As one said right at the beginning, all girls put love before sex. Mostly, they only want to have sex with men who they think care for them. They're looking for LOVERS who will be caring and loyal before SEX MACHINES. Not many girls want sex with a man unless they believe he cares for them. Even though this is the 1990's - and despite what you read in papers and magazines - very few girls pick men up for sex.
SO MAKE SURE YOU CONVINCE HER YOU CARE FOR HER. (Whether you do is a different thing.) To do this talk about her. Say how much she means to you. Compliment her personality. Compliment her body. And use the truth technique to make all this stick!
Touching is a great way to convince her. And this is exactly why I think you should avoid much touching until you're at this level. Most girl go crazy inside when they're touched or held by a man they like. BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE IN A SENSITIVE , GENTLE WAY and in the RIGHT PLACE. If you paw her all over her body, and hold her too tight , she's likely to cool down very quickly.
Holding hands is the best way to make the first touch. Weave your fingers through hers - It feels more EQUAL than just holding her. If you're walking together, put your hand in her back pocket, or just on her waist, and get her to do the same with you - she'll find your bottom very sexy.
When she's comfortable with that swing her towards you. Then pull her into your chest - most girls love it when they can feel safe and protected by their man. Good places to hold her are behind the shoulder blades or, lightly, on the waist. Hold her at a slight distance. Don't put your arm right round her just yet.
Hands OFF her bottom, breasts or thighs now - these are fine for bed but not now. If it's a public place she'll only feel embarrassed and turn off - even if she actually enjoys it. If you're dancing close don't push yourself into her - stand firm and let HER cuddle into YOU.
Some really good places to touch, which will excite her;
without going too far, are her ears, the back of her head, and her back. Plus girls are into hair - So play with it! Wipe it back off her face and stroke her cheek at the same time. And if you ever get the chance to slip her shoes off and hold or massage her feet - go for it! This is the hottest thing you can do to her without actually having sex!
When you're this close whispering in her ear is sexier than talking and draws her to you. Small pecking kisses give her a lot more sensation than one long, hard kiss. Don't keep your lips on her lips - her cheeks, ears, neck, shoulders, hands and forearms are all very sensitive and show her that you've got a bit more imagination than the rest.
Finally - keep the eye contact up. She needs to know that you mean what you're saying - and what you're doing.
And that's it! You've scored! With a bit of luck she should be sizzling red hot ready to satisfy your every desire!