QUOTES about DATING

When I go to one of those singles dating parties I believe myself to be a bowl of fruit. When I talk to potential dates, I judge them by the smile in their lips, their smoothness of speech, and the whiteness of teeth; then I offer them the appropriate fruit, which is usually a lemon. Amanda Holden


The great thing about online dating is that coquettishness is done- with before you start and returns only to end or cement a relationship. Cindy Vine 

Dating means two things; disillusionment or a racing heart. May West 

If you want to date me, my conditions are you have to take me to a very expensive restaurant, buy me a dozen roses, be extremely affectionate, and call me poppet. Valentine Circe

On girls night in we talk about dating; the ups and downs of the previous week. Our collective laughter is uncontrollable and tearful, even the most disappointing dates become meritorious on girls night in. Cilla Black 

We’re left alone with each other. We have to creep close to each other and give gentle little nudges with our paws and our muzzles before we can slip into sleep and rest for the next day’s playtime. Tennessee Williams 

In the dating game, the woman is caught and the man is trapped. Charles Conway   

She will never win him, whose words had shown she feared to lose. Dorothy Parker

Life is not long enough for a coquette to play all her tricks in. Joseph Addison

My longest journey has been a thousand dates to find that perfect mate that half of the love puzzle that brings me completeness. Quinton Simms 

Almost all our relationships begin and most of them continue as forms of mutual exploitation, a mental or physical barter, to be terminated when one or both parties run out of goods. W. H. Auden

Without wearing any mask we are conscious of, we have a special face for each friend. Oliver Wendell Holmes

Dating a new man is like holding a strawberry milkshake; first the taste, then the pleasure. Marilyn Monroe 

What are the odds so long as the fire of the soul is kindled at the taper of conviviality, and the wing of friendship never molts a feather? Charles Dickens

How many times go we to comedies, to masques, to places of great and noble resort, nay even to church only to see the company. John Donne

When speed dating I’m seeking my equal or at least one in the making. Jenny Jay

Man loves company, even if only that of a small burning candle. Thomas Fuller

One contestant on the TV show, Blind Date, hosted by Cilla Black, when asked if they planned to see one another again replied, “The only way I would speak to him again,” she replied, would be through a medium.” Source: What’s it all About by Cilla Black

We do right enough darling, if we go wrong together. Santayana

He who wins a thousand common hearts is entitled to some renown; but he who keeps undisputed sway over the heart of a coquette is indeed a hero. Washington Irving

Shyness has laws you can only give yourself; tragically to those who least understand. Lawrence Durrell

Like the bee its sting, the promiscuous leave behind them in each encounter something of themselves by which they are made to suffer. Cyril Connolly

Every man is to be had one way or another and every woman almost anyway. Lord Chesterfield

DEFINITION and MEANING
The term “date” probably stemmed from the idea of two people spending time together on a prearranged basis outside the young woman’s parents’ home, for romantic purposes. (For convenience, we will refer to dating in its conventional sense of male/female encounters.)

Readers of 18th and 19th/ century novels have doubtless noted the large number of village festivities, balls, picnics and parties. These occasions were opportunities for young people to meet in a decorous but fierce mating dance. Often, when one or more girls in a family had reached marriageable age, mid to late teens and early twenties, their parents would open their homes to evening visitors. It was understood that the majority of such guests would comprise young men pursuing or settled in respected professions.

If such a bachelor were to be so drawn to a girl as to impel him to spend a significant time in flirtatious banter, he would, within a reasonable time, be expected to declare his love and his desire to marry her. Assuming she accepted, he would then have a talk with her father in order to ask for her hand. Failure to do so could subject a young man to being viewed as a cad. Disappointing too many young ladies in this way would lead to a thinning of invitations, a drying up of his wellspring of welcome. 

Gradually, social mores changed, allowing two people to be together, first with a chaperone, then by themselves. Thus, dating, as we know it today, evolved into being. At first, its structure was such that a young man was expected to go to a young woman’s parents’ home where he would meet and chat with them for some moments before she descended the staircase.

After their evening, the young man would return her to their home, kiss her goodnight and then depart. During the evening, the young man, no matter how impecunious, was socially compelled to pay for dinners, film or theater tickets-in short, any costs incurred. Still, a balance was established in that a man had the freedom to ask for a date, while a girl lacked that option. 

Over time, things changed to the point where women are more-or-less free to ask a man for a date, although for many, a lingering preference remains for the man to ask –at least the first time. Given the ambiance of our era, it has become customary for two people on a date to meet at an agreed-upon spot, and then, at the end of the evening, each leave in his or her own separate cars.

A woman no longer expects the man to pay for her share of the bill; in fact, depending on their financial circumstances, she might absorb the entire cost. Still, despite these changes, dating is, at its core, not all that different from those visits and galas featured in Jane Austen, George Eliot, Thomas Hardy and Charles Dickens.

As said by one male student, planning to return to his native India after having gained his degree, “I do not go out on dates here in England; I would not like to mislead anyone. When I go back to my home, I will marry a girl, after she and I, and her parents and mine have agreed on its rightness. This would make it a wrong thing for me to date here, because whatever some people might claim, dating does truly mean a pathway towards marriage.”