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What Children Want To Know

·        Allow children to be the teachers about
          their grief experiences.
·        Don't assume every child in a certain age
          group understands death the same way
          or has the same feelings.

·        Don't lie or tell half-truths to children.

·        Encourage children to ask questions
          about death.
·        Don't assume that children grieve in some
          orderly and predictable way.
·        Let children know that you really want to
·        Don't misunderstand what may be a lack
                                                                                            of  feelings on the child's part when a l
                                                                                            loved one dies.

·        Don't forget the concept of magical thinking.

·        Remember that when the child feels relief, it doesn't mean a lack of love on their part.

·        Realize that children's bodies react when they experience grief.

·        Don't feel badly that you can't give children total understanding about religion and death.

·        Keep in mind that grief is complicated.

·        Helping Children Through Grief requires sensitivity, patience, and understanding about what you 
          feel as well.
·        Keep in mind your experiences of highs and lows will be unique.  Don't stuff those feelings.  
          Don't deny those feelings.  If you need to cry -- cry!  If you are laughing -- that's okay -- don't
          stop because of "guilt".