it ALL... menstruation, pms, pregnancy, 3am feedings, menopause, headaches, poopy diapers, vomit down your left leg at 4am, daily house-cleaning, laundry each & every day, (not just when you feel like doing it!); doing the grocery shopping with a tired three year old; and having the meal ready by the time your spouse gets home. You know, ... the WHOLE package. That would eliminate the demand for SRS once and for all! ;-) No man would ever want to be a woman if he had to take all THAT with it!
In the article, True Masculinity/Femininity, I explore the meaning of these sex stereotypes.
See my page on Joseph Nicolosi. Note that Nicolosi later claimed to have had success with transexual children.
In a recent personal interview with Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, I asked him, “What is the success rate you have had with Reparative Therapy for the transsexual?” His answer? None!
healing he promises in his introduction.
I do occasionally contend with old thoughts and emotions from within, but have found that I do not have to let them rule my choices and behaviors.Josef Kirchner, while angry about having transitioned, wrote a few pieces for Jerry. After a change of heart, he
It's not so much a matter that I am confronted with old transsexual sensual desires from time to time; but rather a matter of how it is that I choose to deal with the first thoughts that emerge. That's the real question.
I do not identify myself as a transsexual...but as a man who once believed that the thoughts, feelings, and actions of the gender confused marked him forever as a man caught in a trap from which he could not extricate himself. I have learned however, that transsexual thoughts and feelings are just that: thoughts and feelings which, if left unchecked, become full-blown actions. . . my battle with gender confusion is ongoing, for it is among one of the most resilient and resistant deviations to remedy; due chiefly to the early onset of the psychological disruption in the formation of a person’s core-gender-identity; which is understood to be fixed by the age of 7 to 8 years.
I’ve lost many more skirmishes than I care to talk about. . . . I've also become increasingly aware of its fierce tenacity to unexpectedly resurface and overwhelm you if you aren’t always vigilant. . . . I may well have occasional transsexual desires looming within my heart for the rest of my life.
asked for me [Jerry] to remove his name from my website wherever it was found, which I did immediately.
He did not. Both his name and at least one, long email Josef wrote stayed up. In fact, it even stayed on this same page! Deviously, in the about email he avoids saying Josef's name so as not to be so obviously hypocritical.