To have and to hold and all that crap.

In a nutshell...

(help i'm in a nutshell! how did i get into this bloody great big nutshell?...)

Jose and I met in January of 2005, through a mutual friend of ours, Eric. Eric was always telling me about this great guy named Hozer (Jose's nickname), who was Eric's then-boss. Finally, when Jose and I both showed up at a bar to hang out with Eric, we met--and once that happened, we talked and flirted for six hours. I had a huge crush on him for a couple of months, but it took awhile (and a lot of rum) before I had the guts to tell him how I felt. Luckily, he felt the same way... We got engaged on June 17, 2007. It was the happiest day of my life. Our wedding will be October 25, 2008 at 7F Lodge in Welborn, TX. It is a beautiful, rustic place, perfect for us.

Hi, clumpy eyelashes...


He picked it out all by himself.  Go Hozer!

It's an asscher-cut diamond with pink sapphires, very unique.  I dig.

More bling:  we just got my wedding band in the mail today. We ordered it from Blue Nile.  I think the band may be too thick, but Jose said I was on crack.  

 Together they look pretty good, but they don't sit flush.  And I'm weird, so it kinda bugs me.  Hopefully I'll get off my anal-retentive horse soon.  It's getting close to the wedding; sue me.


The Wedding

Our venue is 7F Lodge. It's a quaint bed and breakfast that is absolutely private and unexpected. The place has six cabins, all of which have a theme (French chateau, Mexican hacienda, you get the idea...) and in the center of it all is the wedding chapel with antique stained glass windows. We're getting married around sunset, so it'll be filled with candles. 

Our reception site is a few short steps away from the chapel, in the Pavilion.  They recently added a large, covered back porch with ceiling fans, which will help accomodate the over 200 people we'll be feeding/ getting drunk/dancing with. I want the whole feel of the wedding to be rustic charm, country elegance, or some crap like that. Call it what you will--it's a wedding on a nice ranch. There.

The Colors

It's a fall wedding, but I'm not too fond of the brown-rust-red-orange fall theme many brides do.  But I lovelovelove purple.  So I'm going with a dark purple with accents of dark blue and burgundy. (I'm Ron Burgundy?...)

The Invites

I am lucky enough to have a wonderful knottie friend, Neeners (a.k.a. Daipaste), who made my invites for me.  She also made my RSVP cards, which I wanted to personalize and make guests chuckle.   


And in the interest of giving credit where credit is due, I got the idea of an off-beat RSVP card from knottie Salimoo, who had a really cute one.  I didn't copy EXACTLY, per se, but you know.  

Maybe I did, just a little ;-)

The Decor

I'm going to use mason jars, a LOT.  They're pretty inexpensive and go with my rustic theme. 


I also want to use some galvanized buckets here and there, but we'll see.

I bought the guestbook and pen from

The guestbook will have a nameplate with our names and wedding date. 

 The Flowers

All I know is I want farm-fresh flowers in my wedding colors.  Other than that, I gave my florist permission to go ape shit.  I'm going to use mason jars for the centerpieces, like this (I'm obviously talking about the middle picture, smart ass):

For the bouquets I was thinking something like this:


The Dress 

I *finally* bought a dress.  I wasn't sure of the spaghetti straps, but it looks really pretty on.  And I'm going to have them alter the straps to make them thicker.  It's Casablanca, style 1879.




And hey, guess what?  Googlepages is a bitch and won't let me place the images side-by-side.  So, yeah. 

 His Crap

He finally found a tux, from Al's Formal Wear.  It's Perry Ellis, style 25.  He's not wearing a vest at all:

 with this color tie

I did buy him these cufflinks made with vintage maps.  Also from etsy. Yes I have an etsy problem.

The maps are of his hometown and where he grew up.

The Bridesmaids

Clockwise from top left:  Heather (MOH); me and Mandy (BM); Amanda (BM) and me; Jennifer (BM) and me; me (left, lookin' a hot mess) and Mandi (BM, pronounced Mand-Eye)

I love my bridesmaids. They kick 14 kinds of ass. I want them to continue to like me, so the only instructions I'm giving them is to buy this dress, and wear whatever shoes, makeup or hairstyle they choose. I showed them this dress and they dug it, so I figure I'm making things pretty painless for them. The dress will be a dark midnight blue. They'll be carrying bouquets just like mine but smaller.

I am buying them necklaces that are unique to their personalities.  (from Etsy.)


I got my maid of honor a vintage locket from ebay.  Take that, Etsy. 

Frickin' Cute Flower Girls

Jose's twin nieces will be our flower girls.  We found their dresses at Burlington Coat Factory, but damned if I can find a picture.  So I'll post some other cute flower girl dresses instead.


I found a wonderful Knottie, Lindz1414, who makes custom monograms.

She really is a sweetheart, and very talented.  I HIGHLY recommend her.


Hozer's family in Mexico used to keep bees.  So naturally, I want honey as our favor.  However, apparently honey bees are endangered, thus making the price of honey waaaaay too expensive.  So instead...we're getting beer mugs.  Don't know how we made the jump from honey to beer mugs, but whatever.  They have a Ben Franklin quote on them, hopefully people like them.  Cause I don't want 200 of these things in my house.  (and hey, if people don't like them, we still gave them an open bar and prime rib.  so they can suck it.)

The Cake

I have had my cake tasting, and we decided on a Mexican vanilla cake with raspberry filling and lemon buttercream icing. I gave the cake lady a picture of this one (from the knot galleries), hopefully it'll look similar:


I bought this cake topper:

It works, cause I tend to fall down a lot, and he's always helping me up.

Jose is getting a groom's cake (we are in the South, after all).  He decided to get it in the shape of a Mayan ruin, like this one: 


 His will be chocolate cake with a cream cheese icing.  He also wanted blue bodies and heads rolling down the cake but I convinced him that sacrifices aren't appetizing.

Photographer and Bridal Pics

At our coordinator's suggestion, we decided to go with Keepsake Foto.  It's a husband-and-wife team, and we've met with the husband, who seems pretty cool.  If you want, you can check out the website HERE.

I had my bridal portraits taken in downtown Bryan, Texas.  I like a handful of them, but that's about it.  The rest are bad for my self-esteem.


Details, Details...

I'd really like my accessories to be purple.  As I've mentioned, I kinda love that color.  So I got this dandy little clutch from ebay seller closet affair:

I also bought these wonderful dye-to-match shoes from Colorful Creations. Yeah, I know, dye-to-match is kinda 80s, but I had a hell of a time finding purple shoes that I liked and that fit.<----- "yeah mom, those bring out your cankles nicely..."

 And I'll probably switch into these when my feet get tired.  They'll have purple ribbon instead of white (found at the wonderful etsy).

Hair jewelry:

I got six of these bad boys from ebay for $9.50.  The ridiculous thing is that shipping was $6. 

I also wanted purple earrings.  I worked with Linda Davis of Linda Davis Designs on custom earrings, and I love how they turned out.

They're basically grape clusters in two shades of purple and some clear:

These are the true colors:

I do recommend her, she's very sweet and does great work.  Plus, I love that I have one-of-a-kind earrings.   I probably won't wear them for the ceremony, but I'll be wearing them for the reception.

My garter is my "something blue."  I ordered one from Ebay, then found one on Etsy that I dug, so I now have two garters (or three, counting the "toss" one from ebay):

the ebay one.  I'll toss one of them.


the etsy one, that I'll wear and keep.

As far as the veil goes--I'm not a fan of them.  However, my mom thinks it's weird for a bride to NOT wear a veil, so I humored her and got a sheer one.  I ordered a 65" 1-tiered (drop) veil from  It will look similar to this:

and have this edging

 And here it is:

Wedding Music

Ceremony Music: 

Bridesmaids' and bride's processional:  Kathy's Song, by Simon and Garfunkel

Reception Music:

Entrance:  Sabotage (Beastie Boys)

First Dance: That's How Strong My Love Is (Otis Redding)

Daddy-Daughter Dance:  My Girl (The Temptations)

Mother-Son Dance:  Danny's Song (Anne Murray)

Garter toss:  Just a Gigalo (David Lee Roth)

Bouquet toss:  Sex and the City theme

Cake cutting:  Grow Old with You (Adam Sandler)

Money Dance (yes, Aggies are cool with it):  Gimme Some Money (Spinal Tap)

Last Song:  You Never Can Tell (Chuck Berry)

Lots more:  The Eagles, Stevie Wonder, John Lennon, Stevie Knicks, Laryn Hill, Madonna, Styx...


We'll be taking a seven-day cruise out of Galveston to Cozumel, Jamaica and Grand Cayman.  Being the pimps we are, we also scored the penthouse suite! Awesome.

         This is a total crap picture, but it's all I got.

Da Babies


Bridget Jones, our newest one.  She can get away with murder.  Spoiled ROTTEN.

Chandler Bing, my cat.  He's neurotic, but he's cute, so it evens out.

   Dixie, Hozer's dog of 15 years. Still feisty! We love her.

Our House

We love our house.  It's a great place to live in sin.  And there's plenty of room for our family to grow.

...and that's all I got.  Thanks for looking!

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