Dale Carnegie

  • “It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
  • “Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.”
  • “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
  • “Success is getting what you want..
    Happiness is wanting what you get.”
  • “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”
  • “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”
  • “Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. ”
  • “If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don't want to be. ”
  • “When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.”
  • “People rarely succeed unless they have
    fun in what they are doing.”
  • “Knowledge isn’t power until it is applied.”
  • “You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.”
  • “One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.”
  • “Even god doesn't propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?”
  • “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
  • oughts make us what we are.”
  • “Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
  • “No matter what happens, always be yourself.”
  • “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”
  • “Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so.”
  • “If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.”
  • “Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.”
  • “Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.”
  • “One of the tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”
  • “Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation, for your character is what you are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
  • “Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little".”
  • “When fate hands you lemons, make lemonade.”
  • “...the best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.”
  • “Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession.”
  • “The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.”
  • “The expression one wears on one's face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one's back.”
  • “Everybody in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.”
  • “You can sing only what you are. You can paint only what you are. You must be what your experiences, your environment, and your heredity have made you. For better or for worse, you must play your own little instrument in the orchestra of life.”
  • “Always have something to say. The man who has something to say and who is known never to speak unless he has, is sure to be listened to.
  • “Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.”
  • “If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work in the world has been done against seeming impossibilities.”
  • “there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it .”
  • “you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry”
  • “Let's find and remedy all our weaknesses before our enemies get a chance to say a word. That is what Charles Darwin did. ...When Darwin completed the manuscript of his immortal book "The Origin Of Species" he realized that the publication of his revolutionary concept of creation would rock the intellectual and religious worlds. So he became his own critic and spent another 15 years checking his data, challenging his reasoning, and criticizing his conclusions.”
  • “Two men looked out from prison bars,
    One saw the mud, the other saw stars.”
  • “Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn't you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn't most of them turn out all right after all?”
  • “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”
  • “Nobody kicks a dead dog”
  • “Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt
    ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never
    waste a minute thinking about people we don't like.”
  • “A good deed, "said the prophet Mohammed, "is one that brings a smile of joy to the face of another."
    Why will doing a good deed every day produce such astounding efforts on the doer?
    Because trying to please others will cause us to stop thinking of ourselves: the very
    thing that produces worry and fear and melancholia.”
  • “A man convinced against his will Is of the same opinion still.”
  • “That is the way Emerson said it. But here is the way a poet -the late Douglas Mallochsaid
    If you can't be a pine on the top of the hill.
    Be a scrub in the valley-but be
    The best little scrub by the side of the rill;
    Be a bush, if you can't be a tree.
    If you can't be a bush, be a bit of the grass.
    If you can't be a muskie, then just be a bass-
    But the liveliest bass in the lake!
    We can't all be captains, we've got to be crew.
    There's something for all of us here.
    There's big work to do and there's lesser to do
    And the task we must do is the near.
    If you can't be a highway, then just be a trail,
    If you can't be the sun, be a star;
    It isn't by the size that you win or you fail-

    Be the best of whatever you are!”
  • “When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary." If there is some point you haven't thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention.”
  • “If you want to be enthusiastic,
    act enthusiastic.”
  • “When I asked him -Mr.Henry Ford- if he ever worried, he replied: "No. I believe God is managing affairs and that He doesn't need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe that every-thing will work out for the best in the end.
    So what is there to worry about?”
  • “Personally I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn't bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper in front of the fish and said: "Wouldn't you like to have that?"
    Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?”
  • “The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus. And I put them in a book. If you don't like their rules, whose would you use?
  • “Thomas Edison said in all
    seriousness: "There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the labour of
    thinking"-if we bother with facts at all, we hunt like bird dogs after the facts that
    bolster up what we already think-and ignore all the others! We want only the facts that
    justify our acts-the facts that fit in conveniently with our wishful thinking and justify
    our preconceived prejudices!
    As Andre Maurois put it: "Everything that is in agreement with our personal desires
    seems true. Everything that is not puts us into a rage."
    Is it any wonder, then, that we find it so hard to get at the answers to our problems?
    Wouldn't we have the same trouble trying to solve a second-grade arithmetic problem, if
    we went ahead on the assumption that two plus two equals five? Yet there are a lot of
    people in this world who make life a hell for themselves and others by insisting that two
    plus two equals five-or maybe five hundred!”
  • “Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.”
  • “The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another's keeping.”
  • “If You Want to Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive”
  • “if you want to keep happiness , you have to share it !”
  • “First ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst.
  • “Think of your life as an hourglass. You know there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass; and they all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck in the middle. Nothing you or I could do would make more than one grain of sand pass through this narrow neck without impairing the hourglass. You and I and everyone else are like this hourglass...if we do not take [tasks] one at a time and let them pass...slowly and evenly, then we are bound to break our own...structure.”
  • “If You Have A Lemon, Make A Lemonade

    That is what a great educator does. But the fool does the exact opposite. If he finds
    that life has handed him a lemon, he gives up and says: "I'm beaten. It is fate. I haven't
    got a chance." Then he proceeds to rail against the world and indulge in an orgy of selfpity.
    But when the wise man is handed a lemon, he says: "What lesson can I learn from
    this misfortune? How can I improve my situation? How can I turn this lemon into a
  • “When the friendly jailer gave Socrates the poison cup to drink, the jailer said: "Try to
    bear lightly what needs must be." Socrates did. He faced death with a calmness and
    resignation that touched the hem of divinity.”
  • “arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”
  • “Monotony reveals our limitations.”
  • “The successful man will profit from his mistakes and
    try again in a different way.
  • “Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.”
  • “There are always three speeches, for every one you actually gave. The one you practiced, the one you gave, and the one you wish you gave.”
  • “Always avoid the acute angle.”
  • “Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”
  • Each nation feels superior to other nations. That breeds to patriotism - and wars.