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It’s our 65th Anniversary!


1953 - 2018

12 Heaton Street, M3H 4Y6  (416) 636-6665


Will you still need me, will you still feed me

When I'm sixty-five?

Shabbat Bulletin - May 26, 2018

Your Life Moments


May 26  Allen Sidenberg
May 30  Sylvia White
May 31  Harvey Storm


May 19  Sam & Andrea Waserman

May 27  Lodzer Centre Congregation

May 29  Rafael & Tammy Remez


May 21  Sima Anidjar, mother of Morris

May 21  Jack Coretsky, father of Barry Corey

May 22  Louis Nadler, father of Sam

May 23  Sally Myers, mother of Helen Gould

May 24  Stanley Tessis, husband of Dorothy

May 27  Avram Drewnowsky, father of Elliott
May 28  Henry Gardner, father of Gerri goldberg


Shul Ongoing Programs


7:30-8:30 pm

Parsha of The Week with Judy Hazan

Parsha of the Week is now studying the rest of Tanach.


7-8 pm

Conversational Hebrew Classes with Ayala.

Interactive conversational Hebrew learning group

Thursdays (monthly)

8 pm

Book Chat

Share thoughts and pick up ideas on books you'd like to read

June 14 will be the last time we meet before summer break.


10 am

Karate for Seniors with black belt, David Birken

Learn a Dynamic new skill for Fun and Focus - at YOUR own pace!

Saturdays after

Kiddush Lunch

“A Code of Jewish Ethics” discussion group

with Jonathan Usher

Find out the why...

Full  Details

can be found at the very end of the bulletin

before Shul Business

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May 26

12 Sivan




9:12 AM

Frank Steiman


9:30 AM

Cantor David Young

Rabbi Eli

B’aal Koreh:

Harvey Bitterman

This week’s Kiddush

is sponsored by

Helen Gould

for the yahrzeits of

her mother

Sally Myers

and her mother-in-law

Rose Gould Lefko Cohen

Torah Times

Triennial Year 2

Parashat: Naso

Numbers 4:21 - 7:89

Triennial Year 2

26 May 2018

1: 5:11-15 (pg. 593

2: 5:16-26

3: 5:27-6:4

4: 6:5-8

5: 6:9-15

6: 6:16-21

7: 6:22-27

maf: 6:22-27


Judges 13:2 - 13:25 (pg. 602)

Candle Lighting:

8:28 p.m. – Friday


9:37 p.m. – Saturday


May 27, 2018








Silent Auction

6 PM





The Caverners


Last call bidding

10 PM

Winners announced

Attendees will receive the 65th Anniversary Gala Book.

If you’re worried…

Bring earplugs. I do.

And, enjoy the concert.

They’re a mekhaya!

THE CAVERNERS debuted in 1994 and have since been exciting audiences with their note for note perfect portrayal of The Beatles in concert.  With authentic instruments, costumes and stellar vocals this all Canadian cast recreates an incredible performance night after night leaving audiences screaming, stamping their feet and shouting for more.


June 2

19 Sivan

The Happiness Prayer

"How will you find happiness in this world and peace in the world to come? By learning these wisdom practices from your ancestors:

Honor those who gave you life.

Be kind.

Keep learning.

Invite others into your life.

Be there when others need you.

Celebrate good times.

Support yourself and others during times of loss.

Pray with intention.


Look inside and commit."

Evan Moffic

Happiness is not always pleasure.

It is not always ease.

It is connection.


June 3

Lodzer AGM

10 AM

This is an excellent opportunity for you to bring your ideas, suggestions and opinions to an open forum to guide the Lodzer Centre Congregation in its future direction.

There’s no election this year.



June 5

7:30 PM



at the


Free Admission

Ann Samson

The Jews of India

A Historical and Sociological Overview

Part 1 of 4

India has an unbroken record of over 2,000 years of hospitality to Jews. Mrs. Ann Samson, a leading spokesperson for the Indian Jewish Community of Toronto, will provide an overview of the history, sociological structure, unique customs and traditions of this fascinating and often overlooked Jewish community. Her presentation will be followed by a question and answer period. An educator and active community member, Ann Samson is one of the founders of Congregation Bina of Indian Jews.


June 10

Shul Kiddush


1 - 3 pm

Meeting in support of

the Yezidi

All Welcome

No Charge

June10 July8 August5 Sep9 Oct7 Nov4 Dec2


We are grateful for all donations that have been sent for new families.  Thank you so much for your generosity!!

We have a special need for mens clothings S - M size and children's clothing especially for boys.  Sizes from 2 - 9 for all children would be very much appreciated. If you have something to donate, please contact our donations coordination committee  Azam Salehi and Susan Glickman




While we sleep peacefully in our beds,

the Yazidi people of Iraq and Syria are being driven from their homes, the men and boys crucified and killed, while the women and children are raped and enslaved.

Those who manage to escape have become refugees within Iraq, Syria, Jordan and abroad.

Ignore the plight of others

at your own peril.


June 10

7 pm

The Lodzer


Rabbi Eli

a personal journey

with Q&A

Free Admission

All Welcome


Memories of a

Refusenik Child

Rabbi Eli… The 44+ year-old multilingual native of Odessa, who speaks five languages and gets by in eight others, grew up in a religious Refusenik family, mostly in Moscow, before making aliyah with them as a teenager. inContext

Refusenik was an unofficial term for individuals, typically but not exclusively Soviet Jews, who were denied permission to emigrate by the authorities of the Soviet Union.

A large number of Soviet Jews applied for exit visas to leave the Soviet Union, especially in the period following the 1967 Six-Day War. While some were allowed to leave, many were refused permission to emigrate.

“KGB give me my visa to Israel.”

The ban on Jewish immigration to Israel was lifted in 1971 leading to the 1970s Soviet Union aliyah. The coming to power of Mikhail Gorbachev in the Soviet Union in the mid-1980s, and his policies of glasnost and perestroika, as well as a desire for better relations with the West, led to major changes, and most refuseniks were allowed to emigrate.

"We Are Jews Again"


June 14

8:00 PM

Book Chat

Shul Kiddush


Book Chat

The Break

by Katherena Vermette

The Break

by Katherena Vermette

“The Break” is hydro land that cuts a swath through Winnipeg’s North End neighbourhood; in the novel it serves as both the setting for a terrible crime and a symbol of the fractured lives of the characters, four generations of a Métis family…

...The Break offers clear insight into people struggling to secure a place in the world.


Jewish Ethics in Torah and Customs

the after Shabbat discussion group led by Jonathan Usher

Based on A Code of Jewish Ethics Vol.1 by Rabbi Joseph Telushkin.

Humility Part 2

Respect all those you meet

The average person undoubtedly thinks that an honourable person is one who receives much honour, whereas the Torah’s attitude is the reverse: It is the one who gives honour.

Do not gossip about others’ flaws

Judge others not only by their achievements , particularly if these are not substantial, but also in light of how they are fulfilling their potential. Even if they are not doing so, this might be because of psychological or other difficulties ; they might still be doing as well as they can.

Question: How do you determine a person’s potential?

When dealing with those we perhaps regard as less intelligent than ourselves, we should apply the Golden Rule and consider, “How would I like someone smarter than I am to treat me?”

We should ask others, particularly those we have helped , to bless us. A blessing given by an ordinary person should not be taken lightly. It is particularly worthwhile to solicit a blessing from one whom we had helped, and to be pleased and honoured  - no matter how highly we may regard ourselves and our achievements - with the compliments and/or blessings of any person.

“A man I know extended considerable financial aid to an elderly widow whom he had befriended. Whenever he had a business project pending or some matter of family concern, he would ask the woman to bless him. He explained, she was a person of extraordinary goodness, so I feel, who better than her to offer me a blessing. Also , I know she felt deeply embarrassed that she needed assistance, so by making it known that I desired her assistance as well, it helped equalize our relationship. And finally, if I want G-d to show me mercy and look upon me with love then who better to have bless me than a person to whom I have shown mercy and love?

Question 1: Is this a Christian tradition?

Question 2: If it is, should we adopt it?

Question 3: What is the significance or meaning of being blessed by someone?

If you are prominent

“Saul, Israel’s first king, provides the classical biblical example of a humble person who became arrogant and cruel upon gaining power. When he was originally chosen to be king, Saul was a humble man, and unconcerned about his status. However , once ensconced in power, he was willing to slaughter innocent people to retain his position.

(1 Samuel 22: - 22:13) That was the case even after Samuel, the prophet who had anointed him, informed Saul that G-d no longer considered him fit to be king. Had Saul retained the humility that characterized him before he became ruler over others, he would never have acted in such a fashion.”

One should always speak gently to one’s fellow human beings. The very act of speaking gently encourages us to regard all those to whom we speak as equals.

Question: Is this part of Lashon Horah?

We should not speak about our achievements to others, unless there is a pressing reason to do so. We should resolve that the next time we are at a social gathering, we will not mention any personal achievement unless it is absolutely germane to the conversation.

The Talmud teaches that one need not keep his or her well-known identity a secret ‘where he is unknown’. The Sefer Chasidim elaborating on this point, notes that if a scholar comes to a city where he is unknown and will be ignored, he should start engaging townspeople in conversation so that they will come to appreciate who he is. We should help prepare for the Sabbath , which honours G-d for creating the world, with our own hands. Spending just a few minutes before Shabbat honouring G-d through our own efforts serves as a tangible reminder that there is a G-d above us. This type of G-d-consciousness is the most powerful type of humility.

Cultivating goodness in private

Do only good, for that is why you were created. But who needs to know about it? In line with this teaching, we should try to do some act of kindness on a routine basis that remains unknown to others. We should let it remain a secret between us, the recipient of our kindness, and G-d.

Question: Is this talking about mitzvot?

A mussarnik, a Jew who had spent decades trying to improve his character, confided to a disciple on his deathbed that the evil inclination was still trying to seduce him. How so, the astonished student asked. The dying man answered: He keeps telling me, Say the Sh’ma Israel in a loud voice so that when you die, people will say, What a tzaddik! He died with the Sh’ma on his lips.

Question: Is it the thought or the action that counts?

Acknowledge your weaknesses

We should cultivate humility by acknowledging what we don’t know. Pride causes many of us to act as if we are all-knowing. Thus we sometimes give advice when we’re not qualified to do so. A humble person knows what he knows, acknowledges what he doesn’t, and when appropriate, says to people, I’m sorry, but I don’t know.

We should admit when we have made an error. Out of pride, many people refuse to acknowledge when they are wrong; instead they invest intellectual energy in trying to defend a position that is incorrect. Thus pride, the source of arrogance, can cause us not only to hold on to incorrect teachings, but to try to convince others of their truth as well.

In Genesis when Tamar confronts Judah with evidence of a wrongful act he committed - evidence he could easily have suppressed - he immediately acknowledges “She is more righteous than I.”

Question: If you acknowledge a weakness will some people take advantage of that knowledge?

Maintaining perspective

If you have learned much Torah, do not boast of it, for it was for this vey purpose that you were created. Similarly , if we do a great deal of good, we should remember that perhaps that was why we were born.

In addition we should maximize in our own eyes the accomplishments and good deeds of others, and appreciate and admire them. Elazar Cohen was the officer in charge of the Israeli army’s helicopter squad. During wartime, the squad’s job was to fly into the range of enemy fire in order to rescue wounded soldiers. Cohen once came to Rabbi Aryeh Levine, the Jerusalem saint, and asked for a blessing. To the army commander’s shock, Rea Aryeh refused the request. But why? Cohen asked. Reb Aryeh responded, “Who am I to bless you” I truly believe your merit before Heaven is greater than mine.”  

Question: Does this make sense? Can’t a person bless another even though the blessed is more  moral?

This is the end of Telushkin for the week of may 26th - done

If one pursues honour, honour flees from him.

But if you are a good person, is it healthy or right to regard yourself as bad even temporarily? Yes, but only at those times when you begin to think too highly of yourself, such as when you are being praised. During such times, view yourself, if  not as bad, then as capable of serious wrongdoing.

Before giving a speech, a prominent Chasidic rebbe would seclude himself in a room and heap praises upon himself such as, “You are the greatest scholar of our age … our most inspiring leader … our wisest thinker”, so that he wouldn’t take such words seriously when they were said by others. When he was once overheard, the rabbi explained, “The words sound ridiculous when I say them to myself, and I want to accustom myself to their sounding ridiculous when said by others.

We should correct flattery that is untrue; the Talmud forbids a person from accepting praise that is untrue, for reasons of both truthfulness and humility. In other words we should accustom ourselves to refusing honour that is exaggerated or undeserved.

men in positions of influence in general, regardless of their level, stumble and are corrupted by the flattery heir subordinates.

Try to ignore personal slights.

Abraham Lincoln, America’s greatest, and most bitterly attacked, president, said: If I were to try and read much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might as well be closed for any other business. As Lincoln put it, “I do the very best I know how, the very best I can; and I mean to keep doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right, what is said against me won’t amount to anything. If the end brings me out wrong,  ten angels swearing I was right would make no difference.”

When offering personal prayers to G-d , we should make our appeal dependent on the merit of others, not our own. - we should make our request, at least sometimes, in the name of a parent, grandparent, or someone else who loves us, and who was a very good person.

Even if your children are highly accomplished, do not allow them to be overly praised.

The danger of excessive and inappropriate humility

We should avoid exaggerated humility, among other things, it can damage our good name. Rabbi Chaim Soloveitchik generally disliked issuing rulings on questions of Jewish law, particularly ritual issues, His grandson Rabbi Joseph Soloveitchik, explained that because Reb Chaim was familiar with so many different Jewish texts and had an immensely penetrating mind, he could always find ways to justify different approaches to the same problem.

Never allow “humility” to serve as an excuse to avoid or evade making important decisions.  We should also never let humility either blind us to matters of right and wrong or, worse, become a cover for cowardice, and stop us, for example from reprimanding or criticizing an evil person or ideology.

Avoiding Arrogance  

  1. If you tend to compare yourself with those of lesser abilities or achievements , remind yourself of your weaknesses.

  2. Similarly if you feel entitled to praise and honour for your accomplishments, think of the things you have done of which you would be ashamed were they to become publicly known. Such an exercise, if done honestly, can be quite painful, but also can serve as an important corrective.

  3. When we feel superior to another because of a bad trait he has and can’t seem to overcome, we should think of some bad trait of our own that we have difficulty overcoming.

  4. Reflect on how much of our wisdom depends on others.

  5. If somebody else had our abilities (for example, a high IQ). she might be as wise as we are, or perhaps wiser. Thus feeling superior to others because of an innate ability such as intelligence makes no sense.

  6. Remember that good looks and beauty are ephemeral. Just as snow begins pure white but soon turns into slush, so we too, despite our great beauty, will become a small heap of worm-eaten matter.

  7. Remember the Persian proverb, “After the game, the pawn and the king go into the same box.”

  8. Don’t become arrogant because of wealth, even if people cater to you or flatter you, and show you great honour.

  9. No matter how accomplished you are, realize the extent to which you depend on others of lower status and earning capabilities for your survival. After an accident, a highly educated and powerful person’s life may be saved by paramedics who are less skilled and paid less than the people they are saving and to whom the injured person would not normally even talk to.

  10. We should recall the warning of the Mesillat Yesharim: How many different kinds of sickness, G-d forbid, is a person prone to, which could make it necessary for him to beg others for help and, for a little relief.

A final thought

Our propensity to be arrogant, even though we have many areas of weakness is reflected in a remarkable teaching but eh 19th century Chasidic tzaddik Rabbi Rafael of Barshad. When I go to the heavenly court, they’ll ask me. Why didn’t you learn more Torah? And I‘ll tell them that I’m slow witted. Then they’ll ask me , Why didn’t you do more for others? And I’ll tell them that I’m physically weak. Then they’ll ask me , Why didn’t you give more to charity? And I’ll tell them that I didn’t have enough money . but then they’ll ask me. If you were so stupid, weak, and poor, why were you so arrogant? And for that, I won’t have an answer.

“Chaos is where things are so complex you can't handle it, and order is where things are so rigid that it's too restrictive. In between that there's a place, a place that's meaningful. Where you're partly stabilized and partly curious and you’re operating in a manner that increases your scope of knowledge, yet at the same time your stabilizing and renewing you, your family, society, nature, now, next week, next month, and next year.”


Rule 5:  Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.  

Rule 6: Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.

Rule 7: Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)

Life is suffering - that’s clear. There is no more basic, irrefutable truth. It’s basically what God tells Adam and Eve , immediately before he kicks them out of Paradise. What in the world should be done about that? The simplest , most obvious , and most direct answer? Pursue pleasure. Follow your impulses. Love for the moment. Do what’s expedient. Lie, cheat, steal deceive, manipulate - but don’t get caught. In an ultimately meaningless universe, what possible difference could it make? The fact of life; tragedy and the suffering that is part of it has been used to justify the pursuit of immediate selfish gratification for a very long time.

The pleasure of expediency may be fleeting, but it’s pleasure, nonetheless, and that’s something to stack up against the terror and pain of existence. . Every man for himself, and the devil take the hindmost, as the old proverb has it. Why not simply take everything you can get, whenever the opportunity arises? Why not determine to live in that manner?

Or is there an alternative, more powerful and more compelling?

A bowl of morals and ethics.

Hold the milk.

Early on in my career, I concluded that we were living in possibly the most remarkable period of Jewish history ever—with Jews situated right in the middle of one of the greatest human civilizational transformations of all time. The vast majority of Jews were living in post-modern civilization—an extraordinarily dynamic and magnetic culture that was sending its messages through an unprecedented number of channels and communications media. American Jews were living in the most open and welcoming society ever—the United States of America. After living for two thousand years behind the shelter of ghetto walls, we were fully integrated now and playing in the major leagues of culture. Unless Judaism could speak persuasively in the presence of the other value systems, unless it could offer a richer life, Jews would assimilate. I wanted to work on making sense of Judaism and demonstrating and advocating for its capacity to enrich life in our society.

He who puts his friend to share publicly … will have no share in the World to Come.

“This is one of the gravest sins a person can commit. The Talmud explains it as morally equivalent to actual murder, pointing out that the humiliated person turns red and then white, as if someone had spilled his blood. A person’s dignity is shattered when he is humiliated in front of other people. If a person misbehaves, it is a mitzva to correct or criticize him… However , the criticism should be  done privately and respectfully so the offender will learn and improve but not be hurt. To criticize and/or shame a person publicly turns the act of chastising into a grave sin, just about the gravest there is (murder of the soul). Consequently, ‘it is better to throw oneself into a flaming oven rather than shame someone publicly.’”

“The act of shaming the friend was masked as a good deed - to rebuke sin or to uphold the public good. But in fact it was an act of character assassination and an assault on the other’s dignity.”

Perek 3 Mishna 11



Participants will be notified by

e-mail of scheduling changes.



7:30-8:30 pm

Shul Kiddush


All are



to the public

at no cost


Parsha of The Week

with Judy Hazan

Join this lively group every Wednesday night at 7:30 PM.

Parsha of the Week is now studying the rest of Tanach.

Classes are informal and no prior knowledge or preparation is required.

No knowledge or Hebrew required.

Judy Hazan 416-704-1693


7-8 pm


Upstairs foyer


Hebrew Classes

with Ayala

Conversational Hebrew classes are ongoing. If you, or someone you know is interested in joining this fun, interactive learning group please contact



8 PM


Kiddush Room

Book Chat

If you haven't attended before, please feel free to join us.  Having read the book is not a prerequisite to come out and enjoy this group, share thoughts and pick up ideas on books you'd like to read.

If interested contact:

June 14, The Break by Vermette.

This is the last meeting before summer break.


Karate lessons

For Seniors

Join us

with open hands

and Kick back!

10 AM

Dojo Lodzer

Upstairs Hall

Shul donations


Kiai - Sen!


Our very own Black belt, David Birken, is leading the class

Wear sneakers and non-restrictive clothing.

Karate for Seniors

Learn a Dynamic new skill for Fun and Focus - at YOUR own pace!

Safe, friendly,
keep fit exercise classes
Build strength and vitality
Learn Self-defense

Morning Minyanaires - developing body, mind and spirit - we daven, fress, sometimes walk, and now… we kick butt.

Karate Kata 1 - Heian Shodan

Karate Kata 2 - Heian Nidan

Karate Kata 3 - Heian Sandan

Karate Kata 4 - Heian Yondan

Focus, Respect, Self-Control

“If you can’t do it slow, you can’t do it fast”

Seniors - Tough as glass



Kiddush lunch

A Code of Jewish Ethics

Jewish thinkers don’t talk all that much about love. All too often they leave that to Christian theologians. But in this excellent volume, Rabbi Joseph Telushkin puts the commandment to love at the center of Jewish theology and experience. This is a book that will change the way you think about–and practice–Judaism.”

Ari L. Goldman

Saturdays after Kiddush Lunch discussion group with Jonathan Usher.

Based on A Code of Jewish Ethics Vol.1 by Rabbi Joseph Telushkin.

Telushkin covers topics such as love and kindness, hospitality, visiting the sick, comforting mourners, charity, relations between Jews and non-Jews, compassion for animals, tolerance, self-defense, and end-of-life issues.

Cemetery plots for sale to members in good standing (three years minimum).

If you are a member (3 years or more) and want to buy a plot, the cost per plot is $2500.

If you know anyone wanting a plot - the person can pay three years' membership dues and then be entitled to buy a plot.

This is an opportunity to purchase before prices increase.


Please consider sponsoring a kiddush, or contributing to the building, programming, or any specific interest fund.


If anyone has tickets for any event that they would like to donate to the shul please let the office know. It is a simple way to raise money for our synagogue so please donate spare tickets and bid generously.

Tree of Life or

Seat Plaques
Remember family and friends by purchasing a leaf on our tree of life or a sanctuary seat plaque.

Lodzer Sisterhood Cookbooks
Great Gifts – just $20 each

Siddur Dedications

As you know, we now use the new-new siddur. For the low-low price of $18 per book these may be dedicated to your loved ones, yourself, family members and as gifts, or simply to support the shul.

Daily Minyan

Sunday – Friday: 9:00 am

Run by Arthur Zins - includes Breakfast following.

Come Daven, Fress & Schmooze,

then join in on a walk.

Saturdays: Shabbat Service

Birkot ha-Shachar 9:12 AM

 - (Led by Frank Steiman)
Yishtabach 9:30 AM

includes Kiddush Luncheon

Chesed Committee

Please call the shul office if you need support or if you know of one of our members who may need support. It remains confidential.


Making a difference

to our shul
As everyone knows, with our shul’s new rabbi and new direction, we are making changes to our services and
programming, and becoming more of a community. The Board discusses procedures and suggested innovations on a monthly basis.
If you have any suggestions please give them, in writing to Sarah, and, if you wish to speak at our monthly Monday night
Board meeting about your ideas, concerns, or interests, again, please let Sarah know.
It is your shul.

We want and need your input.

Want to contact the Rabbi?
Rabbi Eli is eager and very happy to speak to our congregants on a one-on-one basis about personal or shul issues. Please e-mail him at with your phone number and he will call you as soon as possible.


Jeff Shabes, President

Harvey Storm, 1st VP

Judy Hazen, 2nd VP

Morry Nosak, Treasurer

Marilyn Richmond, Secretary

Board Members

Frank Steiman

Henry Epstein

Joe Ber

Leon Pasternak (Honourary)

Rafi Remez

Roz Greene

Syd Markovitz

Rabbi Eli Courante

Cantor David Young

B’aal Koreh:

Harvey Bitterman


Arnie Yudell

Rafi Remez

Shabbat Handout:

Judy Hazan


Charles Greene

Office Manager:

Sarah Senior


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