When we have been in a relationship or marriage for a long time it can be easy to fall into a trap of not listening to the other person or not communicating our needs clearly. Sometimes talking to someone with no connection to yourself or your partner, and with no preconceived notions of who you are as a couple, is all it takes for you to gain perspective. 

Every couple is different and so when you choose to seek help will depend on the nature of the issue you are facing. For some, couples counselling is considered a 'last resort' to save a relationship/marriage, but for others, couples counselling is seen as a way to address any underlying concerns that may become conflicts in the future.

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you do the following: understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship; reflect on the past and how it operates in the present; communicate in a more constructive way; learn why arguments escalate; negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.

The role of a couples counsellor is to facilitate change. It may be that you and your partner find a way of overcoming your problems, or it may be that you may decide it is time to part ways. Either way, counselling will hopefully offer you the space to grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for both of you. 

If you are concerned about your relationship (for whatever reason) and feel you are unable to reach a conclusion alone, then please do contact me for a preliminary discussion about whether you feel couples counselling may be beneficial.