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Funeral

The aim of this page is to help you prepare your funeral service.     

There are things that are essential to the integrity of a Catholic funeral service and plenty of flexibility within those essentials. 
There are many options and possibilities - that is why you need someone who has a good understanding of the ritual to guide you.
Here are a collection of reflections and poems about death.   Read more
When the Eucharist is celebrated, the title page of a printed booklet should bear one of these designations: 
• Mass of Christian Burial for Mary Brown, 
• The Funeral Mass of Mary Brown, 
• Requiem Mass for the repose of the soul of Mary Brown

Possible Order of Service (female)


Mass of Christian Burial for <name>

Presiding Priest - <name>

Opening Hymn: ?

INTRODUCTORY RITE

We gather to celebrate the life of ........ and to pray for her eternal life with God. We also gather to comfort family and friends in their grief.

Greeting

Lighting of the Paschal Candle

PRIEST: In baptism n. was enlightened by Christ. She walked as a child of light and kept the flame of faith alive.

ALL: May Christ, the eternal and unfading light now welcome her into God's Kingdom of Light and Peace.

Sprinkling with Holy Water

PRIEST: In the waters of baptism, N... died with Christ and rose with Him to new life.

ALL: May she now share eternal life with Christ in glory.


Placing of the Pall (optional)

PRIEST: On the day of her baptism N... was clothed in Christ. By her work and example she lived with Christian dignity.

ALL: May Christ now enfold her in His love and bring her to eternal life.

Placing of Symbols by Family and Friends (optional)

Eulogy:( Names of people sharing?)


LITURGY OF THE WORD

Website to find suitable readings:

Cut and paste the ones you choose to this template: You will need a 1st Reading and a Gospel. (The 2nd Reading is optional).

First Reading: From?      Readers Name: ??

(If you choose one from the readings above .. cut and paste.)

Conclude with ... The word of the Lord.
ALL: Thanks be to God.

Responsorial Psalm can be psalm or a song.
(cut and paste.)

Second Reading (optional - see above for possibilities)

Gospel:  (Read by the Priest)
Priest:   The Lord be with you.
All:        And with your Spirit

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to ........ 
All:       Glory to you O Lord.

Conclude with - The Gospel of the Lord
All:    Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.

Homily:

Prayers of the Faithful:  (Prayed by Family or Friend/s - Names?)
(egs - and make your own - 4-6)

Prayers of the Faithful (examples – make up your own and choose from others)


PRIEST: We are gathered to celebrate the life and love that N... shared with her family and friends. We, who have been privileged to share the journey of life with N..., turn to God and place our prayers before Him.

Reader: God we thank you for the gift of N...’s life and her friendship. May the memory of her love of family and friends, and her passion for working, strengthen us always. Lord, hear us. 
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.
 Reader: Lord, we pray for N...’s husband, her children and grandchildren, and all those who are missing her presence. May they be strengthened by You and the knowledge that N...’s spirit now lives with God and she continues to support us with her prayers.   Lord, hear us.
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

 Reader: Lord, we pray for everyone in this church today. May we all find consolation in the belief that death is not the end, but rather a new beginning with our God.       Lord, hear us.
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

 Reader: God we thank you for the time we had with N.... Please help us realise the courage she has shown in her illness and may it help us through our daily life.     Lord, hear us.
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

Reader: We thank the n... community for all their prayers and support, and especially the loving care and help shown to N... and her family in the nursing home/hospital. May God bless all these people in their lives and their work.  
Lord, hear us. Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

PRIEST: God of mercy, you are our refuge in times of need. Comfort us in our grieving and hear the prayers of all who loved N...; this day and every day, through Christ our Lord.      ALL: Amen.

More examples

 LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST

(Names of family or friends bringing forth offertory gifts?)

Offertory Hymn ?? (optional)

Eucharistic Prayer

Holy Communion -  
Communion Hymn ?? (Optional)

Reflection with slides and music. (optional)


Ritual with flowers/petals (optional) - 
If they are not going back to the grave - an option is for family and friends to place some flowers or petals on the coffin. Discuss with your celebrant to see if this is helpful for you?

COMMENDATION AND FAREWELL

 Prayer of Commendation


PRIEST: Trusting in God we have prayed together for N.... May our farewell express our affection for her; may it ease our sadness and strengthen our hope. One day we shall joyfully greet her again in the love of Christ.
Removal of the Pall (if Pall was used)
Sprinkling with Holy Water and Incensing

PRIEST: Saints of God come to her aid! Hasten to meet her angels of the Lord!
ALL: Receive her soul and present her to God the Most High.
PRIEST: May Christ, who called you, take you to himself; may the angels lead you to Abraham’s side!
ALL: Receive her soul and present her to God the Most High.
PRIEST: Give him eternal rest, O Lord, and may your light shine on her forever.
ALL: Receive her soul and present her to God the Most High.
PRIEST: Lord, you are the author and sustainer of our lives. You are our final home. In sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life through you, we commend to you Lord, our beloved N..., wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. In baptism she began her journey towards you, take her now to yourself and give her the life promised to those born again of water and the spirit.
Confirm us in faith, in hope, and in love, so that we may bear your peace to one another and one day stand together with N... and all the saints who praise you for your saving help.
May the Lord bless her and keep her ,
May the Lord let his face shine upon her and be gracious to her ,
May the Lord uncover his face to her and grant her peace.
May the love and peace of God bless and console us, and gently wipes the tears from our eyes: in the name of the Father, the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen

Recessional Hymn: ???

Our special thanks to you all for your prayers, love and messages of support.


Your presence here today is a great comfort and support to us all and a wonderful tribute to N....

We would also like to thank all the family who helped out in any way and to all N...’s friends who helped to make this day a celebration of his life.

Following the mass there will be ...

at ..... ,

or the family will bid farewell to ... from the church.

(whatever is appropriate)

Instructions to the people:

Example: You may join us there or you are most welcome to go directly to ...

where we will join you for refreshments.

If a Liturgy of the Word is celebrated the designation may be 
• Rites of Christian Burial of Mary Brown 
• The Funeral Liturgy of Mary Brown

Possible Order of Service (male)


Requiem Mass for the repose of the soul of  <name>

Presiding Priest - <name>

Opening Hymn: ?

INTRODUCTORY RITE

We gather to celebrate the life of ........ and to pray for his eternal life with God. We also gather to comfort family and friends in their grief. 

Greeting

Lighting of the Paschal Candle

PRIEST: In baptism n. was enlightened by Christ. He walked as a child of light and kept the flame of faith alive.

ALL: May Christ, the eternal and unfading light now welcome him into God's Kingdom of Light and Peace.

Sprinkling with Holy Water

PRIEST: In the waters of baptism, N... died with Christ and rose with Him to new life.

ALL: May he now share eternal life with Christ in glory.


Placing of the Pall (optional)

PRIEST: On the day of his baptism N... was clothed in Christ. By his work and example he lived with Christian dignity.

ALL: May Christ now enfold him in His love and bring him to eternal life.

Placing of Symbols by Family and Friends (optional)

Eulogy: (Names of people sharing?)


LITURGY OF THE WORD

Website to find suitable readings:

Cut and paste the ones you choose to this template: You will need a First Reading and a Gospel. (The Second Reading is optional).

First Reading: From?      Readers Name: ??

(If you choose one from the readings above .. cut and paste.)

Conclude with ... The word of the Lord.
ALL: Thanks be to God.

Responsorial Psalm can be psalm or a song.
(cut and paste.)

Second Reading (optional - see above for possibilities)

Gospel:  (Read by the Priest)
Priest:   The Lord be with you.
All:        And with your Spirit

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to ........ 
All:       Glory to you O Lord.

Conclude with - The Gospel of the Lord
All:    Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ.

Homily:

Prayers of the Faithful:   (Prayed by Family or Friend/s - Names?)
(egs - and make your own - 4-6)

Prayers of the Faithful (examples – make up your own and choose from others)

PRIEST: We are gathered to celebrate the life and love that N... shared with his family and friends. We, who have been privileged to share the journey of life with N..., turn to God and place our prayers before Him.

Reader: God we thank you for the gift of N...’s life and his friendship. May the memory of his love of family and friends, and his passion for working, strengthen us always. Lord, hear us. 
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.
 Reader: Lord, we pray for N...’s wife, his children and grandchildren, and all those who are missing his presence. May they be strengthened by You and the knowledge that N...’s spirit now lives with God and he continues to support us with his prayers.   
Lord, hear us.  Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

 Reader: Lord, we pray for everyone in this church today. May we all find consolation in the belief that death is not the end, but rather a new beginning with our God.       Lord, hear us.
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

 Reader: God we thank you for the time we had with N.... Please help us realise the courage he has shown in his illness and may it help us through our daily life.                            Lord, hear us.
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.

Reader: We thank the n... community for all their prayers and support, and especially the loving care and help shown to N... and his family in the nursing home/hospital. May God bless all these people in their lives and their work.      Lord, hear us.     
Response: Lord, hear our prayer.


PRIEST: God of mercy, you are our refuge in times of need. Comfort us in our grieving and hear the prayers of all who loved N...; this day and every day, through Christ our Lord.      ALL: Amen.

More examples

LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST
(Names of family or friends bringing forth offertory gifts?)

Offertory Hymn ?? (optional)

Eucharistic Prayer

Holy Communion -  
Communion Hymn ?? (Optional)

Reflection with slides and music. (optional)


Ritual with flowers/petals (optional) - 
If they are not going back to the grave - an option is for family and friends to place some flowers or petals on the coffin. Discuss with your celebrant to see if this is helpful for you?

COMMENDATION AND FAREWELL

 Prayer of Commendation


PRIEST: Trusting in God we have prayed together for N.... May our farewell express our affection for him ; may it ease our sadness and strengthen our hope. One day we shall joyfully greet him again in the love of Christ.
Removal of the Pall (if Pall was used)
Sprinkling with Holy Water and Incensing

PRIEST: Saints of God come to his aid! Hasten to meet him angels of the Lord!
ALL: Receive his soul and present him to God the Most High.
PRIEST: May Christ, who called you, take you to himself; may the angels lead you to Abraham’s side!
ALL: Receive his soul and present him to God the Most High.
PRIEST: Give him eternal rest, O Lord, and may your light shine on him forever.
ALL: Receive his soul and present him to God the Most High.
PRIEST: Lord, you are the author and sustainer of our lives. You are our final home. In sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life through you, we commend to you Lord, our beloved N..., husband, father, brother, grandfather and friend. In baptism he began his journey towards you, take him now to yourself and give him the life promised to those born again of water and the spirit.
Confirm us in faith, in hope, and in love, so that we may bear your peace to one another and one day stand together with N... and all the saints who praise you for your saving help.
May the Lord bless him and keep him ,
May the Lord let his face shine upon him and be gracious to him ,
May the Lord uncover his face to him and grant him peace.
May the love and peace of God bless and console us, and gently wipes the tears from our eyes: in the name of the Father, the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen

Recessional Hymn: ???

Our special thanks to you all for your prayers, love and messages of support.


Your presence here today is a great comfort and support to us all and a wonderful tribute to N....

We would also like to thank all the family who helped out in any way and to all N...’s friends who helped to make this day a celebration of his life.

Following the mass there will be ...

at ..... , 

or the family will bid farewell to ... from the church. 

(whatever is appropriate)

Instructions to the people:

Example: You may join us there

or you are most welcome to go directly to ...

where we will join you for refreshments.