QUOTES about PARENTING

When making family decisions always put your children first; then when you become the aged child your children will put you first. Bona

We must not doubt our ability in building a future based on fresh concepts; otherwise we lose impetus and leave our children with stagnant ideas. Matthew Schiller

I think a child calling for his mother is the most beautiful sound in the world. True Compass by Ted Kennedy

My baby’s first words were Coca Cola and the second was Mummy. Proverb

Deep in the cavern of the infant’s breast; the father’s nature lurks, and lives anew. Horace

It is wise father that knows his own child. Shakespeare

An angry father is most cruel toward himself. Syrus

We find delight in the beauty and happiness of children that makes the heart too big for the body. Emerson

Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. Leo Tolstoy

Children begin by loving their parents. After a time they judge them. Rarely, if ever, do they forgive them. Oscar Wilde

I think the family is the place where the most ridiculous and least respectable things in the world go on. Ugo Betti

The parents’ age must be remembered, both for joy and anxiety. Confucius

A divorced or widowed lone parent had no choice and struggles to make good for their children, an unmarried single mother makes good use of her children. T. James 

Parents and children lend their experience and vicarious memory; children endow their parents with a vicarious immortality. Santayana

I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it. Harry S Truman

When a girl who has no career prospects, no reasonable income, no home of her own, no husband, and then brings a baby into that environment; she is a bad mother. Ginger

This is the reason why mothers are more devoted to their children than fathers; it is that they suffer more in giving them birth and are more certain that they are their own. Aristotle

A child’s nature is too serious a thing to admit of its being regarded as a mere appendage to another being. Charles Lamb

Your children need your presence more than your presents. Jesse Jackson

Men are what their mothers made them. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Who takes the child by the hand, takes the mother by the heart. Proverb

Children are the anchors that hold a mother to life. Sophocles

You lay, a small knuckle on my white bed; lay, that fist like a snail, small and strong at my breast. Your lips are animals; you are fed with love. At first, hunger is not wrong. Anne Sexton

The new-come stepmother hates the children born to a first wife. Euripides

Love, children, and work, are the great sources of fertilizing contact between the individual and the rest of the world. Bertrand Russell

Where parents do too much for their children, the children will not do much for themselves. Elbert Hubbard

When my kids become wild and unruly, I use a nice, safe playpen. When they're finished, I climb out. Erma Bombeck

Children, when they are little, they make parents fools; when great, mad. John Ray

Encourage our kids to dream: Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it we go nowhere. Carl Sagan

Motherhood: All love begins and ends there. Robert Browning

Parentage is a very important profession; but no test of fitness for it is ever imposed in the interest of the children. George Bernard Shaw

We never know the love of our parents for us till we become parents. Henry Ward Beecher

The day you're born, you get the pink slip on YOU.  Outright ownership.  You must only share that life with those that you and only you choose. Dean Martin: From: Dean and Me: a Love Story by Jerry Lewis

Mothers hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever. Anonymous

How often do we not see children ruined through the virtues, real or supposed, of their parents? Samuel Butler

Through the survival of their children, happy parents are able to think calmly, and with a very practical affection, of a world in which they are to have no direct share. Walter Pater

During his years in India as a teacher, this author tells us: “I had the joy of meeting a baby guerrilla. At least I was told she was a baby; she was about 30 inches tall, weighed about 40 pounds and was strong. Her mother had been shot, illegally, by a hunter from whom the baby had been rescued.  She had intelligent, soft brown eyes set deep in a black leathery face, thick coarse hair and delicate hands with small fingernails.  The thing she wanted most was close living contact. We sat at the foot of a palm tree in a warm embrace. … It was a relationship I found difficult to terminate. How do you detach a reluctant guerrilla which can hold on with all or any one of its 4 limbs, when I could only react with 2? Eventually, she did a somersault  using my chest as a jumping-off ground.”  Quote from: Edge of Daylight by Eddie Askew

The character and history of each child may be a new and poetic experience to the parent, if he will let it. Margaret Fuller

The best way to make children good is to make them happy. Oscar Wilde

If our society were truly to appreciate the significance of children’s emotional ties throughout the first years of life, it would no longer tolerate children growing up or parents having to struggle in situations which could not possibly nourish healthy growth. Stanley Greenspan M.D.

There is little less trouble in governing a private family than a whole kingdom. Montaigne

Not overjoy, truly, Women know the way to rear up children (to be just). They know a simple, merry, tender knack of tying sashes, fitting baby-shoes, and stringing pretty words that make no sense, and kissing full sense into empty words, which things are corals to cut life upon. Although such trifles; children learn by such, love’s holy earnest in a pretty play … Source accreditation: Aurora Leigh by Elizabeth Barrett Browning


The joys of parents are secret, and so are their grief’s and fears: they cannot utter the one, nor they will not utter the other. Francis Bacon

Singer Carole King, while delighting motherhood, often found it difficult to balance child-rearing with her growing career. She recounts that, after the birth of her second child: Meeting the needs of two little beings soon made my role somewhat more complicated. I soon found myself saying things that all parents swear, as children, that they'll never say to their children: “Share your toys!” and “Stop that right now!” became part of my daily vocabulary, along with “No bickering!” and “Because I said so.” Quote cited by: A Natural Woman: A Memoir by Carole King 

Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them. James Baldwin

Your children are not your children; they are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself. Kahlil Gibran

Now we are three, My darling and her darling’s darling, And humbly, me. Source: David O. Selznick to his wife after the birth of their first child.

When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years. Mark Twain

Adoptive mother of writer Jackie Kay recounts: I remember waiting and waiting for news of your birth. Finally, I was told you were born, and you were a girl, but you were not healthy. And they advised me to come and pick out another baby, because you weren't expected to live.” Jackie herself continues: My mum wouldn't pick out another baby; she already felt that I belonged to her. Perhaps this love, this interest, is what made me survive against the odds. Quote source: Red Dust Road by Jackie Kay 

Parents are sometimes a bit of a disappointment to their children. They seldom fulfill the promise of their early years. Anthony Powell

Always strive to be a better parent to your children than your parents were to you. Daline Bateman-Barlow

Fathers and mothers are just people, which means they make mistakes. Don't hold that against them. Whatever flaws they may have, they created you in a moment of love, and are among the few who knew you when. When they're gone, there won't be anyone to take their place. The autobiography by Ernest Borgnine

Brooke Hayward grew up in a privileged home, both her parents being part of the Hollywood glitterati. One Christmas, a family friend created a doll’s house for Brooke, exquisitely crafted, with hand-carved furniture. As Brooke stood awed and wide-eyed at the gift, her mother asked if she would be generous enough to let her younger sister play with it on occasion. That question wrecked Brooke’s pleasure; after that, she was never able to fully enjoy this Doll’s house. Quote source: Haywire by Brooke Hayward.

Anecdote: When I was small, my brother and I agreed to a trade of toys. Ownership was inviolate more-or-less, sharing and lending uncommon. Later, while my brother was reveling in his acquisition, I realized I wanted my toy back, so began to plead for it. Our parents explained, in a gentle but absolute way, that having made an agreement, I would need to stand by it. While tear filled and frustrated at the time, I have long felt grateful to them for this early lesson in fairness. Quote by Carol Strong

We don’t think of mothers as having super powers, but they do. They know we have a fever without a thermometer. … They can tell we're sad by the way we say “ I'm fine”, and they can turn us into them without us even knowing how or when. Quote from: The Amazing Adventures of an Ordinary Woman by Lisa Scottoline.

When Mum and Dad come to stay, it is really hard work keeping them entertained; everything is slow and tensioned; I think about all their goodness and what they did for me and the patience they had; and this makes their visits a homage for me in that I am given the opportunity to be, or try to be as wonderful as they are. Marcia Bona Bowen

Midwives are privy to many aspects of life unknown to the world at large. As one midwife writes in 2010: “In some cultures, we've had mothers who turn their heads away when they give birth to a third female child. They are blamed for producing a baby of the “wrong” gender. I've seen limousines arrive at the hospital to collect a woman who has given birth to a boy-there’s great pomp and ceremony, with drums and dancing. But when a girl is born, there are no such celebrations.” Quote source: One Born every Minute by Maria Dore and Ros Bradbury

Actress Jill Ireland, from her earliest moments with her adopted son, said, while rocking and cuddling him, “I love you, my sweet little adopted boy. She used the word “adopted” deliberately, knowing he was likely to hear the word “adopted” spoken, in years to come, in regard to himself. For this reason, she hoped to instill in his mind the word with memories of warmth, tenderness and affection. Quote source: Life Lines by Jill Ireland

I hope this example was passed on among all your other worldly tasks; to leave a family founded heritage; or is this too much to ask. Francis Norris  


After her father’s death, the mother of this memoirist secluded herself in her bedroom, taking on only the most basic child-care tasks.  Feeling all but orphaned by the death of one parent and the virtual abandonment by the other, she recounts: I cannot take another minute of this. Before I know what’s happening, I am pounding with both fists on that stupid, blank, closed door, and when she opens it, I’m screaming in her face, “Enough!  You're miserable and you're making us miserable. … What’s wrong with you?  Pappy died; are you going to die too?  Then what happens to me and Junior?  Stop it already, Mommy, stop it!” Her plea proved successful. Source: My beloved world by Sonia Sotomayor

Who needs each other more than the parent or the child; it is the leveling of success or failure of the each, and only the two can make it happen. At some point one must give way. Bruce Turnstone 

Husband and father Todd Beamer was one of those trapped on the plane which was hijacked and crashed by terrorists in Pennsylvania during the 9-11 2001 attack.  His wife, Lisa, recounts her efforts to explain his death to their son: David had no context in which to place the experience of death.  No-one he had ever known well, in his three and a half years, had died.  I tried to explain, “When a person dies, he can't come home and he can’t call us on the phone.  He can't talk to us, and we can't talk to him.  … Daddy wanted to come back, but he couldn’t.  He loved us, and we love him.  We can still talk about him, but we can't talk to him.  … Daddy won't be coming home, and we won't see him here anymore.”   …
In a later conversation, her son said, “Mommy, when I die, I'm going to choose to come home.” Source: Let’s Roll by Lisa Beamer

An adoptive father of twin boys describes his and his wife’s first encounter with their new infant sons: There was not a lot of talking to be done.  We were simply awestruck at the sudden sequence of events.  We sat on the couch and placed the boys between us and stared at them. After that, we each experienced holding both of them. … There had been a subtle but critical change within me. … I was no longer afraid of being a father; now I was afraid of not being a good one. Source: Oogy:  The dog only a family could love. Laurence Levin 

In her memoir, Now I See You, Nicole C. Kear recounts:  “One of the very best things about having children, besides the heart-exploding love, is the fact that you have a get- out-of-jail-free card for at least two years.   Co-worker’s retirement dinner: “regrets, baby’s got a cold.” Neighbor's super bowl party: “regrets, baby’s napping.”  Family reunion: “Regrets, baby’s teething something awful.”  That excuse is worth the pain of childbirth.”  

DEFINITION and MEANING
Parenting begins from the moment a child is born, or as some believe, at the second of conception.  The role of parents is endless in that worry and concern pervade the parent-child relationship, to some degree at whatever age, as long as both remain on this earth within that context and framework.

Still, with time, childhood dependence evolves into adult companionship and friendship.  Ultimately, as is occurring more and more often due to medical advances, if a parent becomes elderly, the roles change.  This shift may be either subtle or absolute.  Much will depend upon the time available to the adult child or children, and the parent’s physical strength, emotional resilience and mental capabilities.