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Don't drink and drive . . .

I went to a party,
I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom,
So I drank soda instead.

I really felt proud inside,
The way you said I would,
I didn't drink and drive, Mom,
Though the others said I should.

I made a healthy choice,
And your advice to me was right.
The party finally ended,
And the kids drove out of sight.

As I got into my car, Mom,
Sure to get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me,
So responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom,
But as I pulled out into the road,
The other car didn't see me,
And hit me like a load.

As I lay there on the pavement,
I hear the policeman say,
"The other guy is drunk," Mom,
And now I'm the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom....
I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me?
My life just burst like a balloon.

There is blood all around me,
And most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom,
I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom,
I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others, Mom.
The others didn't think.

He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank
And I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom?
It can ruin your whole life.
I'm feeling sharp pains now.
Pains just like a knife.

The guy who hit me is walking,
And I don't think it's fair.
I'm lying here dying
And all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry,
Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom,
Put "Daddy's Girl" on my grave.

Someone should have told him,
Not to drink and drive.
If only they had told him, Mom,
I would still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter,
I'm becoming very scared.
Please don't cry for me, Mom.
When I needed you, you were always there.

I have one last question,
Before I say good bye.
I didn't drink and drive,

So why am I the one to die . . . ?


I am Gossip . . .

My name is Gossip.
I have no respect for justice.
I maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cunning, malicious and gather strength with age.

The more I am quoted, the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society.

My victims are helpless.
They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face.

To track me down is impossible. The harder you try, the more elusive I become.

I am nobody's friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.

I topple governments and wreck marriages. I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartaches and indigestion. I spawn suspicion and generate grief.

I make innocent people cry in their pillows. Even my name hisses.

I am called GOSSIP.
Office gossip,
Shop gossip,
Party gossip,
Telephone gossip.

I make headlines and headaches.

REMEMBER, you repeat a story, ask yourself: is it true? Is it fair? Is it necessary?? If not, do not repeat it. KEEP QUIET.

GREAT minds discuss ideas.. Average minds discuss events.. Shallow minds discuss people.. Which are you . . . ?


The Fence...

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.

He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there." A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us."

Life is like a do-It-yourself Project 

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his Employer-Contractor of his plan to leave the house-building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife, enjoying his extended family.

He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by. The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go, and asked if he could build just one more house as a favor.

The carpenter said yes, but it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career. 

When the carpenter finished his work, the employer came to inspect the house. He then handed the front-door key to the carpenter. "This is your house," he said, "my gift to you."

The carpenter was shocked ! What a shame !
If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently.

So it is with us.We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the building. Then with a shock we realize we have to live in the house we have built. If we could do it over, we'd do it much differently, won't you agree? But we cannot go back. 

You are the carpenter. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. " Life is like a do-it-yourself project. "  Your attitudes and the choices you make today, build the " house " you live in tomorrow. So, build wisely !

Remember ..................

               Work like you don't need the money
               Love like you've never been hurt
               Dance like nobody is watching


The 90/10 principle

The 90/10 principle is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The result? Millions of peopleare suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. Their's is constant stress,lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seemsdreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does thisdescribe you?

If so, do not be discouraged.

You can be different!. Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life! What is this secret?

"10% of life is made up of what happens to you.  90% of life  is decide by how youreact. "

What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. 

A driver may cut us off in traffic.  We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90% !

How? By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!

Let's use an example. You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee on to your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.

You harshly scold your  daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you  turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.

She misses the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed  limit.After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at the school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started in a terrible fashion.  As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

  A) Did the coffee cause it?
  B) Did your daughter cause it?
  C) Did the Policeman cause it?
  D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is   what caused your bad day.

 Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is  about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns  and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having.  Notice the difference. Two different scenarios.

Both started the same. Both ended different. Why?Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10

secret. If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you ! React properly and it  will not ruin your day.

A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it falls off? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?

Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers, etc.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.


Not Easy, But Worth...

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others.
      Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes.

Easy is to talk without thinking.
      Difficult is to refrain the tongue.

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
      Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others.
      Difficult is to ask for forgiveness.

Easy is to set rules.
      Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
      Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
      Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
      Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
      Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
      Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone. 
      Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
      Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
      Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
      Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
      Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
      Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others.
      Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive.
      Difficult is to give.

Easy to read this
      Difficult to follow