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Narrated Anas bin Malik: "I never prayed behind an Imam who was more brief or more perfect in his prayer than God's Messenger. If he heard a baby crying, he would shorten the prayer for fear that the mother might be distressed"

(Bukhari Volume 1, Book 11, Number 676)  


Treatment of Children 



They are losers indeed who kill their children foolishly without knowledge, and forbid that which Allah has provided for them, forging a lie against Allah. They indeed go astray, and are not guided (Qur’an 6:140).

And kill not your children for fear of poverty — We provide for them and for you. Surely the killing of them is a great wrong (Qur’an 17:31).

Hadith: (reported sayings of the Prophet Muhammad)

Narrated By Abu Qatada: The Prophet came out towards us, while carrying Umamah, the daughter of Abi Al-As (his grand-daughter) over his shoulder. He prayed, and when he wanted to bow, he put her down, and when he stood up, he lifted her up. (Bukhari 73:25)

Narrated Anas bin Malik: "I never prayed behind an Imam who was more brief or more perfect in his prayer than God's Messenger. If he heard a baby crying, he would shorten the prayer for fear that the mother might be distressed." (Bukhari Volume 1, Book 11, Number 676)

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Abi Qatada: My father said, "The Prophet said: "When I begin the prayer, I intend to make it long, but I hear a baby crying and shorten the prayer, being aware of the Mother's emotion because of the crying."' (Bukhari Volume 1, Book 11, Number 675)

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin: I never saw anyone more like the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) in respect of gravity, calm deportment, pleasant disposition… When she (Fatima, daughter of the Prophet) came to visit him (the Prophet) he got up to (welcome) her, took her by the hand, kissed her and made her sit where he was sitting; and when he went to visit her, she got up to (welcome) him, took him by the hand, kissed him, and made him sit where she was sitting. (Bukhari Book 41, Number 5198)

Concerning the death of the Prophet’s two year old son, Ibrahim, we read: Anas b. Malik reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: …He stopped and Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) called for the child. He embraced him and said what Allah had desired. Anas said: I saw that the boy breathed his last in the presence of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him). The eyes of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) shed tears and he said: Ibrahim, our eyes shed tears and our hearts are filled with grief, but we do not say anything except that by which Allah is pleased. O Ibrahim, we are grieved for you. (Sahih Muslim Book 030, Number 5733)

Anas b. Malik reported: I have never seen anyone more kind to one's family than Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him)…(Sahih Muslim Book 030, Number 5734)

Abu Hurairah reported that al-Aqra' b. Habis saw Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) kissing Hasan. He said: I have ten children, but I have never kissed any one of them, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him. (Sahih Muslim Book 030, Number 5736)

Narrated Aisha: A bedouin came to the Prophet and said, "You (people) kiss the boys! We don't kiss them." The Prophet said, "I cannot put mercy in your heart after Allah has taken it away from it." (Sahih Bukhari 73:27)

His love for his grandsons, Hasan and Husain (ra) is household. He used to carry them on his shoulders. When an onlooker once remarked: '.What a ride he is having!", the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) promptly said: "And how majestic is the rider!" (Tirmidhi)

Anas and 'Abdullah reported God's Messenger as saying, "All [human] creatures are God's children, and those dearest to God are those who treat His children kindly." (Baihaqi)

Narrated by Jabir ibn Samurah I prayed along with Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) the first prayer. He then went to his family and I also went along with him when he met some children (on the way). He began to pat the cheeks of each one of them. He also patted my cheek and I experienced a coolness or a fragrance of his hand as if it had been brought out from the scent bag of a perfumer. (Sahih Muslim Book 030, Number 5758)

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: When the Prophet arrived at Mecca, the children of Bani 'Abdul Muttalib received him. He then mounted one of them in front of him and the other behind him. (Bukhari Volume 7, Book 72, Number 848)

Narrated by Anas ibn Malik The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) came to some children who were playing: He greeted them lovingly. (Sunan of Abu-Dawood 5183)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "He is not of us who does not have mercy on young children, nor honor the elderly" (Tirmidhi)

Narrated Abu Hurairah Ad-Dausi: Once the Prophet went out during the day. Neither did he talk to me nor I to him till he reached the market of Bani Qainuqa and then he sat in the compound of Fatima's house and asked about the small boy (his grandson Al-Hasan) but Fatima kept the boy in for a while. I thought she was either changing his clothes or giving the boy a bath. After a while the boy came out running and the Prophet embraced and kissed him and then said, 'O Allah! Love him, and love whoever loves him.' (Bukhari Volume 3, Book 34, Number 333)

The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said 'Allah has indeed said your children shall be a temptation to you,' and he said to the boys (his grandchildren, Hasan and Hussein), 'dear little ones, it is because of you that a man could forget his tasks he must do. You are the perfume of Allah!' [add source]

Abu Hurairah reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying to Hasan (grandson): O Allah, behold, I love him. Thou too love him and love one who loves him. (Sahih Muslim Book 031, Number 5951)

Abu Hurairah reported: I went along with Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) at a time during the day but he did not talk to me and I did not talk to him until he reached Bazar of Banfi Qainuqal. He came back to the tent of Fatima and said: Is the little chap (meaning Hasan) there? We were under the impression that his mother had detained him in order to bathe him and dress him and garland him with a sweet garland. Not much time had passed that he (Hasan) came running until both of them embraced each other, thereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: O Allah, I love him; love him Thou and love one who loves him (Hasan). (Sahih Muslim Book 031, Number 5952)

Narrated 'Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) A lady along with her two daughters came to me asking me (for some alms), but she found nothing with me except one date which I gave to her and she divided it between her two daughters, and then she got up and went away. Then the Prophet came in and I informed him about this story. He said, "Whoever is in charge of (put to test by) these daughters and treats them generously, then they will act as a shield for him from the (Hell) Fire." (Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 24)

Narrated By 'Umar bin Al-Khattab Some Sabi (i.e. war prisoners, children and woman only) were brought before the Prophet and behold, a woman amongst them was milking her breasts to feed and whenever she found a child amongst the captives, she took it over her chest and nursed it (she had lost her child but later she found him) the Prophet said to us, "Do you think that this lady can throw her son in the fire?" We replied, "No, if she has the power not to throw it (in the fire)." The Prophet then said, "Allah is more merciful to His slaves than this mother to her son." (Sahih Bukhari 073:28)

Narrated By Usama bin ZaidAllah's Apostle used to put me on (one of) his thighs and put Al-Hasan bin 'Ali on his other thigh, and then embrace us and say, "O Allah! Please be Merciful to them, as I am merciful to them." (Sahih Bukhari 73: 32)

Narrated By Sahl bin Sa'd The Prophet said, "I and the person who looks after an orphan and provides for him, will be in Paradise like this," putting his index and middle fingers together. (Sahih Bukhari 073:34)

Rights of Children:

In a disputed case, the Prophet asked a child: This is your father and this is your mother, so take whichever of them you wish by the hand. (Hadith: Abu Dawud, Nasa'i, Darimi)  The boy went to his mother.

In another case a woman approached the Prophet telling him that her husband had embraced Islam while she had refused to do so, adding that her daughter was being deprived of mother's milk as her father was taking her away. The Prophet made the child sit between mother and father and said both of them should call her. The child would go to whoever she chose. The child responded to the mother. The Prophet prayed to Allah to guide the child and the child then chose the father, and hence Rafi (the father) took the child (Abu Dawud)


Proverbs 23:13-14 "Do not withold discipline from a child: if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. punish him with the rod and save his soul from death."