for Forming Communities
(That Help Reduce Conflict Down the Road)
by Diana Leafe Christian
See full article attached + video above
this is the summary of the points:
for Living in Community
from an Editorial in PC Magazine
1. Practice the Art of Personal Presence. Embrace the tension of opposites and tolerate and encourage the abstract, the unexpected and the discomfort of expanded consciousness.
2. Practice Mudhita, the ageless Buddhist practice that is the other side of the coin of compassion. Identify with the joy, gifts, pleasures and awakenings of others. This is the art of vicarious joy that banishes cynicism & envy.
3. Make your communication mindful and compassionately brief. Be appropriate, both on a one to one basis and with the whole group.
4. Do not ‘triangulate’. If we have issues or conflicts we should clear them with the individual concerned & not report to others. This is all about cultivating a culture of direct communication rather than gossip.
5. Practice punctuality. Time is limited. It demonstrates a respect for group process.
6. Practice consensus by default, perhaps the most difficult ideal to achieve at all times.
7. Celebrate! & Practice Random Acts of Play & Kindness.
2) Share all relevant information
... who have an interesting mission and say this about their name:
“Cultural Workers” The term “cultural worker” may be new to some people. We use it to suggest several things.
First, that the task of creating culture in a society is not the work of an elite, highly-paid few—which has become the case in our mass-market society; for example, if a restaurant needs a painting for its wall or a musician to entertain its customers, why not seek out the talents of local people rather than the highly-paid “notables that have made it..”
Second, that people who create culture are legitimate workers who deserve to be recognized and valued for their work, not “patronized.”
Third, that the process of creation is based in a desire to improve the lives of people not to just turn a profit.
Fourth, that all of us, in some way, are capable of being cultural workers if we can only free ourselves from “I’m not talented” paralysis that elitism and competition produce in our capitalist society.
Do We Have What It Takes?
by Carolyn Shaffer
(Adapted from the November 21, 1998 keynote address at the FIC's Art of Community weekend conference, Willits, California)
Building community, I believe, is one of the hardest things we can do today. It is also one of the most important. Without learning and practicing the art of living simply and sharing resources, we will not be able to reverse the ecological destruction that's going on. I don't think I have to say more about that, other than that sharing is hard. Agreeing on a common vision and mission is hard. Carrying it out is harder still. You have to deal with differences.