What's in a name? What's the big idea in name-calling? Here's my humble attempt to explain. This adage from the mid 19th century has been used as a self-help mantra to aid children being bullied in one form or another. Although its use is most widely known in nursery rhymes, I believe it still applies to that of the adolescent and adult.

Let's look at this for a moment. How many of you would happily accept a beating that resulted in a broken bone over the nasty things that have been said to your face or behind your back? Let's take it a step further. How many times have you been the offender and done the very thing which breaks your heart?

So...let's rephrase this Old English expression.

“Sticks and stones may or may not break your bones, but words REALLY hurt!”

Be mindful of the words you speak to those whom you love. More especially, choose your words carefully at all times. Once they're out there...they're out!

--Dr. Michael Pilcher is Founder and Counselor at Thriveworks Knoxville Counseling