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HOMESCHOOLING WITH THE HALFMOONS

 "Doing all day what they love lets them become their true
selves."
           Richard Bach, Jonathan
Livingston Seagull

  This book is dedicated to those who are dedicated to
  raising their own


  PRIMAL EDUCATION
>
> "All the things that truly matter
> beauty, love, creativity,
> joy, iner peace
> arise from beyond
> the mind."
> Eckhart Tolle
>
>
> My sixteen-year-old daughter works on the dress design
> while her ten-year-old sister reads a book about a girl and
> her horse.  My seven-year-old son hunts for treasure,
> accompanied by his canine friend Fifi LaPue.  We live
> in the desert, at least we do right now.
>
> Nearly three years ago we stepped into our dream of
> traveling throughout North America.  Raised in Hawaii,
> my three children were curious about that place called the
> mainland.  And so we moved into a van and began our
> journey.
>
> Twenty six states later, we look back on all the fun we've
> had, all the challenges we've overcome, and all the lessons
> we've learned.  Not lessons from some curriculum but
> rather, lessons that life presents when we allow life to be
> our guide.  Following someone else's definition of
> education denies the depth that true education
> requires.  You can study a book on the dynamics of the
> desert, or you can wander through the desert.  One
> leaves you with a superficial guess as to what it's like,
> while the other finds you immersed in its reality. 
> Primal education is about immersion...a life experience
> rather than an academic perception.  Short-term memory
> is often the result of academia.  Life-long memories
> accompany real life experiences.
>
> I worship the individual interests of my children.  I
> want them to live a life that reflects their passions. 
> In order to live a passionate life, they need to put in the
> time.
>
> An aspiring artist must draw
> An aspiring writer must write
> An aspiring designer must design
> An aspiring dancer must dance
> An aspiring fisherman must fish
> An aspiring gardener must garden
>
> There's only twenty four hours in a day, with eight hours
> spent in slumber.  In order to put in the hours for
> nurturing an interest, there must be hours available. 
> It takes time to beoome our true selves.
>
> "Primal" means first in importance.
>
> "Primal Education" means learning that which is most
> important.  It is most important that our children
> learn what matters most to them.  And, with truth at
> the helm let's get honest about parenting.
>
> So often we hear parents bark out, "Do as I say, and not as
> I do!"
> Sorry folks, that's not the way it works.
>
> Children learn by what they see, not by what we say. 
> What they see is the sacrifice of dreams, unfulfilled
> talents that lead to unfulfilling lives. 
> People-turned-parents who buy into the belief that you can't
> have your cake and eat it too...then why have the cake?
>
> How can our children become their true selves if we don't
> give ourselves the same freedom?
>
> This morning Jasmine woke up, brushed her red hair, put on
> her flannel nightgown and crawled back into bed to resume
> reading her book about a girl and her horse.  Matthew
> was already out in the dry wash searching for pretty rocks,
> Fifi digging for lizards nearby.  Sarah Lee was tucked
> under the covers with her newborn, Delilah Faith.  Each
> of my children began this day in their own chosen way, doing
> what they love.  And they learned what it is they love
> by having the space and freedom to know their selves clear,
> true, and bright!
>
> All the days of their lives they have observed me doing
> what I love.  The very first thing I do when I wake up
> is reach for my journal and pen.  It's my
> wake-and-bake, curled up in bed with fresh thoughts for a
> fresh day on a fresh new page of my journal.  I start
> my day doing what I love.
>
> Little Delilah Faith was tired, so I slipped her in my Cozy
> cradle baby sling and we took a walk in the desert. 
> While singing her to sleep I thought about what passion
> really means.  Among the many definitions found in the
> dictionary, the one that most reflects my experience with
> passion is this:
>
> Passion - intense enthusiasm for an object or cause,
> usually as displayed in vigorous and untiring activity in
> its support
>
> When I heard the sweet coos of my sleeping grandbaby we
> returned to our camper where I found my daughters cutting
> out inspiring photos and words from a collection of old
> magazines.  Sarah Lee had her scissors ready to cut out
> the following sentence...
>
> "It's more than a feeling, it's a PASSION"
>
> Sarah Lee has intense enthusiasm for fashion design and
> country western music.  When she's not sewing up a new
> idea she's writing a new song.  She is untiring in both
> activities.
>
> Society offers many careers, including fashion design and
> song-writing.  But freedom is seldom a part of
> society's curriculum.
>
> Creativity defies constraint.  English 101 has nothing
> to do with fashion design, and songwriters don't need
> algebra.
>
> That's the beauty of homeschooling!  Our children
> learn what THEY deem necessary for bringing about their
> desired lifework, a reflection of who they are and what they
> love.  They have the freedom to weave and integrate at
> their leisure, to their heart's content and with the
> constant support of family.  We don't burden them with
> the belief that work is drudgery or that education is
> mandatory.  We remind them that as family we are all in
> this together...the singer and the dancer and the musician
> and the writer and the weaver and the gardener.  We
> honor the individuality of each family member and then
> surround them with whatever they need to feel happy, joyous,
> and free.
>
> Matthew is a nature boy.  No matter what, our physical
> environment must be nature.  Whether forest, grove,
> desert, or ocean shore Matthew wakes before the sun and
> communes with nature until the day is done.  In the
> forest he carves wood.  In the grove he collects wild
> flowers.  In the desert he hunts for pretty
> rocks.  At the ocean shore he fishes all day
> long.  When darkness comes he looks at the moon and the
> stars, then resigns himself to the fact that he must wait
> several hours before he can once again live his passion of
> playing in and with nature.
>
> Jasmine starts her day with a book in her hand.  It
> was two winters ago that the passion took hold.  Prior
> to that she wouldn't sit still long enough for me to read
> even the shortest children's book.  She was like a
> butterfly that only landed long enough to take off again,
> with her passion being people.  Young or old, she loved
> nothing more than meeting and visiting with people.
>
> Our first winter in the desert found Jasmine a bit
> disoriented because passersby were few and far
> between.  Since most of our days were about
> song-writing and learning old classics on the guitars she
> started going through the sheets of music and to our
> surprise she was able to decipher the words and know the
> melody.  She couldn't transfer this ability over to
> reading the newspaper which was something she really wanted
> to do:  the classified ads intrigued her.
>
> For me, the only rule in primal education is to remember
> that each mind learns in its own special way, and that
> includes learning to read.  Because of Jasmine's
> adversity to staying with anything very long we agreed that
> she spend the first two hours of each day in bed with the
> book of her choice...she chose Jonathan Livingston Seagull
> by Richard Bach.
> Within a month she was reading to the family, sounding out
> the words and putting it all together.  She's been
> reading prolifically ever since.
>
> When I think of a primal education I imagine someone
> equipped with all the tools needed for a life of authentic
> joy...human values like generosity, compassion, and
> respect.  One need not be literate to be loving. 
> One need not know math to be fair.
>
> Perhaps my favorite value to nurture in my children is
> gratitude.  With gratitude they can navigate themselves
> through rough terrain and not fall prey to self-pity or any
> sense of powerlessness.  I witnessed their
> comprehension of gratitude on Thanksgiving day, two years
> ago.
>
> Camped in the desert with a cold chill blowing, we looked
> in the cupboard to find nothing more than six packages of
> chinese noodles.  We laughed at our plight and were
> glad for what we DID have.  It wasn't long after
> putting the pot of water on to boil that we noticed the
> flame flicker out.  No more propane.  So we
> bundled up against the cold and gathered sticks for a
> fire.  The chill wind made it nearly impossible to get
> the fire started, but we placed the pot of lukewarm water in
> the pit and hoped for the best.
>
> Giving up on the idea of reaching boiling point we opened
> the packages and poured the noodles into the water. 
> They never really softened much so we went ahead and dished
> up bowls then sat together in thanks.  Just as we began
> to eat Matthew asked, "What's that swimming in my
> bowl?"  We all looked down into our own bowls and
> someone said, "Ah, those are boll weevils, they won't eat
> much."  Everyone smiled and gratitude permeated the
> moment.
>
> Gratitude for what?
> The food?
> No
>
> Gratitude for each other
> For family
> A bond that begins
> with the dawn
> Takes us all
> through the day
> And cradles us
> through the night
> A bond that
> begins with
> a mother and
> her baby
>
>
>
> MARSUPIAL MOTHERING
>
> "All babies look forward to
>  a womb with a view"
>    Ashley Montagu, Touching:  The Human
> Significance of the Skin
>
>
> Home education has no beginning and has no end.  We
> are always living and learning, even a babe fresh from the
> womb.
>
> Mothers have always known the need to wear their
> young.  How else could they get their daily work done
> while meeting the continuous contact needs of their young?
>
> Securely nestled in their womb with a view, babies resume
> the bond upon birth.  Feelings of trust and security
> are their birthright as they ride around in bliss on their
> mother's body.  Everything mother does, baby
> observes.  Observation is a primary ingredient to
> learning.
>
> I'm leaning out my camper door while my grandbaby sleeps
> against my body.  Soon she will wake up and look out.
>
> Observing from a loving place, she starts to stir. 
> Any moment she will be wide-eyed and alert.
>
> She stares at the campfire
> She stares at the beauty of her mother
> She stares at me when I speak
> She stares at her daddy in delight
> She is always in someone's arms
> She is always held
> She is always talked to
> She is always loved
> She is learning about life
>
> Music plays in the distance
> Laughing faces
> laughing at
> her laughing face
>
> Mama reads to her
> Birds chirp happily
> She rubs her eyes
>
> The first thing Delilah Faith learned since the moment of
> her birth is to trust that her every need will be met with
> kindness and love.  Her mother is her source, and we
> are the significant others in her developing world.  By
> observing every action we make she is formulating a feeling
> about life and absorbing knowledge through the very process
> of observation.
>
> Securely tucked in the baby sling she absorbs cooking
> lessons, guitar lessons, fire-making lessons, carving
> lessons, reading lessons, writing lessons, art lessons,
> singing lessons, dancing lessons, shopping lessons, lessons
> from nature...and all the while being talked to, touched,
> cuddled, nursed, and loved.  And when she's taken in
> enough she turnes her face to my chest and nestles ever
> closer, closing her eyes for another blissful sleep.
>
> Babies in slings are in a constant state of bliss, either
> alert and learning or asleep and cooing.  Boredom is
> not a part of their reality, a primal fact I knew nothing
> about until my firstborn came into my life sixteen years
> ago.
>
> I was finishing up my college degree with sights on
> graduate school.  Cross-cultural studies had led me to
> the subject that ignited my passion...infant-carrying
> practices.  Regardless of the differences between
> cultures around the globe one thing was constant.  All
> mothers recognized the child's need for continuous contact
> throughout infancy.  My research into the subject of
> infant carrying practices led to further proof as to the
> wonderful benefits derived from marsupial mothering. 
> The constant rocking motions created when wearing a baby
> actually stimulate the baby's brain, especially the part of
> the brain where pleasure hormones are produced.  This
> explains the reason for a carried baby's state of bliss.
>
> Upon the birth of my daughter I designed the Cozy cradle
> baby sling and tucked her in.  With her securely
> against me I headed on to graduate school where I spent the
> next two years writing about marsupial mothering and founded
> the Mother and Child Reunion Project.  With my baby
> sound asleep in the sling, I sewed up and delivered many of
> these cozy cradles.  The first sling of its type on the
> market, it wasn't long before others began making and
> selling variations from my original design.
>
> People urged me to get a patent on my baby sling design,
> but such an idea defeated the purpose of the Mother and
> Child Reunion Project:  getting babies where they
> belonged...next to mom.
>
> Babies not only need to be a part of what's going on, they
> also need to be the center of our loving attention. 
> Nothing is as entertaining for a family as being mesmerized
> by the beauty and presence of the little ones. 
> Appreciating our young keeps us all young at heart and
> teaches our babies from the very start that they are special
> and sweet, adored and loved.
>
>
> FAMILY TOGETHERNESS
>
> Time stands still in our neck of the woods.  This
> desert is our home until the heat and rattlesnakes tell us
> to go come spring.  It's a perfect place in the winter,
> when we are not in Hawaii.
>
> Home sweet home
> Doesn't matter where
> Doesn't matter the
> day or the week
> the month or
> the year
> We're always
> here at home
>
> No bills to pay
> everything's cash
> or trade
> Getting down to
> basal need
> so we can be
> Family
>
> Jasmine makes a pot of food, Matthew plays cards on the
> floor while listening to a story that Sarah tells while
> reading to little Delilah.  I'm in the loft, the family
> bed, overseeing the beauty of family while I write, think,
> and relax.
>
> Our life flows from one pleasant task to the next, sun
> starting in one place and appearing to move across the sky
> becuse we feel like we are  standing still.  Be
> still and know that we are whirling through forever, always
> knowing the darkness and the dawn.
>
> The birds singa at certain times day after day.  The
> coyotes howl at the same time night after night. 
> Jasmine reads to Matthew by candlelight, Sarah dances for
> Delilah.
>
> Our family is our home.
>
> Matthew burns twigs in the fire.  Jasmine reads while
> under the covers.  Sarah Lee is sound asleep with her
> baby.
>
> Being a grandmother is about being present, always ready to
> help with the baby.  Being a family is about honoring
> the love each member brings to each day. 
>
> Family togetherness is all but lost in today's world. 
> Everyone is physically off in different directions,
> sometimes even before dawn.  And they don't return
> until sometimes way after dark, returning to a house that
> has been empty all day long.  Just enough time to make
> dinner, do laundry, take baths, and listen to the drone of
> the television before going off to bed to an alarm that will
> go off so they can get up and do it all over again.
>
> "What about the importance of socialization?"
>
> That's a common fear I hear from people who question
> homeschooling; that somehow our children won't know how to
> make it in the world if they're not thrown together with a
> bunch of strangers.  And, somehow we adults will go
> crazy if we don't get away from our children for hours at a
> time.
>
> A woman becomes pregnant and talks to her growing
> baby.  With birth comes the sweetest bond two people
> can ever know.  And the bond grows deeper with
> time.  Socialization is the byproduct of bonding, not a
> skill developed through mandatory education.
>
> A free mind functions best in freedom.  Waking up to
> our loved ones, jumping into our favorite activities, and
> feeling our family's support throughout the day - that's the
> direction for helping a free mind to remain free.  And
> the socialization of that free mind comes with every moment
> of being loved and supported by family...people who are
> always there...people who always care...moms and dads,
> grammas and grampas, aunties and uncles, brothers and
> sisters, cousins and friends...that's what makes
> family.  Smiling faces from morning to dark, kisses and
> hugs all day long, sleeping together through the night.
>
> And little squabbles in between
> No big deal, just part of the scene
>
>
> VOLUNTARY SIMPLICITY
>
> So, if everyone is hangi ng out at home, who's going to go
> out and work?
> Who's going to pay for everything?
>
> Enter family business.
>
> In order for a family to remain intact we must go about
> being a "family" as if that is our business.  We stay
> busy staying together.  And this is where
> resourcefulness and creativity come in.
>
> The first step in making money is to spend less. 
> Shifts in lifestyle make way for the freedom to be
> together.  The first step we took in lowering our
> overhead was to let go of the house.  We learned to
> live in a home-on-wheels, beginning with an old Dodge
> van.  In it we had the family bed and plenty of storage
> beneath that bed.  We had a little one-burner propane
> stove and a cooler for things requiring refrigeration. 
> My children each had their favorite things and we lived a
> free and happy life traveling around the island of Maui,
> then moving on to travel North America.
>
> Saving a dollar here and there makes a big difference when
> your cornerstone is family togetherness.  Money and
> supplies come to us one way or another.  Today the kids
> are wire-wrapping all the precious stones they find along
> the way.  We sell the books I write, the cozy cradle
> baby slings we make, our PEACEFUL SIMPLICITY music cd, and
> the jewelry we create.  A little here and a little
> there, having fun all the while, doing the best we can with
> what we've got.
>
>
> PARADIGM SHIFT
>
> Once you've had a paradigm shift you can never go
> back.  You can't forget what you have finally
> learned...finally un-learned after lifetimes of
> conditioning.
>
> Once you've observed learning in the context of freedom you
> can never again think along the lines of scheduled
> lessons.  Tonight is friday, when most people celebrate
> the end of another grueling week including children who are
> so happy that school is out for a couple days.  My kids
> are doing math by candlelight just because they are in the
> mood to do so.  A pregnant moon overhead, coyotes just
> beginning to roam the desert, our own sweet canine Fifi
> sound asleep beside my children.  Jasmine and Matthew
> work with passion on things that most kids are forced to
> learn.
>
> It's not whether the answer is right; it's the process of
> learning...so what if their numbers are backward?  So
> what if that's not the right way to spell a word?  Zen
> education, allowing our children the pleasure of trying
> things on for size, staying with that which holds their
> attention, leaving alone that which they easily walk away
> from, and being there to support them if and when their
> interest ignites again.
>
> Self-discipline is best learned in the mood of
> passion.  To love something so much that you show up
> over and over again.  This is the way I write
> books.  I wake up wishing I already had a pen in my
> hand.  Jasmine wakes up ready to read.  Matthew
> wakes up with the great outdoors in mind.  Delilah
> wakes up to tell her mama it's time to wake up.
>
> Nobody here has to be somewhere.
>
> To be loved and feel needed, therein lies the basic human
> needs.
> When you find out who you really are, it's really
> exciting!
>
> What do you love so much that you could do it all day
> long?
>
> Tinker with cars?
> Tend to a garden?
> Sew pretty fabric?
> Feed the crew?
> Write a new song?
> Work on learning new guitar chords?
> Beat on a drum?
> Dance to your heart's content?
>
>
> TRUE WEALTH
>
> It's hard to convince someone of something they are missing
> when they have never had it in the first place.  Prior
> to mothering I had lots of things but inner peace was sorely
> lacking in my life.  Then came my first child and life
> took on new meaning.
>
> True wealth is being surrounded by the ones you love,
> family and friends whose morning sun is the same.
>
> Peaceful simplicity
>
> The good life
>
> Satisfied by a diet of family
> each doing their own thing
> all working together
>
> Welcome home!
>
>
> SEVENTH GENERATION MOTHERING
>
> Tradition and patriotism emphasizes the need to maintain
> the status quo, to not offend society in general and elders
> in particular.
>
> But an elder is only worth listening to when that elder is
> right.
>
> Enter another paradigm shift.
>
> Listening to people who have walked wrong for so long
> ensures our continued state of being lost.
>
> Embrace your family and let the generations unfold in
> togetherness...
>
> Babies constantly held
> Toddlers constantly adored
> Children constantly listened to
> Mothers constantly respected
> Grammas constantly protecting
> Family members together
> through all kinds of weather
> Heaven on earth...
> Amen!
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