Parent-Coach Communication: A Guide

By:  Alfred “Bunky” Dow,  Jr.
Director of Athletics/Student Activities

Parent/Staff Communication

An effective and successful program requires commitment from students, parents, coaches, and advisors. Communication is a vital part of any successful program.
Communication you should expect from your coach:
The when and where of practices and contests.
  • The coach’s philosophy.
  • The expectations the coach has for all players on thesquad as well as your student.
  • Requirements of being part of the team, special equipment and off-season conditioning.
  • If your child is injured during participation.
  • Any disciplinary action of your child that results in removal from participation.

Appropriate concerns to discuss with coaches:
  • The treatment of your child, mentally and physically.
  • Skill improvement and development.
  • Concerns about your student’s behavior.


There are two ways to do anything in life—with class, or without class. Class doesn’t make you any less a competitor, nor any less aggressive. You don’t lose your edge by having class.

Class actually gives you an edge on your opponent. You have poise that will allow you to concentrate more, and by concentrating more, you’ll win more.

What is class?
It’s something that’s hard to define, but easy to recognize. It’s being a good person, always taking responsibility and showing consideration for the consequences your actions have for others. It’s having humility, poise, confidence and, above all, tremendous pride.

Classy people handle victory and defeat in the same way—graciously, with their heads held high. They don’t brag in victory or make excuses in defeat.

“If you have class, you don’t need much of anything else, if you don’t have it, whatever else you have won’t make up the difference.”

Fame, fortune, trophies, etc. are all fine, but they alone can’t give you class. Only you can give yourself that—only you can give yourself class.

Inappropriate concerns to discuss with coaches:
  • Playing time.
  • Team strategy.
  • Play calling.
  • Other students/athletes.

Communication coaches expect from parents:
  • Any concerns expressed directly to the coach.
  • Notification of any scheduling conflicts well in advance.
  • Commitment and support to the program.
  • Be sure your student is at practice on time.

Procedure to follow when a concern arises:
  1. Make an appointment with the coach (see Coaches Directory).
  2. If the coach cannot be reached, call the Athletic Director, Mr. Dow, to set up a meeting.
  3. Next steps will be determined as needed.

Please do not attempt to confront a coach before, during, or following a contest or practice. These are emotional times for both the parent and the coach. This time period does not promote an objective analysis of the situation.

We continue to place an emphasis on communication with our students and parents. We believe this begins with our first meeting of the school year. When everyone understands the direction and philosophy of each program then good communication has begun.

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