Wedding - Options


This candle you are about to light is a candle of Marriage. Its fire is magical because it represents the light of two people in love. This candle before you is a candle of Commitment because it takes two people working together to keep it aflame. This candle is also a candle of Unity because both must come together, a spark of themselves, to create the new light. As you light this candle today, may the brightness of the flame shine throughout your lives. May it give you courage and reassurance in darkness; warmth and safety in the cold; and strength and joy in your bodies, minds, and spirits. May your union be forever blessed.


[BRIDE] and [GROOM], today you join your separate lives together. The two separate vessels of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two vessels of sand are poured into the Unity Vessel, the individual vessels of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual vessels, so will your marriage be.


(Please Note: Due to the Ohio Open Container Laws: outside ceremony must use non-alcoholic grape juice)...

Two separate goblets are filled with wine. Before the couple is pronounced husband and wife, the Officiant pours one-half of the wine from each goblet into the Unity Cup, from which each sips.

Officiant: "This glass of wine is known as the Unity Cup, or Kiddush Cup, and is symbolic of the Cup of Life. As you share this cup of wine, you share all that the future may bring. The half-filled goblets are a reminder of your individuality; the single cup marks your new life together. As you share the wine from a single cup, so may you, under God's guidance, share contentment, peace, and fulfillment from your own Cup of Life. May you find life's joys heightened, its bitterness sweetened, and each of its moments hallowed by true companionship and love."

Officiant: (holds up the Unity Cup and may say this Prayer): Blessed are Thou, O Lord our God, Creator of the fruit of the vine." (The Groom takes the first sip, then offers the cup to the Bride).


This box contains a bottle of wine and a love letter from each to the other. The letters describe the good qualities they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their reasons for choosing to marry. The letters are sealed in individual envelopes and they have not seen what the other has written. You have created your very own “romantic” time capsule to be opened on your anniversary. Each year you will add a new letter to be read the following year.

I recommend that you keep the box in a place of honor, prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of your commitment to each other.

[BRIDE] and [GROOM], should you ever find your marriage enduring insurmountable hardships, you are as a couple, open this box, sit and drink the wine together, then separate and read the letters you wrote to one another when you were united in marriage. By reading these love letters you will reflect upon the reasons you fell in love and chose to marry each other here today.

[BRIDE] and [GROOM], you may now seal the box.


Because of the vows they have taken today, [BRIDE] and [GROOM] have created a whole new family. To make their commitment to that new family complete, they wish to include their children: [Children’s Names here] and recognize them as an integral part of this marriage.

OPTION: Giving them each a medallion/ring/etc. to symbolize their new family unity.

Do you [BRIDE & GROOM] take these children to be the children of your heart, to love and to hug, to talk to and to learn from, through successes and growing pains, as long as you all shall live? “I DO.”

Do you Children take [BRIDE & GROOM] to be your step- Mom and Dad and your friend, accomplice and ally, to love and to cherish, as long as you all shall live? “I / WE DO.”

Do you, Bride’s children & Groom’s children, each take the other(s) to be your (sister / brother) and your friend(s), through fights and through fun, as long as you all shall live? “I / WE DO.”

Do you, Parents, promise to support these relationships, to give them room to breathe, to encourage their special bonds with each other and love them through it all? “WE DO”


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Before each of you is a container of glass crystals, each represents your separate lives, friends and families. I will ask that you each pour the crystals, in your separate vases into the Unity Vase together. As the glass crystals from each vase is blended together it symbolizes the joining of your lives, friends and families, into one union, the beginning of your journey as husband and wife.

The combined glass crystals will be taken to an artist and blown into a beautiful vase, never to be separated again, so may your marriage be. Marriage and the beautiful vase are alike, in many ways. Both are examples of what can happen when raw and unfinished elements come together. They can be two separate entities, fluid and independent of each other and can have an exquisiteness of their own, but join them together and the result can be stunning in its beauty, inspiring in its strength, and humbling in its function. It has continual flow… no beginning and no end. As with your marriage… this vase will require great care. Cherish it, polish it, and protect it from any harm. Keep from it that which can break it or chip away at it, and it will remain a thing of beauty….


“[BRIDE] and [GROOM] will now take part in a Tree Planting Ceremony, to symbolize the roots of their relationship, and the continued growth of their love, as they become each other’s family today. Love is the essence of human experience and emotion. It is the root of all and everything we, as humans, do. Love enriches our experience, and fills our lives with meaning. It gives us a firm base from which to grow, to learn, and change. Let your relationship and your love for each other be like this tree you plant today. Let it grow tall and strong. Let it stand tall during the harsh winds and rains and storms, and come through unscathed. Like a tree, your marriage must be resilient. It must weather the challenges of daily life and the passage of time. And just like the tree you are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and nourishment. [BRIDE] and [GROOM], would you please water the sapling? Remember to nourish each other, with words of encouragement, trust, and love. This is needed on a daily basis so you each can grow and reach your fullest potential – just like this tree. The [BRIDE] and [GROOM] will plant this tree, to always be a symbol of their love for each other.”