Puneet Vandana and Niharika Rai
1. Terry Fullam preached a message on the radio. His father, a man who had enjoyed remarkably good health all his life. One Sunday morning as they were getting ready for church, his father said, "I really don't think I can go today. I don't feel well enough." That was quite a shock. He had never known his father to miss church - not once. His father was admitted to the hospital that afternoon where it was discovered that he had a severe and advanced case of cancer of the bone. He only lived two weeks after that.
In his last hours, the whole
family gathered around his bed, knowing he didn't have very long to live. At
one point, he lapsed into a coma - but then he opened his eyes and
started talking, just as clearly as could be. He spoke to each family member, one
by one, and had very wonderful and personal things to say to each of them. By that time, the whole room was
awash with tears. They had managed to hold it back, but they just couldn't
anymore; and, of course, he saw it. He smiled a little bit and said,
"If you could see what I am seeing-if you could hear what I am hearing, you
would not weep for me." And he seemed to marshal all the strength he had
left in that weakened body, and he sat up and said, "Rejoice with me.
This is my coronation day!" And he lay back on the pillow, and died. There wasn't a trace of fear because he
would be seeing his King, Christ Jesus.
2. At the 1924 Olympic Games in Paris, the sport of canoe racing was added to the list of international competitions. The favorite team in the four-man canoe race was the United States team. One member of that team was a young man by the name of Bill Havens. As the time for the Olympics neared, it became clear that Bill's wife would give birth to their first child about the time that the US team would be competing in the Paris games. And so Bill found himself in a dilemma. Should he go to Paris and risk not being at his wife's side when their baby was born? Or should he withdraw from the team and remain with his family? Bill's wife insisted that he go to Paris. After all, competing in the Olympics was the culmination of a life-long dream. But Bill felt conflicted and, after much soul-searching, decided to withdraw from the competition and remain home where he could support his wife when the child arrived. As it turned out, the United States four-man canoe team won the gold medal in Paris. And Bill's wife was late in giving birth to their child. The birth was so late, in fact, that Bill could have competed in the event and returned home in time to be with her when she delivered. People said, "What a shame." But Bill said he had no regrets. For the rest of his life, he believed he had made the better decision. Bill Havens knew what was most important to him.
There is an interesting sequel to the story. The child eventually born to Bill and his wife was a boy, whom they named Frank. Twenty-eight years later, in 1952, Bill received a cablegram from Frank. It was sent from Helsinki, Finland, where the 1952 Olympics were being held. The cablegram read: "Dad, I won. I'm bringing home the gold medal you lost while waiting for me to be born."
Frank Havens had just won the gold medal for the United States in the canoe-racing event, a medal his father had dreamed of winning but never did. Like I said - no regrets.
3. A little girl was playing with her doll while her mother was writing. After a while the mother called the child to her, and took her on her lap. The little one said: "I am so glad; I wanted to love you so much mamma!" "Did you, darling?" the mother said, clasping the child tenderly. "I am so glad my daughter loves me so; but were you lonely while I wrote? You and dolly seemed to be having a happy time together." "Yes, mamma; but I got tired of loving her." "And why?" questioned the mother. "Oh, because she never loves me back." "And that is why you love me?" "That is one why, mamma; but not the first one or the best." "And what is the first one and the best?" "Why, mamma, don't you guess?" and the blue eyes were very bright and earnest. "It's because you loved me when I was too little to love back; that's why I love you so!"
Thus, like the little girl in the story, we love because we have first been loved.
4. Can You Sleep When the Wind Blows?
Years ago a farmer owned land along the Atlantic seacoast. He constantly advertised for hired hands. Most people were reluctant to work on farms along the Atlantic. They dreaded the awful storms that raged across the
Atlantic, wreaking havoc on the buildings and crops. As the farmer interviewed applicants for the job, he received a steady stream of refusals. Finally, a short, thin man, well past middle age, approached the farmer.
"Are you a good farmhand?" the farmer asked him.
"Well, I can sleep when the wind blows," answered the little man.
Although puzzled by this answer, the farmer, desperate for help, hired him. The little man worked well around the farm, busy from dawn to dusk, and the farmer felt satisfied with the man's work.
one night the wind howled loudly in from offshore. Jumping out of bed,
the farmer grabbed a lantern and rushed next door to the hired hand's
sleeping quarters. He shook the little man and yelled, "Get up! A storm
coming! Tie things down before they blow away!"
The little man rolled over in bed and said firmly, "No sir. I told you, I can sleep when the wind blows."
Enraged by the response, the farmer was tempted to fire him on the spot. Instead, he hurried outside to prepare for the storm. To his amazement, he discovered that all of the haystacks had been covered with tarpaulins. The
cows were in the barn, the chickens were in the coops, and the doors were barred. The shutters were tightly secured. Everything was tied down. Nothing could blow away.
The farmer then understood what his hired hand meant, so he returned to his bed to also sleep
while the wind blew.
5. Out of the blue one day, for no reason at all while 7 year-old Mark was sitting at his desk in the classroom, he felt something warm and looked down to see the front of his pants wet, and a puddle at his feet on the floor. Mark could never remember ever wetting his pants before. He could not believe it was happening to him. Immediately he realized all the ramifications that this would bring to his young life. He could already hear the taunting of the other boys on the play ground, and surely no girl would ever speak to him again. He immediately buried his head in his hands and prayed, "God I need help NOW. Three minutest from now will be too late." He heard someone approaching him and looked up to see Susie coming in his direction with a big gold fish bowl in her hands. It was Susie's day to clean the fish bowl. "OH! No not Susie. He had had a crush on her since Kindergarten. She would see and he would never be able to speak to her again." But then it happened! Just as she got to his desk Susie dumped the entire bowl of water, fish and all into Marks lap. The teacher jumped to Mark's rescue. Scurried him away to the boiler room, gave him a pair of Gym shorts to wear, hung his trousers on the boiler to dry, and put her arm around him lavishing him with sympathy and understanding. When they returned to the class room all the children were busy with paper towels drying up the floor, Mark's books and scolding little Susie for her clumsiness. When Susie tried to help, the teacher said, "Susie, I think you have done enough for one day." The acceptance and sympathy felt so good to Mark, that he failed to realize how rejected little Susie felt by the condemnation of his classmates. The more sympathy Mark received, the more rejection and condemnation Susie experienced. This lasted the rest of the day, until they were all out front waiting for rides home.
was then he saw the pain in Susie's eyes as she stood all alone, while
students from other classes heard about the incident for the first time
and crowded around Mark lavishing more understanding. Mark went over to
Susie, and whispered, "Susie, you saw, you knew didn't you. You
dumped that water on me on purpose didn't you."Susie replied, "Mark, I wet my pants once too."
This story was told by Bob Tuttle, Prof. at Asbury campus in Florida.
The story is told - out of WW 2 and the holocaust that took the
lives of millions of people - of Solomon Rosenberg & his family. It
is a true story. Solomon Rosenberg & his wife & their 2 sons
& his mother & father were arrested & placed in a Nazi
concentration camp. It was a labor camp, & the rules were simple.
"As long as you can do your work, you are permitted to live. When you
become too weak to do your work, then you are exterminated." Rosenberg
watched his mother & father marched off to their deaths, & he
knew that next would be his youngest son, David, because David had
always been a frail child. Every evening Rosenberg came back into the
barracks after his hours of labor & searched for the faces of his
family. When he found them they would huddle together, embrace one
another, & thank God for another day of life. One day Rosenberg
came back & didn't see those familiar faces. He finally discovered
his oldest son, Joshua, in a corner, huddled, weeping, & praying.
He said, "Josh, tell me it's not true." Joshua turned & said, "It
is true, poppa. Today David was not strong enough to do his work. So
they came for him." "But where is your mother?" asked Mr. Rosenberg.
"Oh poppa," he said, "When they came for David, he was afraid & he
cried. Momma said, 'There is nothing
to be afraid of, David,'& she took his hand & went with him."
At the turn of the last century, a young boy quit school to help with
the family expenses. When he was fifteen, he became interested in
automobiles and worked in a garage. He subscribed to a correspondence
home study course on automobiles and, after a long day in the garage,
studied at the kitchen table by lamplight. When he felt ready, he
walked into the Frayer-Miller Automobile Company of Columbus, Ohio.
When Mr. Frayer noticed him, he asked, "Well, what do you want?" "I
just thought I'd tell you I'm coming to work here tomorrow
morning," the boy replied.
"Oh! Who hired you?"
"Nobody yet, but I'll be on the job in the morning. If I'm not worth anything, you can fire me." (Try that in TODAY'S market!) Early the next morning the young man returned to the plant. Noticing the floor was thick with metal shavings and accumulated dirt and grease, the boy got a broom and shovel and set to work cleaning the place. Because of his self-confidence and work ethic, Eddie Rickenbacker's future was predictable. He went on to excel in many fields, including automobile racing, piloting World War 1 planes and founding what was to become one of America's largest airline companies - Eastern Airlines.
is no magic bullet to instantly become a self-confident person. But it
begins with one of the most important relationships in your life - your
relationship with yourself. People who become more confident habitually
encourage themselves. They become their own best friend.Rob Bremer asks
the question, "If you had a friend who talked to you like
you sometimes talk to yourself, would you continue to hang around with that person?" If the answer is "Yes!" you are on the track to becoming more self-assured.
Without confidence, you are not likely to move far in the direction of your dreams. But become your own best friend and almost anything will be possible.
By Steve Goodier.
For the first 15 years of my marriage, I was a terrible husband. Diane
held a full-time job, became my secretary, mothered our daughters, and
waited on me hand and foot. I loved my wife very much, but I hadn't
learned how to show my love. God used a vacuum cleaner to teach me.
First, I learned that our cat was terrified of vacuum cleaners. That
kept me entertained for about an hour. Then as I vacuumed in one
direction, a stripe
would appear. Entranced, I striped the whole room. Then I went crossways, creating a checkerboard pattern. I got so carried away that I dusted the furniture and straightened the entire house. I was in my easy chair once again when Diane came home. She struggled through the door with a bag of groceries under each arm, kicked the door shut with one foot, and then took in the house with an expert glance. Her mouth dropped open. Slowly the bags slipped from her grasp and dropped to the floor. "Who did this?" she asked. "I did," I said. Without warning, she attacked. Diving on me, she smothered me with kisses and hugs. The kisses grew more passionate. We broke the chair! The vacuum taught me an important lesson: love is expressed with more than
By Ken Davis, Adapted from Lighten Up!
9. Writer Charles Swindoll once found himself with too many commitments in too few days. He got nervous and tense about it. "I was snapping at my wife and our children, choking down my food at mealtimes, and feeling irritated at those unexpected interruptions through the day," he recalled in his book Stress Fractures. "Before long, things around our home started reflecting the patter of my hurry-up style. It was become unbearable.
"I distinctly remember
after supper one evening, the words of our younger daughter, Colleen.
She wanted to tell me something important that had happened to her at
school that day. She began hurriedly, 'Daddy, I wanna
tell you somethin' and I'll tell you really fast.' "Suddenly realizing her frustration, I answered, 'Honey, you can tell me -- and you don't have to tell me really fast. Say it slowly." "I'll never forget her answer: 'Then listen slowly.'"
From: Bits & Pieces, June 24, 1993, Page 13-14.
Right after World War II, a U.S. Army officer and his wife were
stationed in Japan. That country had been devastated by the war. The
post-war economy was in shambles. Unemployment approached 60%. People
came to the Army wife's door daily looking for work. One man said that
he could do wonders for her garden if she would only give him a chance.
So, for the first time in her life, this young Army wife hired a
gardener. He spoke no English, but the wife, through sign language and
pencil and paper gave him instructions about where to plant, prune, and
pamper her garden. He listened politely and followed her instructions
exactly. The garden emerged as the finest in the neighborhood. When she
finally realized that her new gardener knew far more about the matter
than she, the wife stopped giving him directions and let him freely
care for the garden. It was magnificent. Then one day the gardener came
with an interpreter who expressed the appreciation but the regrets of
the gardener. "He will no longer be able to care for your garden. He
must leave." The wife expressed her regrets and thanked him through the
interpreter for making hers such a fine garden. Out of politeness, she
asked the interpreter, "Where is he going?" The interpreter replied
that the gardener was returning to his old job as the Professor of
Horticulture at the University of Tokyo.
Oh, to be willing to be that humble.
11 *ONE PARAGRAPH THAT EXPLAINS LIFE!*
Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983. From world over, hereceived letters from his fans, one of which conveyed:
"Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?
this Arthur Ashe replied: The world over --50,000,000 children start
playing tennis, 5,000,000 learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn
professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand
slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals, When I was
holding a cup I never asked GOD
"Why me?". And today in pain I should not be asking GOD "Why me?"
*I guess the moral is always count your blessings. There are many worse off than us!*
- A banker is a fellow who lends you his umbrella when the sun is shining, but wants it back the minute it begins to rain.
- A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.
- Always acknowledge a fault. This will throw those in authority off their guard and give you an opportunity to commit more.
- By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean.
- Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.
- Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear.
- Honesty is the best policy - when there is money in it.
- Humor is the great thing, the saving thing. The minute it crops up, all our irritations and resentments slip away and a sunny spirit takes their place.
- I am opposed to millionaires, but it would be dangerous to offer me the position.
- 10I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying that I approved of it.
- I thoroughly disapprove of duels. If a man should challenge me, I would take him kindly and forgivingly by the hand and lead him to a quiet place and kill him.
- If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and a man.
- If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything.
- It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not to deserve them.
- It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.
- It is easier to stay out than get out.
- Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
- Let us so live that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.
- The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.
- The man who doesn't read good books has no advantage over the man who can't read them.
- The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.
- Truth is more of a stranger than fiction.
- We have a criminal jury system which is superior to any in the world; and its efficiency is only marred by the difficulty of finding twelve men every day who don't know anything and can't read.
- When I was younger, I could remember anything, whether it had happened or not
- He had discovered a great law of human action, without knowing it - namely, that in order to make a man or a boy covet a thing, it is only necessary to make the thing difficult to obtain.
- The history of our race, and each individual's experience, are sown thick with evidence that a truth is not hard to kill and that a lie told well is immortal.
- The rule is perfect: in all matters of opinion our adversaries are insane.
- All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure.
- When a person cannot deceive himself the chances are against his being able to deceive other people.
- The report of my death was an exaggeration.
1. The superior man, when resting in safety, does not forget that danger may come. When in a state of security he does not forget the possibility of ruin. When all is orderly, he does not forget that disorder may come. Thus his person is not endangered, and his States and all their clans are preserved.
2. To see what is right, and not to do it, is want of courage or of principle.
3. What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.
4. He with whom neither slander that gradually soaks into the mind, nor statements that startle like a wound in the flesh, are successful may be called intelligent indeed.
5. Be not ashamed of mistakes and thus make them crimes.
6. Everything has its beauty but not everyone sees it.
7. He who will not economize will have to agonize.
8. They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.
9. Have no friends not equal to yourself.
10. What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.
11. What the superior man seeks is in himself. What the mean man seeks is in others.
12. To go beyond is as wrong as to fall short.
13. The cautious seldom err.